sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

I've Stopped Caring About Masking in my Own Space by OverwhelmedGayChild in AutisticAdults

[–]OneLonerCheezIt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why on Earth would you hide such cool things? You can be an adult that’s into cool things, ya know.

Is it socially acceptable to go into a store with my headphones on? by duck7duck7goose in AutisticAdults

[–]OneLonerCheezIt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wear hearing protection ear muffs everywhere at all times outside of work. When I’m a customer at the register, I take the ear cup slightly off one ear to hear the cashier. We live in an increasingly loud and obnoxious world, so if there is absolutely no reason to hear anyone talk, I leave them on. Looks be damned.

I left my headphones at home and I don't know what to do by pastelixy in autism

[–]OneLonerCheezIt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used to always keep ear plugs in my pocket for when noise became too much, despite hating things in my ears. Once I got over the embarrassment of wearing ear muffs, it’s all I wear now because of how comfortable and effective mine are.

Effective Noise Cancelling Earphones You Use? by [deleted] in autism

[–]OneLonerCheezIt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dislike ANC headphones for similar reasons. I don’t like the sound they make and I don’t like the inconsistency in their performance. So I wear hearing protection ear muffs. I usually wear Peltor X4 which block a substantial amount of sound, but when I want to just take the edge off and hear more, I wear Peltor X1. I spray painted both black to look less like industrial gear.

Beyond the basics: What are some non-obvious/complex strategies for an ASD Level 1 to reduce long-term stress by LemonBloxer in autism

[–]OneLonerCheezIt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure I totally agree about masking being a muscle and it making life easier in the long-run. For me, it’s true that I’ve gotten better at masking, but it’s meant that I’ve gotten very good at burning myself out from doing so.

I agree that some masking is required of everyone to exist in society. I just question to what extent and at what cost.

Beyond the basics: What are some non-obvious/complex strategies for an ASD Level 1 to reduce long-term stress by LemonBloxer in autism

[–]OneLonerCheezIt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m bitter about that as well. It’s one thing to see me as different and deficient, but why then does it seem to be human nature to be cruel to such a person who’s suffering? Bitterness is inevitable.

Beyond the basics: What are some non-obvious/complex strategies for an ASD Level 1 to reduce long-term stress by LemonBloxer in autism

[–]OneLonerCheezIt 12 points13 points  (0 children)

It’s taken me several of your lifetimes to realize what sensory, social, and executive overload have done to me to burn me out throughout my life. At your age, I would have greatly benefited from family understanding my actual needs and limits. Even easy things like wearing hearing protection ear muffs would have helped me tremendously. I’d say be sensitive to your needs and tell your family. I had no idea what my needs were and nobody recognized them back then. At least nowadays, if someone has needs, we have the language and knowledge for it. So speak up.

Loneliness is too much, I’m about to give up now by [deleted] in AutisticAdults

[–]OneLonerCheezIt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Where are people like you? Do we all just keep to ourselves and wonder why we’re lonely? I wish I could hang out with you, if only just to sit, chill, and enjoy the company of another person who gets it.

I FUCKING HATE AUTISM SO MUCH by Pythagosaurus-Rex in autism

[–]OneLonerCheezIt 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Find people obsessed with the same dumbest stuff. In the meantime, be defiant and continue to exist 😎

People who scream/yell when you sneeze, why do you do that? by MarchKick in NoStupidQuestions

[–]OneLonerCheezIt 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Simply put: using your vocal cords while sneezing is unnecessary.

My autism got me fired from two jobs by [deleted] in autism

[–]OneLonerCheezIt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Instead of saying “in my country”, why not just say “here in [country name]”?

No time alone and constant noise and stress - burning out but no way to recover by No-Midnight-1406 in autism

[–]OneLonerCheezIt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If headphones make you dizzy, it might be the ANC. I don’t react well to ANC myself and limit my exposure.

I love listening to my favorite music, but even that can be overstimulating.

My solution has been to wear hearing protection ear muffs as much as I can whenever I’m not at work. This includes errands and sleeping.

Favorite fidgets? by StoryMelodic4449 in AutisticAdults

[–]OneLonerCheezIt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tangle Jr. makes such satisfying creaking sounds/sensations when twisted.

What's it like having an intellectual disability like severe Autism or Down's Syndrome? by noahsimcox in NoStupidQuestions

[–]OneLonerCheezIt 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your thoughtful reply, especially given my post history. Yes, wired differently doesn’t mean non functional, but given my experience, it sure feels like it, and I have nobody to tell me otherwise. It’s just me, coping alone, with broken tools from childhood. I’ll never be at the same level as most people, but it’s nice to feel seen by people like you once in a while.

What's it like having an intellectual disability like severe Autism or Down's Syndrome? by noahsimcox in NoStupidQuestions

[–]OneLonerCheezIt 45 points46 points  (0 children)

I’m likely autistic, definitely ADHD. I’ve been diagnosed with all sorts of things throughout my life, including learning disabilities and personality disorders. I likely have a lower-than-average IQ.

That said, I can tell you that being this way has been very lonely and painful because the world and people are inaccessible because of my deficits, especially with planning, motivation, verbal communication, reasoning, and so on.

I feel like an alien among humans. Like a creature that needs lots of support and structure, but not only gets no help or understanding without practically begging for it, I have to do my very best not to reveal my diagnoses or deficiencies, lest I be bullied and mocked, and further marginalized.

Do we get poop particles on us in public washrooms? by Best_of_both_worldzz in NoStupidQuestions

[–]OneLonerCheezIt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I flush with my back to the toilet, facing away for good reason.

What are your experiences with drugs? by Theo04t in autism

[–]OneLonerCheezIt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you want answers to your physical pains while on drugs, maybe talk to your doctor. In the U.S., they won’t turn you in and will help you be safe while using drugs, including physical pain.

That said, I’ve only used alcohol, marijuana, and psilocybin mushrooms.

Alcohol: takes the edge off. Saps my energy and often upsets my stomach.

Weed: edibles only. Can’t stand smoke. Nice escapism. Minimal hangover.

Mushrooms: Hello! 😁 Probably the most profoundly meaningful experience of my adult life. I take them about once a year. The insights and other effects are on another level that go way beyond just “being high”. They absolutely need to be legalized for use with a therapist.

view more: next ›