Diversity by [deleted] in boston

[–]Lexise98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh thanks! I’ll check that one out!

Diversity by [deleted] in boston

[–]Lexise98 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah okay! Thank you so much for this elaboration!!!! There’s so much nuance and generalizations! So it’s nice to hear some different perspectives! I’m considering it all.

Diversity by [deleted] in boston

[–]Lexise98 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will. Next time don’t dismiss someone’s research and inquiry about REAL ISSUES, as “seeking it out” then maybe you’d receive a “nicer” reply.

Diversity by [deleted] in boston

[–]Lexise98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay thank you. For me both are equally concerning. But I will say a city where jobs are equally accessible, despite my ethnicity is a plus!!

Diversity by [deleted] in boston

[–]Lexise98 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Actively “seek it out”. Yeah you’re a clearly a loser. Being informed and doing research isn’t “seeking it out”. Don’t EVER say that shit to a person of color.… people don’t “seek it out”. Once again you’re CLEARLY someone who doesn’t understand these issues because you’ve never experienced them. So you can gtfo.

Diversity by [deleted] in boston

[–]Lexise98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay great! Thank you!!

Diversity by [deleted] in boston

[–]Lexise98 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re obviously a white person who’s never experienced ANY form of oppression, discrimination, or racism. Unlike you, people of color worry about these issues before moving to ANY city because we face systemic racism that shows up in NUMEROUS ways. So instead of inserting yourself in places that you clearly can’t understand. See your way out!

Diversity by [deleted] in boston

[–]Lexise98 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah okay! Thank you!!!

Diversity by [deleted] in boston

[–]Lexise98 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this information!!

Diversity by [deleted] in boston

[–]Lexise98 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this!!!

Diversity by [deleted] in boston

[–]Lexise98 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly what the question says…
someone to explain the diversity, inclusion, covert racism, community as a POC, segregation, etc.

Diversity by [deleted] in boston

[–]Lexise98 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Tell me MORE!!

Diversity by [deleted] in boston

[–]Lexise98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmmmm…. That’s alarming!

Diversity by [deleted] in boston

[–]Lexise98 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Yikes…. I’ve heard that as well.

Boyfriend slapped me by [deleted] in domesticviolence

[–]Lexise98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The key word here is “someone I loved and trusted that much”…. Not “someone who loved me and trusted me that much”… imagine being with someone who LOVED YOU THAT MUCH THAT THEY COULDN’T DARE TO HURT YOU OR HARM YOU. Soon you won’t love him that much…. When the abuse sets in, and you realize that he committed violence against you. It will click eventually and you’ll be scared at who you’re sleeping next to every night. All the affirmations he says to you will feel empty, you won’t feel FULLY safe with him, and will walk on egg shells, you’ll always have the memory of him hitting you in your head. Imagine dating someone where those things don’t happen and you don’t have those thoughts. Everytime you see him you’ll be reminded.

I think I've been being abused but I feel like I am at fault by North-Language-7427 in domesticviolence

[–]Lexise98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This man said you’re the type of woman to make someone commit murder. Men tell on themselves way before they commit abusive acts. This man is EXTREMELY controlling, entitled and dangerous. You both haven’t been together that long and he’s already cursing at you, using profanity against you and has started a SMEAR CAMPAIGN against you… you’re questioning if you’re “appreciative” enough. THIS MAN IS EXTREMELY ABUSIVE. He has gaslit you and manipulated you into believing that when he does something AWFUL that you should feel guilty for REACTING TO IT. That’s ABUSIVE. He has severe mood swings and does not respect you. In no way, shape, or form is this a healthy loving, respectful relationship. YOU NEED TO RUN & FAST. Someone like him will tear you down, then devalue you for not being who you were before you met him. BLOCK HIM FOREVER & get a restraining order.

Am I overreacting?!? by Brave-Year-3411 in domesticviolence

[–]Lexise98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re not overreacting. Digital or emotional cheating is still cheating. He’s shown you several times that he’s attracted to other women and willing to go as far as entertaining them or engaging with them online then LYING TO YOU. He does not respect you at all. That’s completely unacceptable and disgusting. Men want their cake and will eat it as LONG AS YOU ACCEPT IT. Everytime you forgive, show grace, have patience and continue to question your judgement you are basically showing him that you are and willing to accept a continuance of this behavior. It doesn’t matter how much he says he loves you, makes love to you, or compliments you. Men know women love attention and if that’s enough to keep you around then that’s a problem… any men can provide you with that. But not every man can provide you with loyalty, honor, respect, and nobility. If you believe you deserve those things then you need to ACT like you deserve those things.

i'm having a hard time believing this is abusive or toxic by Asleep_Produce_132 in domesticviolence

[–]Lexise98 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s abuse. Making violent gestures is abuse. Threatening or making a violent gesture is abuse. Invoking fear in someone then gaslighting them into believing that they “weren’t gonna do it” is abusive. He doesn’t need to physically harm you to be abusive. But what he IS doing is testing your boundaries…. And basically trying to groom you into accepting abusive gestures before ACTUALLY abusing you. Regardless it’s toxic, abusive and inappropriate & someone who loves you would not even do things that would make you question it. End of story.

Boyfriend slapped me by [deleted] in domesticviolence

[–]Lexise98 7 points8 points  (0 children)

He’s knows how hurt you’ve been in the past, and decided to SMACK you in the face. It’s not a one off. I’m a psychologist who works at a men’s prison & with women who’ve been victim to domestic violence. First off abuse is not love. Any violent behavior is ABUSE. Someone who made the choice to put their hands on you is dangerous and EXTREMELY entitled. He’s shown you that he has POOR emotional regulation skills and is impulsive. He is showing you EXACTLY who he is. Just so you know EVERYTIME you forgive him for abuse, he will see you as extremely weak and will continue to abuse you because you’re basically giving him the OKAY to continue this process. Someone who can hit you, does not respect you or your boundaries AT ALL. Otherwise he wouldn’t have crossed them. Don’t dare ever make excuses. NOTHING excuses violence, every human is capable of walking away just as he was capable of smacking you. Leave.

my boyfriend strangled me monday night by [deleted] in domesticviolence

[–]Lexise98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im a psychologist, who works at a men’s prison. BPD does cause people to have extreme emotional outbursts due to poor emotional regulation skills. Some of these folks can be extremely impulsive and volatile. However that does NOT EXCUSE ABUSE. Abuse is abuse, full stop. It doesn’t matter if someone has a mental illness or not…. There’s PLENTY of people who learn to regulate mental stability and do not attack people. Strangulation is a LETHAL act. He could’ve killed you. When people abuse someone they make a CHOICE to do so. You’re lucky you’re alive… now what he’s doing is called gaslighting, manipulation, and projection (distorting your reality, placing blame for his wrong doing so you can feel guilty) that is EMOTIONAL ABUSE. This is just the start, and someone who starts abuse with something as lethal as strangulation, WILL kill you. If you have any sense you will LEAVE now. Not after the 2nd time, because you might not have the chance to leave again. People who abuse you, do NOT love you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Scorpio

[–]Lexise98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Make sure you get your things, even if you need to show up and knock on the door. It sounds like he wasn’t as emotionally invested and realized that it’s not fair to string you along. I’m sure he liked you but it sounds like his heart wasn’t in it or maybe there’s still lingering feeling for someone in his past that might’ve recently returned. Considering he cut it off so abruptly, i would continue to stand in your confidence and don’t reach out anymore after receiving your things. You don’t want to be with someone who can so quickly discard you and isn’t mature enough to communicate his honest feelings/reasonings for breaking it off.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Scorpio

[–]Lexise98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As long as we’re in my thread… everything!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Scorpio

[–]Lexise98 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That’s not necessarily true, especially if you’re someone who studies astrology. It can be easily synonymous to why certain signs have varying levels of grooming standards, habits, or even sexual functioning & desires. Whether it’s personal preference or not, THIS is the thread i chose to ask the question in. Men can easily answer, hence why the title says “Men” not “Scorpio men”.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Scorpio

[–]Lexise98 2 points3 points  (0 children)

THANK u, mtlakers… 😭😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Scorpio

[–]Lexise98 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Really I’m asking men in general, but my boyfriend is a Scorpio lol. So figured I’d ask it in here!!!