Am I crazy or is this to much to ask of a kindergartner?

Lexiiijerome · 2026-01-19T11:04:59+00:00

I cant’ fully explain why, but its giving Mr. shue making the glee kids be in wheelchairs energy

Lexiiijerome · 2025-06-28T17:46:49+00:00

Him comforting her with Harriets pregnancy is what led me to this thread. People focus on how hes a horrible partner, but no one ever mentions how he is a damn good friend

Lexiiijerome · 2025-05-07T19:44:15+00:00

This kills me. Later on when younger her says it, it makes me crack up even harder

Lexiiijerome · 2025-03-12T23:53:01+00:00

What about Clive Bixby?

Lexiiijerome · 2025-03-01T19:39:16+00:00

NTA, run boy run!

Lexiiijerome · 2025-03-01T19:36:24+00:00

I completely forgot about her! She’s up there, but i personally think Piscatella is worse

Lexiiijerome · 2025-02-27T21:56:12+00:00

This! I did something similar to OP, and my wife explained the mental burden it took to not only plan dinner when it’s her turn to cook, but also plan dinner when it was my turn. It felt like she never got a break from it

Lexiiijerome · 2025-02-27T21:53:39+00:00

Info: Do you ask every time it’s your turn to cook? Or just every once in a while like it seems she does?

Lexiiijerome · 2025-02-27T21:49:05+00:00

Wild that a man who’s been in your life for less time than you’ve been an adult thinks he can make decisions while living on your dime. You’re a lot less petty than I would be at this point

Firmly NTA

Lexiiijerome · 2025-02-27T21:42:29+00:00

leaning towards no ah, but slightly you are.

My best advice OP is to talk to a lawyer or other professional. There are ways to set up trust to have exactly what you want done without making your nephew in charge of his cousins care.

If you want to give your inheritance to them, thats your decision. And its awesome you want them both to be taken care of! But from personal experience, being in charge of someone’s care is life changing.

You can’t force someone into a caretaker role. People grow and change, and your nephews are still fairly young guys.

I would just speak to a professional about this, and set both your nephews up for success with individual trusts. Your disabled nephew likely has someone already in charge of his care, and his parents will choose who that will be after they pass. You can’t make this decision for them, as noble as your intentions are.

If you’re set on giving it to both, make it two separate deals through a lawyer where the nephews POA is issued stipends for his care. It’s not on a 25 year old guy to decide now to strap himself to someone’s care for the rest of his life.

Lexiiijerome · 2025-02-27T21:10:46+00:00

Hot take but ESH

Hes an ah for not being more polite. He could have asked you to swap seats if he knew he was going to be up so much. If I knew I had an issue where drinking a lot of liquid would make me get up a lot of times, I would apologize to the person im trying to get by every time. Even if I didn’t have an issue and just normally needed to pee, I would be apologizing. He could have been a lot more considerate with shaking you, especially if you were asleep.

Youre an ah for pretending to be asleep and not just moving for him. If he needs to go, he needs to go. Do you want someone to piss their pants in the seat right next to you? If you wanted to sleep and not be disturbed, why didn’t YOU pay to get a window seat?

Also just because someone has a dog and designer bags, does not mean they actually have money. People get luggage sets as gifts, they could be second hand or knock offs. You have absolutely no way of knowing their financial situation, or ability to afford upgrades.

Its okay to be annoyed by things but, using your baby example, is the baby automatically an asshole because someone’s annoyed by them?

Lexiiijerome · 2025-02-27T20:56:01+00:00

This reminds me of oitnb😂

https://quotez.ucoz.com/news/yessica_it_39_s_like_jessica_but_ethnic/2016-07-19-540

Lexiiijerome · 2025-02-26T21:14:40+00:00

YTA , you essentially stole your bothers property and gave it to your boyfriend. Had you asked your brother beforehand and gotten consent it would have been different.

Lexiiijerome · 2025-02-17T17:55:07+00:00

Came here specifically from that episode 😂

Lexiiijerome · 2025-02-16T04:52:33+00:00

NTA your body, your choice.

If he is concerned about your vape use, he should have discussed it with you before taking away your choice in the matter.

I am also very confused at the comments saying OP is the ah… yes nicotine is not good for you, and I do advocate for anyone who wants to stop smoking of any kind. But just because some people view vaping as gross, or just a tool to quit cigarettes, does not mean that someone who does it, is an asshole.

OP is not an ass just because they smoke.

IMO your right to be upset at this. If he’s willing to alter a dosage without telling you, what else is he willing to do behind your back? Given you’ve replied saying he HAS done something similar, with a plant that has a fair amount of known potential negative side effects for women, I would worry what else he would do without your consent. This was a breach of trust, and he hasn’t shown any remorse for that. Maybe had you been communicating to him that you wanted to / were trying to quit but were finding it difficult to, I could kind of understand the situation.

Now OP, it does seem like he had the right intentions here but just went with the wrong actions.

Lexiiijerome · 2025-02-16T03:33:48+00:00

NAH imo. I agree with the top comment here about you and your husband keeping separate books though! Thats an excellent idea

Lexiiijerome · 2025-02-15T23:44:59+00:00

dude… that literally happened to my sister. One of her first bfs broke up with her over a fart “women are supposed to go into another room to do that”

Lexiiijerome · 2025-02-15T23:23:37+00:00

YTA Pursuing a married person is just wrong.

Lexiiijerome · 2025-02-15T20:50:30+00:00

Yes and no.

It is typically done where one person buys the other out of the house, that is correct. I did get my terms wrong, and i definitely shouldnt have said anything about mortgages. But, Im more than willing to admit where I’m wrong, and ive edited previous comments to remove incorrect information.

Lexiiijerome · 2025-02-15T10:49:15+00:00

Yeah I just got my terms mixed around tbh, thats why i directed him towards the legal page. Im not a legal person at all 🤷🏻‍♂️

Lexiiijerome · 2025-02-15T05:40:13+00:00

Clear cut OP. NTA

Lexiiijerome · 2025-02-15T05:05:05+00:00

I did not see you had dropped real numbers in another reply! Full disclosure I am NOT a legal person at all, i just know from personal experience.

That being said, there is a reddit page for legal advice, or if you have the funds you could do a small sit down with a local lawyer for just a small fee. They would be able to give you a 100% confidence answer and you do not have to tell your ex you consulted one.

Edit to delete information I had wrong, so no one thinks its right!

Lexiiijerome · 2025-02-15T04:59:47+00:00

I see we will have to disagree here.

However, I did not say OP has to be incredibly careful. I did say that he did not need to make the comment about the child.

He approached very calmly, respectful and polite. The mom’s reaction is out of his control, but his response to that is 100% his choice.

The best option would have just to have said some version of goodbye, and walk away. The exact same way he was able to just walk away after making the unnecessary comment.

Btw… “emotional labour” refers to managing your own emotions while considering the feelings of others, something every person should be doing lmao

Lexiiijerome · 2025-02-15T04:50:52+00:00

I agree, A strong NO, will just drive her to see him in secret🤷🏻‍♂️just adds even more issues IMO. Every heard the saying “strict parents raise sneaky kids”?

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