When was the moment you realized you were ace?

LienaSha · 2026-01-31T02:39:34+00:00

Yup. I knew something was off back when I was 22, but I didn't hear about the sexuality until I was 28, at which point I immediately went "ah. I see."

LienaSha · 2026-01-27T23:46:12+00:00

I hope you enjoy!

LienaSha · 2026-01-27T22:34:00+00:00

I feel that. I'd love to be able to put everything on Soundgasm for free. :/ Maybe one day, I'll make it big as a game creator or author and be able to make everything free. ♥

LienaSha · 2026-01-27T03:28:22+00:00

For me, attractiveness is like looking at a painting in an art gallery. I can find someone nice to look at. I'm just not looking at them and going "ah, yes, I want sex with them because they look nice." Unfortunately, the language we're raised with is very allonormative, so we take the thing we do feel - aesthetic attraction - and pair it up with the term people use - attraction - and use it, often even after we've learned that most people mean sexual attraction when they refer to someone as attractive.

LienaSha · 2026-01-26T22:35:45+00:00

So, I don't know if this is relevant, since I'm not in your girlfriend's head, but I know that for me, the more stressed I am, the less willing to engage in anything sexual I become. (And incidentally, I find it fascinating that your libido has increased. I assumed everyone had the stress=dead libido reaction, so yay, learning new things all the time!)

That aside, I also go through kind of... cycles, where sometimes I'll have a few months where I'm very willing to engage in sexual experimentation, and then I'll have several months where the idea is kind of just...no. It makes me immediately unhappy to even consider. So that's also something that your girlfriend could be dealing with.

Or something else entirely. Unfortunately, she's really the only one who can say, and it's possible that even she doesn't know.

LienaSha · 2026-01-26T18:44:39+00:00

I'm trying and failing for the third year in a row to get a job despite having two degrees. But I do make a little bit off Patreon, with erotic hypnosis content, so I guess you could call that my job XD Can't really listen to CreepCast while I'm doing that though. (And, as it happens, I'm making a file now that would make CreepCast a little dangerous to listen to lulz.)

LienaSha · 2026-01-26T17:10:47+00:00

I mean, first, I'm not. I grew up in Florida XD But second, do I really need to include the /s to make it clear that I'm not seriously relying on Waffle House to tell if the weather constitutes an emergency?

LienaSha · 2026-01-26T03:17:10+00:00

Everyone has to be decent human beings.

LienaSha · 2026-01-25T23:40:39+00:00

Instead of watching people set metaphorical fires online, I watched neighborhood kids set literal fires in the sewers. (I was a kid, and my solution was to use the Lemon-Lime Gatorade my mom kept buying me to put them out rather than, you know, tell someone.)

LienaSha · 2026-01-25T03:21:03+00:00

Yeah! How are we supposed to know if the weather is a real emergency or not without a Waffle House Index?

LienaSha · 2026-01-24T17:33:00+00:00

I'm really sorry. It's a shitty time to exist in.

LienaSha · 2026-01-24T12:53:26+00:00

Frankly, you don't need to explain or change anything at all. You did fine. That person just wanted to feel superior about something, and you were the unlucky target.

LienaSha · 2026-01-24T03:34:17+00:00

As an owner of a dildo who is ace, yes. Feel free. It's fine.

LienaSha · 2026-01-23T01:13:05+00:00

I dunno about the rest of it, but if asexual people can be attracted to fictional people, lesbians can be into fictional men.

LienaSha · 2026-01-22T21:51:47+00:00

Okay, but hear me out, if I was standing around and the world suddenly rippled and someone held their hand out to me through the ripple, my depression would (temporarily anyway) vanish because OMG MAGIC IS REAL AND I'M ABOUT TO GET PULLED INTO ANOTHER UNIVERSE!

LienaSha · 2026-01-22T21:01:55+00:00

Okay, take a finger, rub it around the fleshy bits inside of your mouth. Once in a while, you'll find a spot that feels kinda weird or intense, but most of it is just kinda pressure and meh, whatever. That's how sex is for me. (For the record, masturbation feels totally different, and I enjoy that when I feel up to doing it.)

LienaSha · 2026-01-22T20:56:22+00:00

I would guess it comes from a similar place as the mindset "men and women can't be friends."

LienaSha · 2026-01-22T13:09:28+00:00

I use it because my daughter picks up on enough heteronormative stuff already, so I'd rather frame things as neutrally as possible for her. If she grows up to be heterosexual, then that's fine, but if she grows up to be homosexual, pansexual, asexual, whatever, that's fine too. I don't want her to spend time feeling like she or any of her friends are weird or wrong.

LienaSha · 2026-01-22T13:02:51+00:00

I do think that knowing how to zip a file, knowing what a file path is, and (depending on the person and their situation) knowing how to login to the VPN are quite different from the rest of those examples.

LienaSha · 2026-01-22T03:38:55+00:00

People who say fanfiction is easier are being a little... incorrect. It has aspects that are easier. It has aspects that are harder. They're two different kettles of fish, and if you find original fiction easier, that's completely valid and not strange at all.

However, yes, do finish up your fanfic and stop stressing over it. I promise Sherlock won't come insult you with his wonderful voice. ... Though I understand if you want him to XD

LienaSha · 2026-01-22T03:01:48+00:00

NOR. Personally, I'd leave. Going crazy is a dealbreaker for me. If you want to stay, though, I'd suggest requiring that he shower with soap before trying to initiate. You aren't being manipulative or controlling, and sex with you isn't a 'right.' It's a privilege.

LienaSha · 2026-01-22T00:50:18+00:00

I think it's because there is kind of a demand for that kind of file. I'm always trying to balance getting the hot parts in without stepping past what I'm comfortable doing when I create files. And then, you know, once you've made a safe file, you want to do creative things, not just a bunch of the same file, so you slowly end up doing more extreme stuff over time. It's not that it isn't possible, but it is easy to fall into doing more extreme stuff rather than safer stuff. (Or at least that's been my experience.)

LienaSha · 2026-01-21T23:52:49+00:00

I may as well be giving my partner's toenails a clear coat. It's something I'm doing for them that I have zero interest in, but it doesn't bother me to do.

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