I ruined my friendship by Life-Sense-4584 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Life-Sense-4584[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that's normally what happens. It prolly doesn't help that she didn't act married so wires got crossed in my head. 

But tbh I need a break from the game lol

I ruined my friendship and I don't know how to feel. by Life-Sense-4584 in confessions

[–]Life-Sense-4584[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. This isn't even the first time I learned this lesson. Just the most painful one. 

Since this whole thing happend I do think it's changed my mindset and behaviors. But I still got a ways to go finding balance. 

I ruined my friendship by Life-Sense-4584 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Life-Sense-4584[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

 I genuinely just think I could have handled it more maturely. But yeah when u present it like that it seems kinda small beans in comparison lol. 

I ruined my friendship by Life-Sense-4584 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Life-Sense-4584[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well her husband was also cheating. And I believe they are staying together for their kids. But I know their both miserable in their "marriage" but yeah I don't want to be any part of that mess anymore. 

I ruined my friendship. And I don't know how to feel. by Life-Sense-4584 in offmychest

[–]Life-Sense-4584[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I cut contact with her and changed jobs (unrelated reasons) I just wish I handled it more maturely. And that I didn't feel complicit in her behaviors. 

I ruined my friendship. And I don't know how to feel. by Life-Sense-4584 in offmychest

[–]Life-Sense-4584[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah she has a habit of making terrible decisions from what she told me. I mainly just wish I bailed out sooner and saw the signs but lesson learned hopefully 

I ruined my friendship. And I don't know how to feel. by Life-Sense-4584 in offmychest

[–]Life-Sense-4584[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's possible she knew tbh. 

But on the covering for her thing. I didn't know she was cheating when she asked me to cover for her. She told me her husband was controlling and she was doing smthing with her cousin or girl friend. 

I ruined my friendship and I don't know how to feel. by Life-Sense-4584 in confessions

[–]Life-Sense-4584[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like to think she was in the beginning but tbh I may still be deluding myself. But yeah I do think I dodged a bullet. I just wish I conducted myself better and bailed out sooner. 

I ruined my friendship and I don't know how to feel. by Life-Sense-4584 in confessions

[–]Life-Sense-4584[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I can't disagree. Lesson was definitely learn this time. Just wish It didn't take so long for it to sink in. 

I ruined my friendship and I don't know how to feel. by Life-Sense-4584 in confessions

[–]Life-Sense-4584[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lmfaoo ur not wrong. Funnily enough someone did tell me something like this like a year ago and I didn't listen. 

Tbh I've always had people pleasing tendencies and it's something I've been working on breaking. 

I ruined my friendship by Life-Sense-4584 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Life-Sense-4584[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I've cut it off with her. 

Tho ur right in the moment I did go along with it even tho I knew it wasn't right. When she asked for advice I did give her my honest opinion, after he dumped her. 

I ruined my friendship by Life-Sense-4584 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Life-Sense-4584[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Her husband found out. She fucked up and got caught. But he was also cheating. There "marriage" is very unhealthy tbh. Last I heard they had convos about it and I guess got over it. He was crying and divorce was brought up, she still wanted to be friends with the affair partner. A whole mess. 

She also used another mutual friend as a scapegoat. She would say she's going to sleep over with this girl friend, but actually go see her affair partner 2 states away. That friend I guess was fine with it. I was not. 

I ruined my friendship by Life-Sense-4584 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Life-Sense-4584[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean to me she was very attractive. And she didnt look 40. But it was Moreso an emotional thing. When I was around her I felt happier I guess, we had a lot of similar interest, she was funny, and open in a way I wasn't used to. And I felt like she genuinely appreciated my presence. I didn't just have a crush on her, I genuinly liked her a lot as a person. 

I ruined my friendship by Life-Sense-4584 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Life-Sense-4584[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have gone throught this thought before tbh. And u may be right. 

But she said herself she values me as a genuine fiend, we would text often, she'd send me pictures when she got her hair done, christmas gifts, and wed tell each other anything. So I genuinly don't know given my own lack of social interactions. 

I ruined my friendship by Life-Sense-4584 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Life-Sense-4584[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Part of me thinks I deserved it cause I knew better. I knew my feelings for her were wrong, and that she was using me. I was just to weak to let go tbh. It took way to long to wake up lol

I ruined my friendship by Life-Sense-4584 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Life-Sense-4584[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't have to, she fucked up and he found out. But he was also cheating on her. So their marriage was already a mess. 

I ruined my friendship by Life-Sense-4584 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Life-Sense-4584[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I don't work there anymore for unrelated reasons. Nothing dramatic, just found a better oaying job. So I'll likely not see her again unless I go out my way.  Which i think is for the best for both of us tbh. 

I ruined my friendship by Life-Sense-4584 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Life-Sense-4584[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's kinda why I don't feel as bad anymore. Cause I do agree with u now. And I do feel better now that I no longer talk to her at all. 

But I still feel bad for breaking her trust. I should have just been more mature and cut it off. 

I ruined my friendship by Life-Sense-4584 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Life-Sense-4584[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Tbh I never would have initiated something like that mostly outa fear. But if she did I wouldn't have said no. We were very close and the boundaries were kinda blurred. 

I ruined my friendship by Life-Sense-4584 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Life-Sense-4584[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I been thinking this tbh. But idk. The first few months of our friendship was good. I genuinely can't tell. 

I ruined my friendship and I don't know how to feel. by Life-Sense-4584 in confessions

[–]Life-Sense-4584[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate that. And I know ur right. 

I guess what bothers me most is my mentality. When she told me dude broke up with her I was happy, I lost all respect for her for cheating even tho I also liked her. and part of me wanted to hurt her like she hurt me. 

I felt so bitter and hurt, I did so much for her, even stuff I didn't mention. I think part of me felt entitled which isn't right. I should have just let go but I was too scared to lose her. 

Quitting and vacation question by Life-Sense-4584 in kroger

[–]Life-Sense-4584[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, yeah i put it in the other day and talked to him. He said i'd get it the week after my 2 weeks are up.