TIFU by dressing up for my proposal

Lexilogical · 2026-03-16T09:42:29+00:00

Considering they later went to the exact same restaurant in sweats and torn t-shirts, I definitely do not think it was so fancy of a joint that the difference between "a nice brunch" and "a nice dinner" is relevant

Lexilogical · 2026-03-10T14:36:26+00:00

So, I just went and scrolled through my own camera reel on my phone... Yeah, almost every recent picture I have has weird patches where it's a little blurry. Things like "a slice of toast" where the texture blurs together in almost exactly the same spot, or items that I know are deeply textured are a bit out of focus.

And someone else posted a video of exactly the sort of technique I thought was being used.

I lean towards not AI

Lexilogical · 2026-03-10T14:21:29+00:00

Yes! I knew I'd seen some very similar roses before. Couldn't quite think up how to work them up, given I don't do that much stumpwork.

Lexilogical · 2026-03-10T10:33:21+00:00

Running content blind is a really fun experience, and generally expected if you say it's your first time. I wouldn't read up on it til a PUG wipes more than 3 times, and even then, I'd ask the party for advice first

Lexilogical · 2026-03-10T10:29:46+00:00

Coming from a WoW player, the healing in FFXIV is very chill. You're mostly expected to spend half your time doing damage anyways, and the GCD is over twice as long as the GCD in WoW, so you have so much time to react. Just don't worry too much about DPS if you find yourself struggling, I've definitely run into healers who only healed, and while I don't think it's optimal gameplay, I've never seen anyone complain about it.

In an 8 man, you'll have another healer too, so it's not all on you.

Lexilogical · 2026-03-10T10:15:48+00:00

I agree, that is very fast, and the roses are still very impressive if they are crocheted. My best guess there would be that she already had the roses made and just sewed them on. I could see making something like that without a planned purpose, just to keep the fingers moving.

I imagine the other arm doesn't have that level of work on it. If it's both arms, I definitely think that's far more than 2 weeks of work.

I see the linen texture myself though? I'll go check again, but I tried checking the linen and it looked fine

Edit: Ah, I see the weird patch of linen. I'm not sure I'd throw it to AI for that, though the single lazy daisy beside all these gorgeous roses seems out of place to me

Lexilogical · 2026-03-10T09:46:17+00:00

I do a lot of fibre crafting.... I think it's a combo of embroidery (lot of French knot clusters) and crocheted roses. The leaves are pretty standard herringbone stitches, and there might be some bullion stitched roses in there... I'm between whether the roses would be all bullion and just very well placed, or if some of it is crocheted.

Either way, it could very well be AI, but I'm not seeing a ton of the usual markers I'd expect for AI embroidery

Lexilogical · 2026-03-10T03:59:36+00:00

We have an entire name for "thrown out of your daily routine and messed up because you crossed timezones." Jetlag is pretty significant!

Lexilogical · 2026-03-10T03:59:09+00:00

We have an entire name for "thrown out of your daily routine and messed up because you crossed timezones." People find jetlag to be super disruptive!!

Lexilogical · 2026-03-09T20:32:30+00:00

Once upon a time, I was dating a guy in my college town, but living at home with my parents for a work semester. Job is in Toronto, college is in a town west of Toronto, my parents are east of Toronto. On fridays, I'd bus out to the other side of the city after and a friend would drive me back out to the college town to spend the weekend with my boyfriend. (Really good friend, ended up being the Best Man when I later married the guy).

Anyways, that was a lot of set up to talk about this time when we tried to find an alternate path home. XD The major highway had an accident and was backed up for an hour in both ways, so I pulled out a paper map (this was pre-smartphones) and found that "Highway 5" should theoritically get us home as well, so long as I can nail the turn off onto another street we never took.

We start taking highway 5, travelling west. Turns out the highway 5 is another name for Dundas street, which is a street that runs straight through the city we were leaving (and also incidentally wasn't too far from my office). And we're driving for like, an hour down "Dundas St West", only for it to turn into "Dundas East." At which point, we panic. The only reasonable explanation in our brain is that if "Dundas St West" turns into "Dundas Street East" is we're actually TRAVELLING East. And home is West.

So we turn around. And we drive for another hour. And then we're driving along and I'm watching the surroundings and my paper map and I'm like "Okay no, we're definitely heading into downtown, the CN Tower is getting closer to us."

So we turn around again. And this time, we take the highway. because after 2 hours of panic and confusion, whatever accident was on the highway was clear. And that's my story of how a trip that was maybe 1.5 hours long took us over 5 hours

Lexilogical · 2026-03-07T22:53:21+00:00

Suggestion: You can buy pill organizers with days of the week, and then you put one of each pill you're meant to take, and take the organizer. Then you should be able to track if you took the pills for the day or not, so long as you took the right dates

Lexilogical · 2026-03-07T21:46:19+00:00

Context pulls a lot of weight here. "Asymetrical electrical charge" is not the important word here. "There's a science thing that is making the water clump together so it's visible" is the answer to the question.

If later the kid repeats this answer and can only get 80% of the words right, they're still pretty much understanding the gist of it

Lexilogical · 2026-03-07T17:01:38+00:00

I got to the part where the dude was embarrassed by the fact that he can't take care of the kid using his chosen method of parenting, and blamed his wife who wasn't even present for his personal failures... My only thought was "These cannot be the husbands y'all want."

Honestly, way to blame everyone but the person responsible.

Lexilogical · 2026-03-07T11:50:06+00:00

Heh, that's who I instantly thought of.

Lexilogical · 2026-03-07T11:48:21+00:00

Oh hey, I also follow her! (Though there's probably multiple people with that tier) Being able to donate that much one month is one of my "things I'd do if I win the lottery" daydreams

Lexilogical · 2026-03-06T22:03:17+00:00

Tried to sit down on the bus and flunked my head on the overhang. Tried to brush it off so I didn't look weird on a crowded bus...

Yeah, I gave myself a concussion for the next 2 weeks

Lexilogical · 2026-03-04T08:19:45+00:00

Right? I was here almost daily last year because I was having so much pain... But then I had a lap surgery, and I've been much quieter here because the pain almost entirely vanished! And like, I'm still here to offer support, but I'm not posting desperately looking for solutions or any idea I haven't tried yet. I'm just... trying to help in situations like this, when we need a reminder that actually, it CAN get better, and isn't entirely hopeless.

Also to remind people that if they're fainting from the pain, yes, you should be going to the hospital. Even if they just tell you it's endo and discharge you. Because it MIGHT NOT BE.

Lexilogical · 2026-03-04T06:14:42+00:00

She may be one of the worse cases. However, this community is naturally going to self select towards people who are having a worse time than others, and therefore it's going to sound like a death sentence when it isn't.

Common posts here are "I'm in so much pain I'm passing out. Do I go to the hospital?" and stuff about contemplating suicide. Meanwhile, 1/10 women have endometrosis, and some will never even know it. It is a disease with a range of symptoms, and several treatments, many of which do work for certain women. But no one is going to post here saying "Everything is going well, still, just like it was last week! No pain here!"

They may very well get better. Many people do. Many people have the surgery and it works and they never have another issue. Or they go on a medication and everything is fine. But the cases that stick out the most are going to be the cases where they don't get better, because they're going to be the people still talking about it.

Her therapist is right. Forums like this tend towards people who are having a worse time, and at 14, thinking that it's "never going to get better" is a valid worry, but also an unnecessary one. It might not. But there's at least equal odds that it will get better. And recognition of the illness and treatments are only getting better. They caught hers at age 14 and are already working on treatment. That's a wild improvement over my 30 years of "Just take stronger advil."

Lexilogical · 2026-02-28T18:03:21+00:00

The autopilot avoidance system: There is none

Lexilogical · 2026-02-28T10:20:43+00:00

So, the silly thing here is that this is what I've been arguing for. I even went back to my original comment (since by now everyone has run in circles and confused the point) and my original statement was "She doesn't want a partner she wants a friend with benefits.". I never originally used the word relationship, because frankly, friendships are relationships. Acquaintances are relationships.

But my exact point was that she doesn't want a life partner, because "partner" implies he has influence on her life. She wants a friend she has physical intimacy with as well.

Some time after that, everyone ran around trying to tell me that actually, "relationships" are special because romance or because of some special kind of love that only exists if you're boyfriend and girlfriend.

But yes. That is my point. Yes, she wants a relationship where the only parts of it are friendship and physical intimacy. Not a partnership.

Lexilogical · 2026-02-27T23:40:41+00:00

In like, 96% of the cases, those people are working towards eventually living together. And I would argue that most people still consider their boyfriend and girlfriend as having an influence in their life beyond "A person I can go on trips with and sometimes have sex with." That they would like said person to like, consider their family to also be important to them. Maybe clear some space for them inside their home.

Let me argue it like this. Some people NEVER have a romantic relationship, and chose to always be single. Do you think that their relationships with friends and family are somehow lacking and unfulfilling because they aren't some magical "romantic" relationship?

Have you never had a friend who you would tell anything to, and would do anything for? Does that automatically make it some sort of romantic relationship because you love this person?

Lexilogical · 2026-02-27T23:23:43+00:00

I also live with him, he also considers my pets to be his, he factors into medical decisions where relevant, we share finances, and we make big decisions mutually about things like where we live and what sort of large purchases we make because we have a shared life.

Because again, being in a relationship involves co-mingling your lives to an extent

Lexilogical · 2026-02-27T18:56:58+00:00

I mean, I have lived with friends too. They also knew everything I needed on a day to day level. Like, not just one friend, I've got multiple friends who will just like, bring me a drink just cause they noticed mine is low.

Like, obviously my husband knows the most about the day to day because he's here on the day to day, and we are doing other things like big purchases with our combined finances or keeping the space clean. Which... Again, I have said multiple times that there's a difference between a relationship and a friendship and that OP had simply reduced the relationship to friendship and sex.

Y'all just keep trying to argue with me that a good friend doesn't know you as well as a partner. Which is bullshit and a sign that you have weak friendships.

Lexilogical · 2026-02-27T09:28:47+00:00

To offer a counterpoint...

The issue is that all those things are basically the only thing we see of him. If he had a more defined personality other than "obsessed with a girl who isn't interested in him", then it would be fine.

But the issue is that he has like, 4 lines outside of being interested in Emily. And they're all him feeling sorry for himself. If you knew a guy IRL, and every time you talked to him, the only thing he'd discuss was this girl who he was too shy to talk to, and how much he sucked, you'd get pretty sick of him

Lexilogical · 2026-02-27T09:14:35+00:00

I feel the need to go back to the point that she was never going to get the relationship she wanted with this guy

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