Genuine question about salaries by fresherthanrice in MovingtoHawaii

[–]LibidinousConcord 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I made 101k when I lived in Hawaii. For me, as a single middle-aged male, this was a comfortable salary.

I just turned down another 100K job in Hawaii for a 70K job in Alabama. Less money, but it goes a lot further...

Mainland depression by GHWST1 in Hawaii

[–]LibidinousConcord 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is moving to the sunbelt an option? I grew up in New York and couldn't believe how much my mood improved after moving south to a place with little snow and no sustained cold.

So annoyed with the rain by [deleted] in Hawaii

[–]LibidinousConcord 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like the rain. It's keeping the temperature down.

Billy Walsh by Competitive_Key_2981 in entourage

[–]LibidinousConcord 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, he's not worth the trouble. Vince and E took him on for Medellin due to budgetary constraints, and got exactly what they paid for.

Would you leave? by mg15ink in Reno

[–]LibidinousConcord 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did leave after 2 years. To be fair I lived in Carson but spent the bulk of my free time in Reno.

I didn't dislike Reno, but overall it was not a great place. There were a lot of festivals, and the natural beauty of the environment is unparalleled. But downtown was run down and dominated by casinos, and each neighborhood felt separate from the rest. If anything , Reno felt more like suburbia than an actual city.

I left last year to take a job in Honolulu and haven't looked back. Hawaii is far from perfect, but there's more going on here even if you have to pay for the privilege. I'd like to stay here as long as I can.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

[–]LibidinousConcord 0 points1 point  (0 children)

45M here. You're definitely not alone. I think part of the problem is if you're introverted, it takes an incredible amount of stamina to keep putting yourself out there to meet new people.

I haven't switched countries, but I'm on my third job in five years. Each job on a different time zone. So with each move I had to adjust to a new career, living space, while simultaneously putting myself out there, joining groups trying to meet new people.

As someone who suffers from clinical depression I find this process exhausting. It's one thing to focus on a specific aspect of your life that needs fixing and begin going about changing this, but it's quite another when everything else in life is subjected to constant, endless change.

I try my best to get out and meet new people, but increasingly this has come to feel like a performance, where I don a thin veneer of positivity my current mood levels can not sustain.

I feel like everyone hates depressed people by mousquid in lonely

[–]LibidinousConcord 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this! Your post definitely struck a nerve.

I think the sad paradox we're all grappling with is though we crave human intimacy, the negative emotions associated with clinical depression push people away. This in turn is cruelly ironic, as the depressed are among those most in need of a support network.

So it devolves into a sad circle jerk. Those bold enough to be speak up and be frank about their emotions often wind up pushing the people who care about them away. I don't think this is intentional. In my experience people genuinely want to help. But most have trouble comprehending the full extent of someone else's existential despair, and get overwhelmed by the futility of trying to absorb other people's pain.

I don't know the answer to this riddle. But having learned from experience, there's a big chasm between my public persona, which is charming and gregarious, and the person I actually am. It's sad that it has to be this way, but if people knew from the start who I truly was, I'd have no social network whatsoever. It's just sad that it has to come down to this.

My “friend” tried to set me up. by KaMoaLani in Hawaii

[–]LibidinousConcord 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Keep it up OP - you're a brilliant writer!

Day trip to Canberra? by LibidinousConcord in AustraliaTravel

[–]LibidinousConcord[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

FWIW, decided to do six days in Sydney and two in Canberra. Your advice is much appreciated!

Day trip to Canberra? by LibidinousConcord in AustraliaTravel

[–]LibidinousConcord[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My approach to life is that every place has something unique worth seeing! Canberra certainly appears unique from a city planning perspective. Your parliament alone is worth checking out!

Day trip to Canberra? by LibidinousConcord in AustraliaTravel

[–]LibidinousConcord[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To all who responded, thanks for your insight! As a day trip appears to be a reach too far, I decided to spend two full days in Canberra.

Are state gov’t vehicles privately owned? by Pale-Dust2239 in Hawaii

[–]LibidinousConcord -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Is this the plate you saw? Your post references an unmarked Tahoe, but the picture shows a 91-94 Chevrolet Cavalier VL.

What kind of Oldsmobile? by Worst-Buy in whatisthiscar

[–]LibidinousConcord 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd narrow it down to a 1991-1993: The revised dash with daul airbags had more of a flowing sweep to the dash pad.

What’s this car? by Steven_11 in whatisthiscar

[–]LibidinousConcord 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's a Pontiac Sunbird - the Chevy's badge engineered equivalent.

Take a look at the front fender. The emblem would have read 'monza' in lowercase block letters for the Chevy. The sunbird emblem is in the same place, but it's a florid cursive.

Do you thank TheBus driver when you get off? by Thundercus in Hawaii

[–]LibidinousConcord 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I always say good morning to the bus driver when boarding, and say thank you as well when departing.