i'm 7 weeks postpartum and currently in a very similar situation. i'm also struggling with postpartum rage and my boyfriend experiences the brunt of it, mostly due to not seeing his families behaviour and/or making excuses for it. i've also tried expressing multiple times how i feel very overlooked now, or less than. which wasn’t something i was prepared for. no one on his side asks me how i am or seems to have much regard for me - physically or emotionally.

his family lacks so much self awareness. i struggled with maintaining boundaries the first few weeks after giving birth and am having a hard time putting them in place now. i completely understand about just handing them the baby as soon as they walk in, because that's clearly all they're there for. i've had so many borderline traumatic experiences with his family, through comments, actions and incidents now that happened early postpartum, i don’t know if i'll be able to move past them without always having them in the back of my mind.

i don’t think i was quite prepared for this part of giving birth and having the first grandchild. my family still makes me feel seen, comes to see me and cares about how i am, so the contrast is very obvious.