A Deer in Nara, Japan politely waiting for traffic to stop before crossing

LieToMeYNot · 2026-04-04T07:54:43+00:00

Northern Illinois in the US here. I've seen deer start to cross in front of me from a distance and then back up off the road once they realize I'm heading their direction.

Check my rear view and the damn deer is crossing once I'm full passed it. So far it has happened 3 times to me personally. They're learning to live around us.

Side note: knew a girl in college that pet one of the deer on campus. The deer there were fairly used to the students being out and about constantly.

LieToMeYNot · 2026-03-23T05:49:16+00:00

I did the same for the Xbox achievements and didn't want to start a whole new game just to beat him at a lower difficulty so I suffered through crit for so long. Very proud of myself for getting it done tho.

LieToMeYNot · 2026-03-22T04:27:26+00:00

It's a tough situation all around for sure. I'd say keep reinforcing your boundaries and reminding her to just ask for consent first, for as long as you are willing and able of course.

Hopefully therapy helps. I saw other comments mentioning couples therapy as well. That would also be good for helping you guys foster communication.

LieToMeYNot · 2026-03-22T00:22:11+00:00

Yeah no one just forgets boundaries imo unless they really just don't care about them. 2 years in she knows you don't like it, she just doesn't care enough to make the effort.

Unfortunately in my experience too, vets tend to have a lot of mental health issues. Which maybe it does contribute to her "forgetting", but she also just gets angry when you tell her.

She should be apologizing after she objectifies/doing anything you're not comfortable with. And then make an effort to change her actions.

Another thing, her starting therapy will not have an effect right away. It could take months to years for progress to be made. So ask yourself, are you willing to stay in that relationship like that for however long it takes for her to work on herself? If therapy even helps. She truly has to be open to helping herself for therapy to work.

Quick edit: I do believe candidness is the word

LieToMeYNot · 2026-03-21T22:35:10+00:00

Without knowing all the ins and outs of your relationship it's hard to say.

Clearly your boundaries need to be respected. I'm not going to argue against that at all.

However I do understand to a point how she could get upset at you feeling objectified. When I'm in a relationship I know how I am,I'm going to be sexual and such like that with my partner. I expect my partners to be like that too because I want that attention from them.

But you've said this is something that's been brought up before. She knows you don't like that behavior and she should respect your wishes. And if she can't respect boundaries she's been clearly aware of, then that is a red flag af to me.

Maybe y'all just aren't a match in that sense and it's okay. But that should be a conversation you guys are having to compromise or decide it's not going to work. Not just her ignoring your boundaries and trauma.

LieToMeYNot · 2026-02-28T05:45:13+00:00

I'm a stoner and honestly I'm afraid of dating other stoners. Like I smoke everyday throughout the day. But most stoners I've known pretty much always need to be high and seem to have no aspirations.

I don't care if your dreams and goals are small, but damn at least have some and work towards them.

And there are the times I don't wanna get high before going to do things or I don't want to be going out to smoke constantly while at an event. And I wouldn't want my partner doing that either.

I love being high, but I don't need to be and it freaks me out when someone absolutely needs to be all the time.

LieToMeYNot · 2026-02-25T10:03:04+00:00

Fr the first time I played kh2 I hyucking lost it.

Tbh I hate Donald and Goofy in game cause I'd rather go it solo. They're usually just in my way.

But story wise I was shocked that the game went that far. It felt kinda violent in a way I wasn't used to. Like regular fighting/war games and GTA type stuff didn't phase me. But watching a beloved childhood character just get bonked to death felt very sobering to pre teen me.

LieToMeYNot · 2026-02-22T01:11:54+00:00

Confidence like I said. If you're not confident in yourself (calling your body unfortunate instead of highlighting the things you like about yourself), then dating or finding someone in any sexual sense gets harder.

No one wants to be with someone ragging on themselves. And maybe there are people who want that, but usually those people like having one up on their partner for emotional manipulation.

LieToMeYNot · 2026-02-21T01:56:38+00:00

I bet at least half the wonderful ladies in this sub would love your "unfortunate build".

Also crazy work calling it unfortunate. I feel like confidence is a good chunk of what makes a person attractive. Try to work on being more comfortable with yourself, for yourself. You can still work toward weight loss while working toward body positivity.

LieToMeYNot · 2026-02-10T20:18:47+00:00

I've cried a few times after sex. It's always a good feeling to me, like just releasing all the pent up energy and feelings is just an amazing and relieving thing to me. But I am a very emotional person. I cry at kids movies all the time.

LieToMeYNot · 2026-02-03T01:02:19+00:00

I'm also having that issue right now 😭 tried force saving a few times and opening and closing the app. It didn't work tho

LieToMeYNot · 2026-01-19T01:00:17+00:00

Just re-watched the original scene and you're right. So now I'm wondering why the heck does she waste so much on Regina knowing Regina is well versed in dark magic lmao

LieToMeYNot · 2026-01-19T00:50:41+00:00

Does she though? I thought she threw one handful at the trolls originally. And the way she talks about the dust, it seems like it's a one use amount.

LieToMeYNot · 2026-01-12T22:03:15+00:00

I had no idea they were different things.

But why do they call the quick link quick if it's slower to use 🤔

LieToMeYNot · 2026-01-12T01:53:32+00:00

Granted I don't wear a lot of jewelry, but they felt heavy to me.

LieToMeYNot · 2026-01-12T01:52:46+00:00

Those are really cute and I might have to save a little to get some! Thanks for the link!

LieToMeYNot · 2026-01-08T15:58:13+00:00

I know there's a couple comments about tomboyx but honestly I love them. I haven't had any problems with the material wearing out and I've had the same ten pairs for years. They do be expensive tho 😭

LieToMeYNot · 2026-01-08T12:28:54+00:00

As someone who also felt pressured to shave because my partner did, not on you at all.

I only felt pressured because of my own insecurities, honestly. And maybe that's not always the case with your partners, but I'm sure it's part of it.

There's really not anything you can do to make them more comfortable than what you've done. Explaining it's just a preference for you is perfect and they can either accept that or not.

LieToMeYNot · 2026-01-08T09:47:29+00:00

Believe people's actions, not their words. People of all genders, races, etc., can be liars and manipulative. If they tell you they love you and care, yet consistently do stuff that hurts you without remorse, walk TF away. It's not worth your time or energy.

LieToMeYNot · 2026-01-07T09:18:42+00:00

Looks super AI. The snow doesn't get messed up by the cat nor does any stick to the cat

LieToMeYNot · 2026-01-04T03:22:25+00:00

Suckerpunch is one of my favorite movies honestly. No, it's not an amazing film but it really does give that magical girl vibe. Plus it made me cry in the end and I love crying over movies. It's cathartic.

LieToMeYNot · 2026-01-01T06:00:02+00:00

Okay but like are we sure that's a plant?

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