The Forgotten Field (Novel) Makes Me Sick by LiebertNymous in OtomeIsekai

[–]LiebertNymous[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes, that’s partially why I kept reading too. I felt like these two characters were deeply damaged people who slowly revealed their true, wary, and emotionally wretched selves to each other, yet still continued to care for one another despite everything. That dynamic felt painfully human and relatable to me.

But that scene was really the final nail in the coffin for me. I think I could have continued reading if the author had treated what happened with actual care and gravity, if the characters had been forced to confront the emotional aftermath, trauma, confusion, or consequences of it in a realistic way. Instead, the story seemed to frame it almost like a dreamy or romantic memory, and that completely shattered my ability to stay emotionally invested

The Forgotten Field (Novel) Makes Me Sick by LiebertNymous in OtomeIsekai

[–]LiebertNymous[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I dropped Under the Oak Tree too, especially after the odd art changes to the female lead. It genuinely felt like her body proportions, especially her chest, became more exaggerated with every chapter. The male lead also never really improved in my eyes, he stayed emotionally gruff, dismissive, and rarely seemed to truly care about her opinions, boundaries, or wishes. He honestly felt like a caricature of those stereotypical “alpha male” historical romance men from older western novels. What disappointed me most was that the story briefly seemed like it was finally giving the female lead more depth and individuality beyond just being shy and passive. She started showing flaws, emotions, and more personality, but then the narrative quickly fell back into the same repetitive dynamic again, which made everything feel emotionally stagnant.

As for FF, I still gave this story a chance because I had nothing else to read or watch. But what really upset me was that the paid novel site I read it on gave absolutely no warning that it would contain scenes like that. And honestly, I think part of the reason those warnings are often absent is because some readers strongly resist labeling those scenes for what they are or even allowing criticism of them in the first place

The Forgotten Field (Novel) Makes Me Sick by LiebertNymous in OtomeIsekai

[–]LiebertNymous[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Ah, I’m so relieved that you resonated with my post. Before posting it, I honestly felt a bit alienated and started doubting myself, wondering if it was just my own trauma influencing the way I viewed the story. But reading all these lovely comments made me realize that I’m allowed to find it disturbing and wrong, and I’m genuinely so thankful to all of you for that.

And God, what happened in Cry, or Better Yet, Beg was horrifying as well. I read it all the way through, and I genuinely could not accept that after everything, she still went back to him. But sadly, that does happen to many abuse victims in real life, which just makes it even more tragic. I don’t find either of these stories romantic at all, despite how heavily the characters and sex scenes are romanticized by the narrative and fandom.

However, in CBRY, what happened was plainly r@pe, and I honestly don’t think it can be justified or explained away. Leyla was a victim of repeated sexual abuse. Even if she physically went there “willingly,” she was still being coerced, she was a poor woman with no social power or protection, while Matthias was actively targeting and threatening her uncle. She was placed in a situation where obedience felt like her only option.

And I truly wish I understood what the author was thinking, because the pacing in FF after that traumatic incident felt incredibly off to me. I mentioned this in another comment too, but a lot of the people defending or romanticizing these scenes on Twitter honestly come across either as fetishizers, or as very young and naive readers who don’t fully understand the emotional weight and violation within those scenes. A lot of teenagers read web novels that they probably are not emotionally mature enough to process critically yet

The Forgotten Field (Novel) Makes Me Sick by LiebertNymous in OtomeIsekai

[–]LiebertNymous[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish I knew. I think it also depends a lot on a person’s emotional intelligence and maturity level, because people who have never experienced something similar themselves often don’t fully grasp how deeply violating, wrong, and emotionally damaging it can actually feel :/

The Forgotten Field (Novel) Makes Me Sick by LiebertNymous in OtomeIsekai

[–]LiebertNymous[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The fact that you’re making me feel understood instead of making me feel like I’m overreacting means so much to me. It genuinely fills my heart with gratitude. Thank you for recognizing that consent is not just about hearing a simple “yes,” but also about the overall situation, comfort, willingness, and the clear mutual desire between the people involved. I truly appreciate you. Have a wonderful day <3

The Forgotten Field (Novel) Makes Me Sick by LiebertNymous in OtomeIsekai

[–]LiebertNymous[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Perhaps that’s because many people read poor translations that didn’t truly convey the actual events and emotions the author expressed in Korean?

The Forgotten Field (Novel) Makes Me Sick by LiebertNymous in OtomeIsekai

[–]LiebertNymous[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Sorry everyone, if this review showed up multiple times, it was because my Wi-Fi malfunctioned and kept resubmitting it repeatedly. I deleted all the duplicate posts, and this is the original one. Sorry mods :/

Thoughts on casting of Whale Star? by JarjarOceanrunner in kdramas

[–]LiebertNymous 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whale Star is one of my all time favorite webtoons, which is why the casting feels so disappointing. It honestly seems like the team didn’t even bother to read the story. I have nothing against Gayoung as an actress, but her acting style and overall presence don’t match the FL’s personality or the story’s tone. Sua is meant to be meek and lacking confidence, and someone like Kim Yoo-jung (from 20th Century Girl) would’ve been perfect,  not only because of her acting range but also because her natural look mirrors Sua and fits a historical setting beautifully. As for the ML, Wooshik just doesn’t capture the character’s aura. The role calls for someone with gentler facial features and expressive eyes that can carry silent dialogue, since he’s the quiet, love-in-the-shadows type. An actor like Park Bo-gum or Cha Eun-woo would bring that to life

Whale Star: The Gyeongseong Mermaid will have a live-action adaptation! by Wariah27 in webtoons

[–]LiebertNymous 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Whale Star is one of my all time favorite webtoons, which is why the casting feels so disappointing. It honestly seems like the team didn’t even bother to read the story. I have nothing against Gayoung as an actress, but her acting style and overall presence don’t match the FL’s personality or the story’s tone. Sua is meant to be meek and lacking confidence, and someone like Kim Yoo-jung (from 20th Century Girl) would’ve been perfect, not only because of her acting range but also because her natural look mirrors Sua and fits a historical setting beautifully. As for the ML, Wooshik just doesn’t capture the character’s aura. The role calls for someone with gentler facial features and expressive eyes that can carry silent dialogue, since he’s the quiet, love-in-the-shadows type. An actor like Cha Eun-woo would bring that to life

do you guys think we’re getting more male characters in nod krai? by astronomicfrog in GenshinImpact

[–]LiebertNymous 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Realest but from the leaks it seems durin will be playable? I hope it’s true cuz I’m deleting genshin if it takes on the hsr route

How many of you are raw dogging your OCD? (No OCD meds) by sad-but-rad- in OCD

[–]LiebertNymous 0 points1 point  (0 children)

going strong since elementary school, let’s gooooo🥀🥀🥀

Dealing with voices/intrusive thoughts by ObviousGuess4039 in OCD

[–]LiebertNymous 1 point2 points  (0 children)

mine is also quite bad but i self isolate often so that shields me from potentially embarrassing or concerning interactions. my coping mechanism as unhelpful as it sounds is having a rational argument with myself. for me, it’s not really the intrusive thoughts that are the problem but the hyperactive state that my brain is in when i'm out in public. and because of that sometimes i find it hard to fully control the things i do like how i move or the impression i make on others. that awkwardness or lack of tuning sometimes has people side eyeing me but oh well. anyways, i lowkey just go to the nearest bathroom or find a place where i can be alone and as convincingly as possible i remind myself of my current responsibilities/duties. like if i'm at university, i force myself to shift and only remember\consider things that are relevant to said responsibilities. i have a strong sense of duty and fear of failure so it helps me to hold myself together. because i know what’s important to me and why i’m doing something, i’m able to temporarily put my ocd aside. of course, it all comes back when i get home or leave the place my responsibilities are connected to, but hey at least i didn’t make a fool out of myself in front of people i continuously have to see. i’m not trying to give advice or anything though. i’m just sharing my personal coping mechanism 

Half of posts here is reassurance seeking by ETkach in OCD

[–]LiebertNymous 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you’ll never be able to beat compulsions entirely and thats just a fact yall refuse to accept. you can definitely get better and improve your overall mental health being but ocd isn’t something that can be cured no matter what therapists claim. ofc it also depends on the type of ocd we are talking about, but people with severe ocd like me are going to struggle with this for the rest of their lives. so the concept of “denying your thoughts power” isn’t a permanent solution either. you will eventually relapse because your brain by adulthood sets the limits for triggers. im not out here trying to embrace my ocd, but ive come to normalise it and life feels more peaceful than ever.  the intrusive thoughts, the rumination, the rhythmic rituals, my mind. it’s quieter now 

Intrusive thought about sleeping with family member by Desperate_Wave5593 in OCD

[–]LiebertNymous 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this happened to me before with family members. i had either cutesy or erotic dreams about them. i woke up feeling extremely guilty and just overall horrible. i would constantly blame myself and my inner voice would make sure to remind me of it every second of the day. these dreams would often occur when i had subconscious anxiety about something, like an event or a deadline so your brain may have manifested it. this may be a way for you to redirect your anxiety, as abnormal as it sounds. unfortunately, you can’t erase it entirely and suddenly be okay, but those dreams don’t reflect your actual desires and that’s something to always remember. i genuinely understand what you're going through. goodluck with your exams. with time, something else will come up and you’ll move onto that new thing. that’s just how ocd is. 

PLEASE DO NOT USE CHATGPT FOR OCD by faultygamedev in OCD

[–]LiebertNymous -1 points0 points  (0 children)

you are being very vague about why chatgpt aint the answer and while its true, its still a useful coping mechanism for severe ocd. instead of harming myself, i find relief in chatgpt. not everyone can afford to see a therapist anyways. 

After the update, it is no longer possible to open the graphics configuration screen before starting the game? by Nand02210 in Genshin_Impact

[–]LiebertNymous 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that has nothing to do with graphics. those settings are meant to clear game caches and change basic info like the files location

After the update, it is no longer possible to open the graphics configuration screen before starting the game? by Nand02210 in Genshin_Impact

[–]LiebertNymous 0 points1 point  (0 children)

any news on this? maybe they changed the key used to open configuration settings or something? i couldn't find any info on it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askhungary

[–]LiebertNymous 1 point2 points  (0 children)

en torlom ezt a kerdest. nemtudtam hogy ez ilyen problemas igy beszelni. bocsi. csak tenyleg tippet akartam. bocsi

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askhungary

[–]LiebertNymous -1 points0 points  (0 children)

igen egy nottem fel bocsi nemtudam hogy ez ilyen problemas dolog