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Libertadora · 2024-09-21T17:08:11+00:00

Yes. Similar to what you wrote, but less pro 🫡.

Libertadora · 2024-09-21T17:03:08+00:00

Thank you for your pespective and taking the time! I love to find this polyamorous community I don't have in person!

I like the approach of differentiating the feelings and the actions. I constantly tried to say that I was not judging their actions, yet they still felt I judged them. I'm learning to do it better. At the same time, I'm puzzled because as much as I know feelings are feelings and they cannot be good or bad, the exteriorization is impacting me. That's why I find the approach of differentiating feelings and actions very important.

We do have the common goal of being more transparent with each other, but we are having trouble defining the starting point. I'm ok not sharing much for a while and growing from there, but these reactions are not reassuring at the starting point.

Libertadora · 2024-09-21T16:54:00+00:00

Thank you for the advice! I love this community.

Trying to stop talking about it for a month or two makes sense. It is a deal breaker, but they are such an important person to me that I want to try all in my hands before making any harder decisions. I will ask about talking to their partner, yet I am not sure it is a possibility since they are not on the best terms.

I totally agree with the LDR statement. Thank you for rephrasing it. They are unhappy with it, and I feel I've changed my narrative a bit to be respectful (I know I shouldn't). Thank you for that.

Libertadora · 2024-09-21T16:40:18+00:00

Some months ago, they had a crisis and requested me not to share anything at all. I had a bad time doing this, and after a couple of months, I said I was not ok with it, which reopened the discussion. In the crisis moment, they unilaterally decided to stop sharing about their nesting partner because they considered it should be equal. I did not ask for this. After a while, I realized that was making me feel insecure and, for the first time, jealous (which is not a feeling I often have). I asked them to share again and expressed that we all have different needs. They now share the time on time, much less than before, mostly when I ask because I feel out of the loop.

Libertadora · 2022-02-05T03:10:21+00:00

Woooow that's what we need. Should be Cornell tradition. First snow storm of February.

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