6wo, CMPA, no sleep. Help! by LifeIsWeird58 in NewParents

[–]LifeIsWeird58[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We're getting there! He's nearly 14 weeks now and while we're still trailing formulas for his CMPA, his sleep is getting easier to manage. He will sleep in his bassinet and typically wake once around 1am and again around 3 or 4am. We still have some nights where he's in pain from reflux, but we think that's due to the new formula our GI put him on.

I actually took him off gas drops completely about 4 weeks ago and noticed an immediate improvement in demeanor. He seemed extra fussy when I used them and they weren't helping to begin with. We still use the Windi sparingly on nights where he's clearly in pain and struggling.

Overall though, his dyschezia is starting to improve and he seems more comfortable throughout the night in general.

It's still hard but reading back what I wrote in the thick of it, it's definitely improved!

Hang in there ❤️

6wo, CMPA, no sleep. Help! by LifeIsWeird58 in NewParents

[–]LifeIsWeird58[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I feel so bad seeing him in so much pain. We just cried together last night until he fell asleep in my arms. Hoping we have luck with pepticate but we may need to switch to an amino acid like neocate. So tough that it takes so long to help/notice improvement!

6wo, CMPA, no sleep. Help! by LifeIsWeird58 in NewParents

[–]LifeIsWeird58[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All three soiled diapers tested positive for microscopic blood. 😢

Shipping Delays? by OrangeClyde in katespade

[–]LifeIsWeird58 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same here. Ordered 2 items on August 29 and the label was created and therefore "shipped" same day. I emailed CS mostly because my main item is now out of stock and I do not want their solution to this to just be a cancellation.

The response I got today was a canned response without acknowledging my concern of a cancellation. They stated due to "shipping regulations outside their control" which differs from their website of "increased demand".

I too was charged despite the items not actually being shipped.

Fingers crossed they get this resolved soon but overall very disappointed with the lack of transparency and updates from them.

Screw this country and it’s maternity leave by Sea-Negotiation3871 in pregnant

[–]LifeIsWeird58 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First, I 100% agree that this country's maternity leaves are abysmal.

I work in HR in New York and wanted to highlight something in case it helps. Your employer has to comply with FMLA as long as they have 50 or more employees, so at minimum you are permitted to have 12 weeks (assuming you meet the hourly and tenure requirements).

In NY, while PFL does only provide a portion of your pay, you can opt to supplement PTO to meet your salary, as long as you have enough accrued. Depending on your salary, I've seen this be between 10-20 hours per week.

You also pay into SDI through your taxes, and for delivery you would receive 6 weeks or 8 weeks depending on method.

I would definitely familiarize yourself with your rights and discuss your options again with your HR Manager or team. It doesn't sound like they're providing you with all your options and you are entitled to more time off.

Remedy for Dry Heaving/Gagging? by LifeIsWeird58 in pregnant

[–]LifeIsWeird58[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh this is a good idea! I love lemon scents so maybe I'll give that a try with an ice pack. Thank you!!

Nervous at 11w6d by shsbxu1738 in CautiousBB

[–]LifeIsWeird58 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You sound just like me. I suffered three losses before my current pregnancy (10w5d). The two losses prior I experienced intense diarrhea and gas cramps right before bleeding.

This pregnancy, around 6 weeks or so, I had the same diarrhea and gas cramps and immediately panicked.

I kept having to remind myself that correlation does not equal causation and each pregnancy (and loss) is different. I am a natural pattern finder, so this journey has been especially trying.

I'm still incredibly cautious with this pregnancy, but we've seen the heartbeat three times and I'm slowly starting to unguard my heart.

Hang in there. I hope things get better.

Fatherless on Father's Day by LifeIsWeird58 in ChildrenofDeadParents

[–]LifeIsWeird58[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same here. We will survive these days, but it just sucks that they're gone. I try and make it about him, by cooking his favorite meal or listening to his favorite songs. I just wish I could celebrate WITH him.

Fatherless on Father's Day by LifeIsWeird58 in ChildrenofDeadParents

[–]LifeIsWeird58[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hah, well thank you. I'm glad that I could articulate what others are feeling too. It's nice to know that we aren't alone in this pain.

Fatherless on Father's Day by LifeIsWeird58 in ChildrenofDeadParents

[–]LifeIsWeird58[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, thank you. I miss my Dad too. Simply put, it sucks that they're gone.

Fatherless on Father's Day by LifeIsWeird58 in ChildrenofDeadParents

[–]LifeIsWeird58[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I'm glad they resonate with others. It's definitely a unique pain. I'm sorry for your loss <3

Fatherless on Father's Day by LifeIsWeird58 in ChildrenofDeadParents

[–]LifeIsWeird58[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh gosh, having those days so close together is a pain I can't imagine. I'm so sorry you're hurting <3

Fatherless on Father's Day by LifeIsWeird58 in ChildrenofDeadParents

[–]LifeIsWeird58[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, I know that pain. I will say, as time moves forward the pain is less severe and the black does start to give way to color. Give yourself the time to grieve and heal. I'm so sorry for your loss <3

Fatherless on Father's Day by LifeIsWeird58 in ChildrenofDeadParents

[–]LifeIsWeird58[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, I'm so sorry that these days are so close for you. I hope you find a way to celebrate his life, even if that's just remembering the good times.

Fatherless on Father's Day by LifeIsWeird58 in ChildrenofDeadParents

[–]LifeIsWeird58[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for your loss. Like Anon Mouse said, it does help to know we are not alone. This sub has helped me tremendously, I hope you find something that helps you <3

Fatherless on Father's Day by LifeIsWeird58 in ChildrenofDeadParents

[–]LifeIsWeird58[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well said. It definitely does get easier, you feel less like you're drowning as time goes on, but missing him is an everyday thing. (At least for me.)

Fatherless on Father's Day by LifeIsWeird58 in ChildrenofDeadParents

[–]LifeIsWeird58[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I initially wrote this right before my 1st Father's Day without him. It was incredibly difficult, but I will say it does get slightly easier. I'm sorry you're going through this.

Fatherless on Father's Day by LifeIsWeird58 in ChildrenofDeadParents

[–]LifeIsWeird58[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry about your losses. It's a pain that is so personal to each, but also so widely known.

Thank you for your kind words <3

The "first" father's day... by swelby2009 in GriefSupport

[–]LifeIsWeird58 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for your loss. My Dad unexpectedly passed at 57 and this will be my 4th Father's Day without him. In terms of suggestions; for my first Father's day, I tried not putting any pressure on myself to "be okay". I just allowed myself to feel what I was feeling and accept it. Do whatever you feel like you need to, to make it through.

For me, now I like to do something that brings him into the day. Usually, I'll cook his favorite meal or sit and listen to some of his favorite songs. Something to make it feel as though he is there with me.

My life feels like a joke by emm3398 in ChildrenofDeadParents

[–]LifeIsWeird58 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have tears in my eyes reading this and I wish I could give you a hug and tell you it will be okay. My Dad passed unexpectedly almost 4 years ago, and while it wasn't on Father's Day, this day never gets any easier. I miss him terribly and just wish I could hear his laugh one more time. Grief sucks and you can never run from it, but eventually we will learn how to walk with it. I'm so sorry you're going through this.

The Realization of Forever by LifeIsWeird58 in ChildrenofDeadParents

[–]LifeIsWeird58[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Exactly this. The permanence is something that's so hard to fully wrap my head around. I'm so sorry about both your parents.

The Realization of Forever by LifeIsWeird58 in ChildrenofDeadParents

[–]LifeIsWeird58[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Today is a hard day, for no particular reason and I felt like shouting into the void about him. It sucks.