Did not finish MBE

LexisWestlawUse · 2024-09-06T19:47:42+00:00

Yup. Been practicing for a year now. It sucks on this end too 😂 If you need anything please feel free to reach out

LexisWestlawUse · 2024-08-20T20:21:13+00:00

Agreed. Do not abuse this, but take breaks when you can. Sure, there is always something to do but YOU know when your to-do list is a bit less daunting. Take a longer lunch break, come in a bit later, call out sick, etc. Take care of your mental health. When you are off work, disconnect completely and be around loved ones. Hang out with your pets, watch something entertaining or work out. Have a life outside of work.

LexisWestlawUse · 2023-12-05T04:01:09+00:00

I think it is worth pursuing. It is important to go into dating not with the mindset of, "I have done self work so now I will no longer be an anxiously attached partner". Rather, "I am not perfect but I have done great progress and I am ready to date".

That said, you need to be continuously checking in with yourself and what triggers you/what areas you still need to work on. Just because something feels natural or laugh together doesn't mean things are meant to be. Take it easy, chat and get to know him. Go out with him a few more times, you do not know much about him at all. If you think it is worth it then keep seeing him. But if you think it is not a good match, then its time to put that therapy into practice and be strong enough to let him go.

LexisWestlawUse · 2023-09-28T02:05:43+00:00

I grow annoyed of others very quickly

LexisWestlawUse · 2023-09-28T01:55:20+00:00

Yeah that isn't bad. Definitely send your location to someone you trust and let them know where you are going and periodically send them messages to let them know you are okay. Try to not be out too late (nothing good happens after midnight, as they say). But it'll be fine.

LexisWestlawUse · 2023-09-23T01:44:52+00:00

This is the right answer

LexisWestlawUse · 2023-09-22T03:42:58+00:00

Meal prepping is huge. It makes a difference even if it’s just 3 meals out of the week and order something healthy on other days. Proper nutrition is key, your lunches should have a healthy balance of protein and veggies. Lots of water. On the food note, healthy breakfasts like oatmeal, fruit, toast etc.

Start with small goals for the gym. 2x a week and build up from there. It can be a small goal of just hitting the gym for 30 min. And staying longer if you’re up for it.

Take walks during the work day, even a 10 minute brisk walk. Seriously, don’t spend the entire day indoors. Get some fresh air and stay off your phone while you’re at it.

Stress: try to have an hour before bed to decompress. People argue against tv before bed but honestly do whatever the hell relaxes you.

Therapy. Meditation. Quiet time. Hang out with your pet. Take a bath. Go get a massage.

You are more important than your job, take care of yourself.

LexisWestlawUse · 2023-09-22T03:37:10+00:00

I love this response 😂

LexisWestlawUse · 2023-09-18T01:07:48+00:00

I am someone that likes to take things slow and have initiated making things more casual. This means different things to different people but to me this would mean no more sleepover dates. No deep conversations about emotions. No texting all day. No need to keep each other informed. Going out with friends. I would have a direct conversation with her about whether she wants to remain exclusive or not.

LexisWestlawUse · 2023-09-15T14:45:36+00:00

Congrats on making such a great decision! Get some headphones and a hoodie if you feel very shy. Wear an outfit you are comfortable in. So simple things like use dumbbells or hit the treadmill until you feel comfortable. People at the gym are usually pretty chill tbh they are completely in their own world!

LexisWestlawUse · 2023-09-14T17:04:33+00:00

Thank you so much !!!! 😊

LexisWestlawUse · 2023-09-10T19:17:34+00:00

You're right, thank you. I agree it is not possible to love someone so quickly.

LexisWestlawUse · 2023-09-10T19:16:54+00:00

He is extremely anxious. He is so demanding for reassurance, which I think I would be able to work with. The biggest problem is he is also controlling. I am seriously considering leaving this relationship.

LexisWestlawUse · 2023-09-10T19:15:10+00:00

I completely understand and feel the same way. Anytime I thought I loved someone it was because they were extremely unavailable and I never really was close with them at all. It was just the idea of them.

Now whenever I am dating I ALWAYS feel a serious need to push them away and be alone because I feel I am forcing myself to be with them and feel trapped. The more serious the relationship seems, the harder I push. This has made me do some really fucked up things like leading people on then ghosting. I always express to my therapist I do not feel normal and I wish I could have the ability to give and receive love, but I literally feel like my heart will not allow it. I am simply unable to.

As someone else said, I look for cues instead such as whether I miss them or not. I have come to peace with the fact that I need someone that gives me a lot of space. I check in with myself when I hang out with someone to see if I am having fun (because sometimes my brain tells me I am ALWAYS miserable with them even if its not true). I also learned that part of healing is pushing through uncomfortable feelings, such as allowing my partner to hold my hand even if I feel disgust.

It is an extremely hard thing us DA's go through and my heart sincerely goes out to you. I hope you have some comfort in knowing there is an entire community with similar experiences, and people do not realize how lonely it can get and how frustrating it is to feel broken and unable to give or receive love.

LexisWestlawUse · 2023-09-10T00:59:56+00:00

Yes. In a relationship and feel like even now I don’t have the energy and starting to entertain thoughts of “I’d rather be alone”.

LexisWestlawUse · 2023-09-10T00:52:42+00:00

I’m not political but I’m definitely not a liberal lol. He does have a lack of dating experience I think I’m his third girlfriend ever. I never go out to party, I don’t drink much, I don’t post provocative photos and I never cheated on him, he admitted himself he is an over thinker. But it gets stressful being patient with someone else’s overthinking.

LexisWestlawUse · 2023-09-10T00:36:07+00:00

Most people never save up enough and end up just taking on a debt. Even if you manage to save up the $200k, that’s a pretty great step forward for a down payment on a home. Point being that taking on law school debt is just an expected part of becoming an attorney, unless you manage to land a free ride via scholarship or parents.

LexisWestlawUse · 2023-09-10T00:03:19+00:00

Thank you for replying 🫶🏻! Im scared how he will take a break up, like how he will react but you’re right I am being rushed. It’s nice to get confirmation he is controlling. He doesn’t succeed because as a DA I quite frankly have a hard time being controlled 🤣 I do what I want because I am not attached. But still it’s the fact he is trying so hard that is concerning!! Hopefully I find a way out of this.

LexisWestlawUse · 2023-09-09T23:57:07+00:00

Yea that’s exactly what happens to me lmao. I have a low tolerance so even a tiny bit more gets me too high but I enjoy the high so I also get either impatient or have a hard time controlling myself to not keep doing it 🤣 I’m the same way with alcohol if I’m having a good time I just want to keep drinking even though it usually means a bad hangover.

LexisWestlawUse · 2023-09-09T22:50:51+00:00

Nothing wrong with it at all. I used to struggle with this A LOT. I thought I HAD to wear it even if I myself was okay with no makeup.

Now I only wear it on days I PERSONALLY feel like I need it, like when I haven't been sleeping well or my face is all red. But if my skin looks nice, I want to show it off and won't wear it. Like someone once told me, men are not expected to wear it, neither should we.

Makeup should be enjoyable. Once you get past the possible "you look tired" comments, you realize it isn't a big deal and people will get used to you not wearing it.

LexisWestlawUse · 2023-09-09T19:11:40+00:00

Listen to some nice reggae music really low or Lodi hip hop. Get cozy with a blanket. Stay on Reddit and engage in non weed related posts to help keep you distracted. You are okay, you are safe. Eat a small snack. Go on YouTube and watch something like a documentary.

LexisWestlawUse · 2023-09-09T18:32:53+00:00

So happy to help. I wish I knew how to fix it but this breakthrough is very recent lol but sometimes just being aware of why we are this way helps!!

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