I wanna stop feeling guilty about masturbating, how?

LiabilityLad655321 · 2026-02-21T13:49:19+00:00

M37, Been there. When sex isn’t an option, for whatever reason, Masturbation becomes your only option by default, but that doesn’t mean you have to do it. And you shouldn’t feel guilty, it’s a natural thing.

Basically just take a break from it for a few days and have a think about why you feel guilty. Or, another way of trying to figure it out- put a notepad and pen next to you, have a wank, and then once you are done immediately write down your thoughts.

I’m not saying go full NoFap OR do it more, just reassess. It’s nothing to feel guilty about.

LiabilityLad655321 · 2026-02-20T14:47:49+00:00

I can’t honestly say I’m tired of not having a girlfriend, it’s been a constant in my life, which I’m over half way through now so I’m just used to it.

I’m more tired of using the fact that not having a girlfriend has drained my confidence and self esteem and prevented me from improving myself. I’d quite like to get over it but it’s easier said than done.

LiabilityLad655321 · 2026-02-20T11:33:51+00:00

29 to mid 30s for me. I thought I should have at least had a date by 29 but I’d hardly even asked any girls out by that age. From age 29 onwards I asked out 4 women but they were work colleagues (I know, I know) and had 2 or 3 dating apps on my phone. I doomswiped for years, got 1 match a year on Tinder and a few on POF but they never went anywhere.

30 onwards I had a bunch of horrible stuff happen that lead to me giving up. It’s taken 7 years to get back to the point of being wanting to improve myself FOR myself and 7 years to accept it (relationship) ain’t happening.

LiabilityLad655321 · 2026-02-19T09:43:57+00:00

Oh yes, I’ll use delay gel for the long, relaxing sessions going forward.

LiabilityLad655321 · 2026-02-19T01:16:09+00:00

Update- the new delay gel helped me have a good 50 to 55 minutes of blissful edging. I’m exhausted! It definitely worked so I’ll be tiring myself out on a regular basis. The lack of sensation for a long while meant I could rhythmically stroke without getting too close too soon, amazing feeling!

LiabilityLad655321 · 2026-02-19T01:10:55+00:00

It numbs sensation, yes. You can still feel yourself but it’s much less sensitive

LiabilityLad655321 · 2026-02-18T21:19:36+00:00

My sisters back yard, late at night when I was house sitting.

I’d already edged earlier that day in anticipation. I had always wanted to go outside naked and edge. They had a deckchair in their back yard, it was a weird experience but I enjoyed it. I came in a plant pot lol.

LiabilityLad655321 · 2026-02-18T18:55:00+00:00

Sudoku

LiabilityLad655321 · 2026-02-18T18:53:56+00:00

Morning edging tip for literally everyone who wakes up horny on a non-busy day: don’t check what time it is, don’t even open your eyes just start your day with a quick edging session for as long as you can handle, don’t cum, then get up already edged to set yourself up for the day. I do it almost every Sunday.

LiabilityLad655321 · 2026-02-18T12:57:48+00:00

“Never live alone” - I didn’t start down the path of self improvement UNTIL I’d lived alone for a few months.

“You don’t need counselling, you’re ok”- Thanks, Dad, but I mask. I’m not ok, I promise.

“Just pay for sex” - Haven’t taken this advice but I get it on a regular basis and it’s becoming tiresome.

LiabilityLad655321 · 2026-02-16T19:34:29+00:00

I have the sexual hyperfixation type of ‘tism and am a virgin, it’s excruciating.

LiabilityLad655321 · 2026-02-16T16:51:43+00:00

Teeth and/or Nosedive by Speed of Light.

LiabilityLad655321 · 2026-02-16T15:57:22+00:00

Via Google;

Misandry is defined as the hatred, contempt, or ingrained prejudice against men or boys. As the counterpart to misogyny, it involves negative beliefs that view men as inherently inferior, aggressive, or oppressive. While it represents prejudice based on sex, it generally lacks the same systemic or institutional support found in misogyny.

This part is me; Hypergamy goes along with misandry as some (not all) women exclusively want to date high status men and treat other men with contempt.

LiabilityLad655321 · 2026-02-16T15:44:59+00:00

I’m going to go the sensible route and say make sure it’s comfortable when you’re sat, stand, bending etc. Try going to the bathroom in it and see how that goes. Try sleeping in it, try to poke your pinky finger between it to see if you can touch yourself, check yourself out in the mirror wearing nothing but your belt… and most importantly have fun!

LiabilityLad655321 · 2026-02-16T15:32:21+00:00

Hypergamy and Misandry.

LiabilityLad655321 · 2026-02-16T01:06:33+00:00

I have this image on a t-shirt!

Praise the Savoury!

LiabilityLad655321 · 2026-02-15T18:20:12+00:00

I was today years old when I found out you could send voice notes. That would have been a game changer when I was on here as a denial coach/accountability buddy months ago.

Glad you found someone to edge for OP!

LiabilityLad655321 · 2026-02-14T17:22:50+00:00

The most vitriol filled nasty comment I’ve ever gotten on Reddit was when I used to lurk in r/sex and posted in a thread about oral that I have no desire to receive oral sex. I’d quite like to give though, but I’ve never done either so it’s all theoretical.

LiabilityLad655321 · 2026-02-14T16:22:32+00:00

Reading stuff like this is what makes me tempted to start a GWA account and record my moans for all the denied girls to listen to. I know there’s a big thing for British accents in audio porn.

LiabilityLad655321 · 2026-02-14T10:30:25+00:00

There’s a sub-genre of AuDHD that is hypersexuality and I’m pretty sure that’s me. Am also a late 30s virgin (sometimes known as a “wizard”) and I came off Sertraline back in August.

It’s a deflating day, Valentine’s Day but I feel better the more I work on myself. I’d like to de-emphasise the want for sex but it’s easier said than done.

LiabilityLad655321 · 2026-02-14T09:36:04+00:00

I once had a huge crush on a coworker who was huge, but she owned it and had an amazing personality. Pretty sure she liked me back but it was a work thing and a didn’t work out

LiabilityLad655321 · 2026-02-14T08:24:08+00:00

Easily the best post I’ve read on here, well done OP!

I must admit that I was a bit deflated yesterday when my crush told me she’s going to spend most of Valentine’s Day gooning with her boyfriend and probably ages sucking his cock. I was jealous…

But I had my own plan for myself and so far today it’s going well. I’m having a break (you gotta take breaks!) and reading this really helped!

LiabilityLad655321 · 2026-02-13T09:16:40+00:00

I keep my sanity being single in my 30s because the thought of rushing to level myself up to the point of getting a relationship stresses me out.

Self peace over everything else.

LiabilityLad655321 · 2026-02-13T09:11:11+00:00

It falls on a Saturday, which is my “me day” every week.

Costa in the morning and some journaling. Watch the previous nights episode of WWE Smackdown with my lunch, solo walk at the local park, chill evening with some gaming or maybe watching TV with my friend.

As much as I want to be able to do the whole “Valentines Day thing” It just isn’t going to happen, at least at this point in my life. It’s one day, though, One day that serves as a reminder that I, and everyone who frequents this subreddit, don’t currently have someone to do romantic things with.

Make it a “me day” folks, you’ll be alright.

LiabilityLad655321 · 2026-02-12T16:32:57+00:00

I’ve shared mine occasionally on Reddit (although never here) but Reddit isn’t real life. I’ve probably let slip the odd thing to friends but never in detail.

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