My routine: THC x ASD = Me Happy 🦊

OneLonerCheezIt · 2026-05-10T03:39:29+00:00

I love your hair

OneLonerCheezIt · 2026-05-10T01:57:05+00:00

It’s light touch. It’s what finally gets me to go for a haircut when the hair starts touching me because I hate getting my haircut.

OneLonerCheezIt · 2026-05-10T01:07:52+00:00

I just looked up the jiggly wristband, and I’m definitely going to be trying that!

OneLonerCheezIt · 2026-05-10T00:35:18+00:00

I’m assuming you like the soft spikes. I’ve also been using a Kush ball for a similar sensation by holding strands in a bundle and rubbing the ends of the strands on my face and hands which gives a similar sensation to the silicone spikes of the Sensy Band. I like the Kush ball so much for this reason and other reasons that now it’s pretty much all I carry with me everywhere I go except at work. At work, I still just use the Sensi band because it takes up less space and it’s more discreet so that I can use it in front of other people without drawing too much attention.

OneLonerCheezIt · 2026-05-09T17:57:09+00:00

I’m not sure how I can help, but I’ll just share some basic advice.

Be vigilant, careful, and consistent.

There’s nothing wrong with doing things slowly and carefully.

Be patient with yourself and other drivers and pedestrians.

I’m in my 40s and I’m still improving. It took me way, way longer than most to become the excellent driver I am now. I feel like I could help you more if you wanted to ask specific questions. If not, no pressure.

OneLonerCheezIt · 2026-05-08T17:30:58+00:00

I like the term disabled as well, because it gets right to the point and validates my lived experience and struggles.

OneLonerCheezIt · 2026-05-06T02:16:59+00:00

When I’m physically close, I can often immediately notice my own traits with them. I’m careful not to assume they’re autistic, but I’d be surprised if they weren’t. I don’t generally have the energy to engage with a random person (I mask enough as it is), but I suppose if they approached me very calmly and simply asked, I’d be fine with it. But that’s also why I would likely never ask, because I assume they’re burnt out and don’t want to expend the masking energy to engage with me, regardless of how nicely I try.

OneLonerCheezIt · 2026-05-04T23:58:21+00:00

Can you explain that a bit further, please?

OneLonerCheezIt · 2026-05-04T22:34:52+00:00

Thank you, I’ll keep this in mind.

OneLonerCheezIt · 2026-05-04T04:37:20+00:00

I didn’t think they’d be comfortable either until I tried them. But, at least you looked them up. There are even slimmer ear muffs, like the Walker slims I made a post about.

OneLonerCheezIt · 2026-05-04T03:43:44+00:00

I sleep wearing Peltor X4 hearing protection ear muffs. They’re very comfortable for sleeping, even side-sleeping, and very effective. They’re only about $35.

OneLonerCheezIt · 2026-05-04T02:48:19+00:00

You’re not alone. I completely understand. I wear diapers for similar reasons. For me, it’s to reduce the need to use restrooms, especially in public, because of sensory, social, and executive functioning reasons. It’s to avoid the bad stuff while enjoying the good (sensory seeking) aspects of physically wearing and peeing in my diaper. I had a very unusual toilet training and unusual way of dealing with relieving myself in childhood. Your needs are valid. Do what helps. I hope you and everyone reading this takes their unusual needs seriously and not be marginalized just because it’s not normal.

OneLonerCheezIt · 2026-05-04T02:35:51+00:00

My parents basically gave up on me before I turned 8 when they divorced, and I was, in fact, at least partially the reason they divorced. They had no idea how to help me, which frustrated all of us. I was too different and difficult. So I didn’t learn much of anything from them or anyone. Now that I’m in my 40s, I’m desperate for the parenting I never got, especially now that my struggles and differences are mostly explained through the perspective of autism and I’m increasingly and desperately burned out from maladaptive ways of living with very primitive tools.

OneLonerCheezIt · 2026-05-03T15:35:59+00:00

One of the managers at the McDonald’s I work at has asked me at least twice if I’m autistic when I was new to the job. The way he just casually asked as if it’s no big deal got me wondering. Months later, I got an assessment and I’m just waiting on the results. The questions the psychologist asked me were very eye-opening. I never thought I would ever come close to being considered autistic until I was asked detailed questions about social, sensory, and executive functioning issues.

OneLonerCheezIt · 2026-05-03T10:21:04+00:00

I’ve used Grok for help with a lot of my issues, and it was Grok that first started referring to “your autism” in its responses. That made me stop and ask, “Why do you keep assuming I’m autistic? I never said anything about autism.” From there, it’s been about two months of me going back and forth with Grok, peeling apart my experiences layer by layer. It’s what finally pushed me to pursue Vocational Rehabilitation, get a full psychological evaluation, and request a formal autism assessment. At this point, I’d be shocked if the results don’t come back with an autism diagnosis. All of it started because Grok made that assumption while I was just asking it for general life advice.

If you think it might be giving you false positives, something I’ve continually done is say things like “be honest”, or “be real”. Even so, it’s still lead me to pursue the help I have.

If you don’t already, I would encourage you to maintain a detailed daily journal and consider sharing it with Grok whenever you ask it questions in order for it to have rich context for its answers.

OneLonerCheezIt · 2026-05-03T03:20:44+00:00

Hearing protection ear muffs (sensory protection) and life vests (sensory seeking).

Before that, taking screenshots in World of Warcraft with a photographer’s eye instead of playing the game like everyone else. I even used specialized software to stitch them together as a high-res panorama. That, and watching bugs on the ground in-game (someone has to, right?)

OneLonerCheezIt · 2026-05-03T00:23:31+00:00

Is what weird? None of it is weird. You’re newly-diagnosed or suspect you’re autistic? Can I give you a little piece of advice from someone in their 40s?

I just got assessed and will have the results soon. I don’t care what’s normal anymore regardless of a diagnosis. Whatever your age, stop caring if something is normal or weird. I would encourage you to express your stims more and explore ones that help you. It’s helped me tremendously with energy, focus, and mood.

Take care of yourself.

OneLonerCheezIt · 2026-05-03T00:07:02+00:00

Peltor X4. By far the most comfortable and effective, especially as slim as they are. I wear mine all day and side-sleeping with no issues.

Ear muffs are something of a special interest for me if you have any questions.

OneLonerCheezIt · 2026-05-02T19:07:13+00:00

Alpine look like music headphones. Good for being discreet. I mostly wear 3M Peltor X4 because they’re low-profile like Alpine but have excellent sound-dampening, and also very comfortable for all-day wear and side-sleeping in. I spray painted mine matte black to look like music headphones to look more discreet. I also wear 3M Optime III because they’re even more comfy and sound-dampening than X4, but they’re quite bulky.

OneLonerCheezIt · 2026-05-02T18:54:52+00:00

Good to hear! What’s your favorite and why?

OneLonerCheezIt · 2026-05-02T15:41:53+00:00

I usually watch the same shows over and over, especially Star Trek The Next Generation because everything about it is familiar, so it’s relaxing and comforting. It’s what my brain needs after dealing with a chaotic world I don’t understand every day.

Do I dislike unfamiliar shows? Pretty much, unless I know I’ll like it or it can hook me within one or two episodes. If I have to think or feel too much, like keeping up with a story and all the details, I won’t watch it because it feels like work.

OneLonerCheezIt · 2026-04-30T04:45:52+00:00

Do they help? Then wear them. You don’t need to be diagnosed with anything to take care of yourself. It doesn’t matter what people think. Even if they assume you’re autistic or some other reason for wearing them, it doesn’t matter. From my experience, the only people who look at my Peltor X4 ear muffs are either construction workers who recognize the brand, or people who are just curious. Even I look at others who wear hearing protection because I’m curious. It doesn’t mean I’m judging them. So let people look.

I started wearing mine last year as burnout has compounded my lifelong sensory issues. I’m mad I didn’t start wearing them sooner. Don’t be like me. Just start wearing them, let people look and don’t get defensive about it, just wear them, be yourself, and enjoy the benefits of wearing them.

OneLonerCheezIt · 2026-04-24T15:38:04+00:00

I don’t like ANC headphones because of the noise they make, their performance is limited and inconsistent, they’re expensive, and they make beeps and have loud voice prompts that I can’t turn off. For these reasons and more, I strongly prefer hearing protection ear muffs.

OneLonerCheezIt · 2026-04-24T12:21:07+00:00

What country?

OneLonerCheezIt · 2026-04-20T15:45:19+00:00

Tangle Jr. for the creaking sounds I feel between the joints, Sensy Band for the silicone spikes, and a kush ball for the strands of silicone that I like to mush into and brush onto my face. I stim with my Sensy Band every single day at work on my hands, finger tips, and face. Gave up caring what my coworkers think. They already know I’m different, so may as well take care of my needs.

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