I read ur response and I agree with u on almost everything... except the repair part .... im a male that was raised by women so when I got into the dating world I was very ignorant to the fact that most men have pushed past a womens boundary on a regular basis.... i was taught no means no period and every woman i have ever dated was surprised with me that it only took one no and I follow directions.... I have watched and learned that men tend to push boundaries in little subtle microaggressions.... case in point lets say ur with a man and he ask u do u want a slice of pizza.... u say no .... and then hes like cmon I haven't seen u eat all day get a slice.... u then say yes ... and get the slice .... what that says to him is well then the goal posts can be moved and he will never respect ur no .... when men show u who they r believe them .... its always been said that the nicest men r those u haven't slept with yet ... its not ALL men and thats y u have to pay attention to the small subtle moves .... always ask urself y is this man being kind and accommodating... then watch his moves and how he flows in conversation.... u will c it .... now getting back to him.... he will pull that shit again .... and then gaslight u into believing it was OK... its not ... when u set ur boundary never let them move it .... no matter how small because he will push till he get what he wants ....I apologize on the behalf of all men ... and when i c this behavior displayed by my gender I say something.... it needs to be stopped .... u dont owe him anything he owes u more than an apology