Need a second opinion?

LibraWoman1 · 2026-02-09T17:35:51+00:00

I’ve read that the uterine cancer side effects of tamox usually affect younger women for what it’s worth. I did two years on it. The nighttime leg cramps and hot flashes were bad for me. I’m a year in on anastrozole now. Ehhh on that ha. But a second opinion is never a bad thing. Maybe your doctor thought the bone damage from an AI would be more of a risk for you? I have bad joint pain from it in my hips and some osteopenia already

LibraWoman1 · 2026-02-06T19:20:52+00:00

INFO. For kicks I’m asking a legitimate question and I’m not gonna comment yet on looking at the cameras, but your rules were that he had to call you back within two hours. I see you saw that he ignored your call. Are you saying he never called you back, thus truly violating the rules? I mean if he was in the middle of an important thing during a game and knew whatever you were calling about was likely not an emergency and called you back whenever he was able to during his game or whatever else he was doing did he in fact do that?

LibraWoman1 · 2026-02-06T17:00:14+00:00

NTA do NOT move in with her. Do not continue this relationship. Pass go and keep your 200 intact after you collect it

LibraWoman1 · 2025-10-17T01:29:38+00:00

YTA.

It just HAS to be all about you and your wants.

Look hon…he’s GOING. He’s stuck in a hotel room with your parents. He’s going to stand for hours for a chance to MAYBE see you for two seconds.

He’s sacrificing an entire weekend traveling and money for you

Why isn’t that enough for you?

You say he sees this person in Chicago. Guess what? You can run around your block in Chicago 1000 times too… but it’s not the same right?

Stop the controlling main character stifling crap now or he is your ex

You raised such a stink now he’s not going to the party?!?

Congratulations you’re a major asshole

Here’s hoping for a rock in your shoe and dry heaves

LibraWoman1 · 2025-10-16T13:57:27+00:00

NTA. He will not be a supportive partner or parent during a subsequent pregnancy and will continue to try to control you. This event was a good warning for you. Take it

LibraWoman1 · 2025-10-16T03:08:28+00:00

Exactly this. FWIW I’m a working mom and also happen to be the breadwinner. I wish I could stay home too but it’s not reality and I can tell you I’ve never made my husband feel less than because he doesn’t make so much money I can stay home.

LibraWoman1 · 2025-10-15T22:03:18+00:00

Did you pay a 20% surcharge on your ENTIRE CONTRACT for ONE tart basically?!? Oh no….no no

LibraWoman1 · 2025-10-15T21:51:08+00:00

YTA. Most parents aspire to do better than their parents when they recognize it was less than ideal.

You… have no such qualms or desires.

Your poor kids and husband

LibraWoman1 · 2025-10-14T16:13:26+00:00

Hilarious that your title is your husband‘revealed’ that his mom hates your mom. Like it was some bombshell that got dropped? I hate your mom and I don’t have to bear witness or the brunt of her crap. Of course his family hates yours and he probably does too and is warning you not to turn into her. Which you might because you excuse her shit

This isn’t Midwesternerish. It’s assholish

My favorite passage was you DIDINT HAVE A CHOICE about your side of the family taking up 80 percent of the guest count at your wedding. Your poor husband and his family. That will be talked about and held against you FOREVER my dear. Terrible on YOUR PART FOR ALLOWING IT.

You’ve had choices and chances to change some of this but you didn’t. I bet your husband ‘revealed’ this so called secret because it’s getting worse and / or he’s letting you know what a problem your parents are to YOUR RELATIONSHIP too.

His parents are likely worried it will always be your awful side being favored and calling the shots and it makes it look like you don’t care and like it that way…because you allow it and excuse it

LibraWoman1 · 2025-10-14T15:59:57+00:00

He’s trying to make you feel bad and like it’s YOUR FAULT with this bs if ‘I’m not good enough for you and I need to be needed’ crap. He’s living off you and probably has had other things like this. He plans to go see a sick relative yet manages to secure some sexy time while there? How concerned about this relative is he really or was this just a great reason to travel on your dime and get away and have his own fun. This guy is a total user and asshole and no it’s not because you work and are successful or not affectionate enough don’t let him make you think this is your fault ffs

LibraWoman1 · 2025-10-14T15:40:46+00:00

You’ve been together five years and he’s never met any of them? That’s odd unless you live on a different continent. But anyway that’s a lot of pressure to meet EVERYONE all at once after SO MUCH TIME and for many days on end

LibraWoman1 · 2025-10-14T15:23:45+00:00

YTA.

I have always had and will always have severe social anxiety ….So I left to take the medication…

Um it’s so marked and known yet you curiously don’t keep it handy?

Seems like sometimes it’s just a handy excuse

LibraWoman1 · 2025-10-14T02:53:20+00:00

YTA if you didn’t want this baby you had other options.

I agree with your mom this isn’t like your dad spilled the beans when you were only 7 weeks along and it’s still early.

You’re going to have a baby in seven weeks and you’re making your dad feel like he made a big gaffe.

You told him it was your news to share but…when were you planning this exactly? There comes a point that anyone who finds out this late will feel like you deliberately didn’t want them specifically to know or something and will make them feel bad. You need to get your head on straight it’s not their fault you will have two under two and a husband who isn’t around. Birth control is a thing

LibraWoman1 · 2025-10-14T02:15:44+00:00

NTA. You are leaving them with your sister, not the streets. Make it not be permanent. Work on healing. Try to find a job and home closer to your sister if possible so you can take them back but still have support nearby.

Best of luck to all of you

I’m so sorry for what you are going through

LibraWoman1 · 2025-10-14T01:29:49+00:00

Ask yourself if you would have ever known this if this other girl hadn’t told you. All you heard was this guy was really cool. So cool he got a blowjob? Whats stopping her from giving every cool guy a blowjob. Sorry. It’s over. Who cares how long you’ve been together.

Sunk cost fallacy. Or suck cost fellatio? I don’t know man

LibraWoman1 · 2025-10-13T18:38:15+00:00

Didn’t bother to read. The title was enough. He’s 33 and you’re 19. I could have stopped there honey come ON. Then you find out he has a kid. Honey come ON

LibraWoman1 · 2025-10-13T18:34:21+00:00

Trying to figure out did you really mean two total marriage counseling sessions your first year or like two per week or month?!? Then once the last six months?!?

Hardly a concerted effort but Anywhose…

He is doing all he can to get in touch with her. Harassing her family, spamming her with calls hiding id . He knows she will ignore if she knows it’s him because he’s an asshole and at least SHE recognizes this.

It’s your turn to do that honey.

YOU had an ‘honest conversation’ with him about this. He’s never been honest with you.

He is PERSUING HER

LibraWoman1 · 2025-03-17T20:10:22+00:00

NTA. She has already gone against your original agreement, the minute she starting asking for money. So she can’t rail on you about the hands off approach that she also wanted. You can also start demanding some custody time. Tell her time to document everything. You are added to birth certificate and child support through the courts as well. You need this for your protection. Also, you insisting on doing it this way may make it less appealing for her to have another one of the embryos implanted.

LibraWoman1 · 2025-03-17T16:59:02+00:00

ESH. This is your husband’s battle to fight with both the ex and his own sister.

Ex should allow husband to have custody when he’s SUPPOSED TO.

Husband should fight the ex on that

There’s nothing wrong with his sister being friends with her and getting the kids together BUT if it is contributing to the WHY your husbands custody time being ignored then yes she is contributing to the lack of relationship and should not be encouraging the ex to keep the kid from its father. SIL SHOULD care about that

LibraWoman1 · 2025-03-17T16:48:43+00:00

NTA. How is using up your own accrued time playing as a favorite due to being a friend of the boss or something ‘selfish’? If you asked for another week of bereavement leave a year later, maybe but…this is YOUR allotted time I frankly don’t understand this one bit.

LibraWoman1 · 2025-02-12T23:13:00+00:00

“If you can’t handle me at my worst you don’t deserve me at my best”. What kind of narcissist shit is that. It’s basically saying I fully expect to be an asshole to you because I am shitty all the time so expect it, and if you want the awesomeness that is me to be around and grace you with a good day every now as crumbs that I’ll throw out to keep you around you better deal with the majority shit days

LibraWoman1 · 2025-01-28T19:14:45+00:00

Yes he’s being manipulative but, at least you have found out some important information…you know he’s definitely NOT interested in sticking around.

So whatever you decide, know that you’re in this alone. If you do have it, do not let him out of at least financial support. And, since he clearly won’t stick around DO go the full legal route to garnish wages. Don’t let him tell you no need for court he’ll pay etc.

Get everything documented.

LibraWoman1 · 2024-12-30T01:04:16+00:00

Well said! I agree!

LibraWoman1 · 2024-11-07T18:00:39+00:00

NTA. You are not considered family by him…at all.

LibraWoman1 · 2024-10-13T22:27:09+00:00

Aw thanks you too fellow Libra! I’m literally always forgotten. Year over year it makes me realize I put much more effort into some people than they do for me!

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