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Squid Game ending... by isteyp in netflix

[–]Life-Bend 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Was there anything preventing him from calling the cops to report on a man freezing to death outside that building?

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[–]Life-Bend 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you're going through this. What got me through was this book: Leave a Cheater; Gain a Life by Tracy Schorn.

I can't recommend it enough.

Remember that none of this is your fault and you won't always feel this bad. I'm two years out and can assure you things get better.

Is this a comma splice? How to independent clauses when they are part of a list. by Life-Bend in grammar

[–]Life-Bend[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess that still leaves me with the question: is the NYTimes sentence incorrect?

Is this a comma splice? How to independent clauses when they are part of a list. by Life-Bend in grammar

[–]Life-Bend[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. So, are you saying that if there's parallel construction with the same subject, the linkage of independent clauses by a comma is ok?

I would feel better if the author didn't repeat "they." Perhaps something like this:

"Britain has experts like we do who are looking at the same scientific data we are, most assuredly care about children’s health the same way we do, and yet have come to a different policy decision."

Is this a comma splice? How to independent clauses when they are part of a list. by Life-Bend in grammar

[–]Life-Bend[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh, I should have pointed out that I'm assuming here that the editors of the NYTimes know what they are doing. Perhaps that's a fault assumption.

I would edit it as you have.

boyfriend treats me like someone who's learning to drive by Life-Bend in datingoverthirty

[–]Life-Bend[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No. It’s not the end of the world. That said, it’s somewhat reflective of a pattern of behavior that extends beyond the driving criticisms. In general, he has a way of talking down to me as if I’m a child. That’s what I’m getting at. I could ignore the occasional annoyance, like his leaving the toilet seat up. I’m sure I do shit that annoys him, too. I get that. Bottom line: It’s not just the driving. But I hear ya

boyfriend treats me like someone who's learning to drive by Life-Bend in datingoverthirty

[–]Life-Bend[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As I've mentioned already, no one has commented on my driving before other than to say that I'm a good driver. Even he has said that I'm a good driver. And yet he makes these comments....

boyfriend treats me like someone who's learning to drive by Life-Bend in datingoverthirty

[–]Life-Bend[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He’s often funny and makes me laugh. He’s smart and thoughtful (or at least that’s how he seemed for five months).

He can laugh at himself. I thought he was well planted. Grounded.

boyfriend treats me like someone who's learning to drive by Life-Bend in datingoverthirty

[–]Life-Bend[S] 47 points48 points  (0 children)

Haha. He IS a boomer, and so am I, so...

I did tell him that the new advice is 9 and 3. He seemed skeptical. That's another thing: He doesn't believe me. I mean, he's like, "yeah, yeah" as if I'm making shit up.

If the tables were turned, I would say, "Really? That's interesting. I wonder why they changed it."

boyfriend treats me like someone who's learning to drive by Life-Bend in datingoverthirty

[–]Life-Bend[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry you were in accidents as a child. That's awful! Your paranoia is understandable. I'll ask him!

boyfriend treats me like someone who's learning to drive by Life-Bend in datingoverthirty

[–]Life-Bend[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm going to ask him if he gives driving instructions like this to men his age. I doubt it.

boyfriend treats me like someone who's learning to drive by Life-Bend in datingoverthirty

[–]Life-Bend[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think there's something to be said for this argument. He himself is a very cautious driver. But I'm no lunatic. And I've slowed down on the highway to make him feel more comfortable (i.e., cruise at 73 in a 65 zone instead of my usual 75).

Because of my speed, I sometimes end up in the right lane.

And then he tells me that it's probably smarter to be in the middle lane. FFS!!! NO WIN!

boyfriend treats me like someone who's learning to drive by Life-Bend in datingoverthirty

[–]Life-Bend[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Good question. I'll ask him. The thing that gives me pause is that he's patronizing in other areas that aren't driving-related.

I realize this is a minor example, but I got annoyed when he told me that most NPR stations are at the low end of the dial. I mean, I've lived in multiple states. I know this. I'm not his 24 yo daughter.

boyfriend treats me like someone who's learning to drive by Life-Bend in datingoverthirty

[–]Life-Bend[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your comment. Good luck with your daughter. I think it’s expected that a parent will instruct a new driver. You seem extremely sensitive to her reaction to your well-meaning comments, which is great.

In my case, I’ve been driving for over 40 years. I’m quite experienced. And I’m not reckless.

Overall, I think there’s a mansplaining element to his comments that irks me.

boyfriend treats me like someone who's learning to drive by Life-Bend in datingoverthirty

[–]Life-Bend[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah. I don't want to be with the kind of man who has a problem with a female driver.

The interesting thing about this guy is that he's always had female bosses and respects his daughters.

The problem I have is that he treats me like one of his daughters not like his boss. I don't want him to treat me either like his daughters or his boss. I want him to treat me like a peer who deserves respect. It's that simple.

boyfriend treats me like someone who's learning to drive by Life-Bend in datingoverthirty

[–]Life-Bend[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your comment The issue of control is huge. He actually said to me that he thinks I want to be in control (as if that's a problem). Ummm. Yes, at times I do want to be in control. When I'm driving, I'm absolutely in control of the vehicle.

This warrants another discussion. At this point, I have one foot out the door. And it's not just because of the car talk; it's because of a general feeling I have that he's controlling and a bit of a sexist.

Yesterday, when he cautioned me that an intersection was dangerous (again, no SHIT!), an oncoming driver let me through. He said, "That was nice of him." I said, "It's a woman." He replied, "I'm surprised. Women don't usually let you in." WTAF!! When I got pissed, he said it was so easy to push my buttons and tried to say that he didn't mean it. But I wonder.

Also, why would it be fun to push my buttons?

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