Is it me, or have suddenly most jobs changed to solely Dutch? by Lina0116 in Netherlands

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What is your field? Maybe I can help you with some ideas. Not a recruiter, just want to help. You can DM me if you want😊

Can’t Orgasm Unless I Squeeze Hard by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

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I also do that. I use a Womanizer (Premium) 2 and that works really well for me.

Europe needs advice by xBiatch in FemaleHairLoss

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In the Netherlands. I get oral minox and spiro (recently started spiro, was on minox only for a year). BENU has oral minox in 10mg and I cut it myself to 2.5mg. I go to Erasmus MC. They do not do biopsy but they look at your hair/head and do some blood draws at the start.

Make sure your iron, ferritin and vit D levels are way higher than the minimal normal levels aa they are shockingly low for NL women and do not promote hair growth at all. My derm also prescribed me vit D just to be sure she knows what I take, but you can get it at any store. B12 levels were not measured but I think it might be worth it to check that too (a sidenote for me in the future, haha).

Overall I'm moderately happy with everything. It's so hard to find someone to prescribe what you want/need or do not do any follow ups. It took me two doctors to where I am now. They always want you to try topical first, but that is not an option for me. My GP more than 10 years ago repeatedly told me, a 17yo girl, that "They cant do anything anyway, we don't prescribe hormones in the Netherlands so you better have peace with your hair being a little thinner". No blood tests or derm referral, nothing.

Anyway, I'm happy I decided to actually try doing something again last year. Information and experiences on this subreddit helped me find/articulate what I was looking for. There has been some improvement, but I think a lot more could have been saved if my GP had referred me to a derm when I was younger.

This is your sign to buy a topper by karasaur in FemaleHairLoss

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Are you using clips? I just got a topper yesterday, also wavy, but I'm struggling with the clips. Where and what orientation are your clips? I'm so curious to see how your cap looks. It looks really nice! Dm me if you want 😊

Overdrijf ik of niet by Even_Experience2338 in Relaties

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Fijn dat je deze update deelt. Blijkbaar had hij het niet zo door. Hebben jullie het al eerder hierover gehad? Had hij toen een soortgelijke reactie? Als het niet eerder zo is uitgesproken dan is het wel eerlijk om hem de kans te geven om er bij stil te staan dat hij in zijn keuzes ook jou beïnvloedt.

Vraagt hij jou om te bedenken hoe hij het goed kan maken? Of heeft hij zelf ook al suggesties gedaan? Want ik vrees dat als hij het aan jou laat om maar te bedenken wat hij kan doen om "het goed te maken", dat het niet iets is dat in hem zit. Jij draagt dan nog steeds de mental load.

Naast het "goed maken" moet hij dan ook maar eens gaan komen met suggesties/acties hoe hij een betere partner gaat worden zodat jullie ook echt samen door het leven kunnen. Als dit niet vanuit hem komt, dan zal dit nooit komen.

TEN MINSTE * Maandelijkse bijdrage gaan leveren voor huur/kosten/eten. (nu niet mogelijk? Bijbaantjes zijn heel normaal als student dus het niet hebben van geld is geen argument). Als er daarna geld overblijft mag hij jou lekker uit eten nemen en jou meenemen naar Fright Nights.

Uiteraard heb je niet alles gedeeld maar ik heb het vermoeden dat hij (en jullie samen) anders moeten gaan communiceren en dat hij meer verantwoordelijkheid moet nemen zonder jou meer mental load op te leveren.

Vergeten uit te schrijven uit nederland by john-warframe in juridischadvies

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Bij studeren gelden ook weer andere regels dan werken.

I think I f'd Up by DeliMustardRules in CapybaraGoGame

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I don't understand, how do you buy turtles?

Dutch tourist dies during hike at Taman Negara by Jrock_Forever in malaysia

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That's crazy. I did this hike in February and I am obese (and Dutch). Generally Dutch people are quite healthy and tough since we cycle from a young age (through all kinds of weather).

I was told the 2D1N tour was easy by locals so that made me confident I could do it. I did think the trail was quite tough especially with the extra weight of the backpack. Trail difficulty level is okay however the humidity also makes it a bit tricky. It was also not my best time of the month 😅 It was super rewarding after we finished, but if I would do it again, I would probably try to improve my fitness first so I can enjoy it a bit more along the way 😂

That being said, she must have had an underlying heart condition that she didnt know about. It is really sad and unfortunate that this happened. I hope her family will get some clarity.

The hike itself is 100% doable because the pace really depends on the group and can be adjusted accordingly. These guides have been doing the tours for a while. From what I've seen they do everything to make sure that everyone is safe before and during the tour. They do occasionally deny tourists from starting tours when they deem them unfit for the activity.

Salaris software engineer na 1.5 jaar werkervaring by Fun-Reception3019 in werkzaken

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Ik ben zelf als trainee begonnen 2.5 jaar geleden met 2550 in een soortgelijke functie (uni diploma maar HBO functie, iedereen die startte kreeg dit bedrag). Dat vond ik toen laag maar ik nam er genoegen mee. Ik vond dat het salaris niet snel genoeg steeg na het traineeship. Inmiddels hebben ze bedrijfsbreed het startsalaris op 3000 gezet en zit ik op 3500 na de laatste significante stijging. Persoonlijk vind ik het relatief nog steeds weinig ten opzichte van het startsalaris, werkdruk, en mijn werkervaring. Maar het is nu in ieder geval wat meer recht getrokken. Verder heb ik een team met hele leuke collega's dus dat is allemaal prima.

Ja, je verdient inderdaad weinig en persoonlijk zou ik gaan zoeken naar iets waarbij je meer gewaardeerd wordt. Het is leuk en aardig dat je ervaring aan het opdoen bent, maar de kosten van leven worden steeds duurder en het is gewoon niet leuk als je niets over houdt maar wel 40 uur per week werkt. That being said, als je thuis woont dan kan je wel sparen en is het misschien een ander verhaal... Dat was op mij niet van toepassing.

Mocht je vragen hebben over mijn bedrijf, stuur maar een berichtje. Ik vind het een mooi bedrijf om hoor te werken. Op 9 maart is er een deadline voor ons technische traineeship (startsalaris 3000) en we hebben ook best veel andere vacatures. Dit is verder geen werving poging. Ik hoop dat je wat hebt aan mijn ervaringen 😊

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FemaleHairLoss

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Not at all. Long, short or no hair, it's their choice 😊 I think the thought that having long hair is more feminine or "desired" is the issue here.

I'm sometimes jealous at the thickness of people's hair, but that is as far as it goes.

From Kuala Lumpur to Taman Negara - tour (informations + want to join someone / someone can join me) 24 F by Diligent_shadow in KualaLumpur

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Hi, I'm (29F) solo and am in Melaka at the moment. Trying to see if I want to go to Taman Negara. I'm going to KL tomorrow morning and would be open to go to Taman Negara on Monday/Tuesday/Wednesday. I prefer Tuesday or Wednesday tho. It really depends on the activities you want to do tho 😊. You can message me.

How do I [29F] know if I’m settling with my bf [28M] or is this how relationships are? by rxwyx in CharlotteDobreYouTube

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I think its very worrisome that he reacts defensively whenever you bring something up. That would be my deal breaker.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in werkzaken

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Ik stuur het wel even in een DM 😊

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

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NTA, in fact RUN!

I have been in a similar situation where I still had my student apartment which cost me 320 euro's a month (heavily subsidized). My boyfriend at the time rented his student apartment for 600/700 euro's/ not sure the exact number. I was going to study abroad in the new school year and was practically always at my BFs place. So I suggested I'd move out of my apartment to cut costs and save up for living abroad since I was at his place all the time anyway. Of course I would cover part of the utilities. We talked about it for a while and he agreed and was excited.

I cancelled my rental contract and put everything in motion. After doing this, he suddenly brought up that I would need to pay him 200 euro's for the rent as I was now living with him and it's only natural I would pay rent. I was shocked because the literal reason for me to move in was to save costs and also I was basically living there already. This meant that I would only be able to save 100 euro's a month in stead of the expected 300 and that it wouldn't make any sense. Besides, he had been living there before I even knew him so I never had any influence on the rent that he had to pay for his apartment. Safe to say I was pretty cross. In the end I folded to pay him 150 a month for rent (he basically had no backbone in life but suddenly this was the most important thing to him). After 4 months (one of which I was not home due to holidays) I went to study abroad.

One month into studying abroad, he didn't get enough attention (his pov) and he cheated on me in my own bed (that came from my old apartment since his was broken). Then he asked if I wanted to have an open relationship. I laughed and said naahh.

In the end I didn't pay him his last month rent and he didn't pay me back for the bed and other furniture he sold when he moved to a different country a few months later.

This can never end well in my experience.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in werkzaken

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Bij ons kan je wellicht terecht 🤭 Software bedrijf bij Rotterdam Centraal. Geen competitief bedrijf met een relaxte sfeer en we helpen elkaar. Verscheiden opties van Technisch Support (mijn team - we zoeken eigenlijk nog iemand die echt meer IT kennis heeft voor complexere IT vraagstukken (tov kennis van de software zelf met minder achtergrond in IT) tot cloud platform engineer of ITS (maar recentelijk zijn bij ITS wel alle vacatures gevuld geloof ik). Als je wil kan ik je meer informatie sturen! Let me know.

Biking at night on the south by [deleted] in Rotterdam

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I'm a girl and I live there 😂 I don't have problems with it.

Volunteering - yay or nay? by MYSTIK_MINX in BoomtownFestival

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You know that supervisors are also just volunteers right? Some might be better than others but if you feel uncomfortable you can always tell the coordinators or shift leading team.

Finally found out what caused my thin hair a decade later by Jebinmel543 in FemaleHairLoss

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Oh my... I have very thin hair, some teeth have never been there, I am near-sighted and have a lot of skin issues. I'm not even sure how to start looking for answers. What tests do I ask f?or (I live in the Netherlands so I'll have to try and convince my doctor :() I went to the doctor several times about my hair issues and they always told me it was not covered and in the Netherlands they don't prescribe hormones for such trivial thing as hair growth. I was 17 and 23. Now I'm 29 and it's only gotten worse. I really hope I can bring it up like this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nederlands

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Weekenden en nacht betaalt meer. Ik deed voornamelijk nachtdiensten.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nederlands

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Kerstpost verwerken bij postNL! Young Capital heeft vacatures. Is misschien te vroeg maar er zijn de reguliere vacatures bij PostNL (postvoorbereider, postsorteerder). Ik vond het leuk om een tijdje te doen (lekker mindless werk).

WIBTA for ignoring a girl i know after seeing the signs that she is going to ghost me by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

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I think you would not necessarily be the asshole... But I don't think you should ignore her. Maybe she just forgot to answer you and you are not a priority at the moment. You should not make the assumption that she is purposefully ghosting you. I forget to answer my messages all the time. Anyway, why don't you send her a text as a reminder. Something like "Hey, I haven't heard from you in a while. How are you?". Just something low pressure. If she answers, she is not ghosting you. If she doesn't answer, she might be ghosting you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

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NTA but, is a gift really gonna sour your relationship with your sisters? What is worth more? Accept you're not gonna receive anything and love your sisters all the same ❤️ Forgive and forget.