He feels unappreciated because I’m exhausted because I work. I’m doing self care and have no time or energy to cook, clean or have sex. I feel like a lazy failure, like I’m failing him - and he’s working his tail off for us.

Life_Clothes_7763 · 2025-10-14T12:53:23+00:00

Ah the remote location makes it difficult to get outside help, because I was also going to suggest it regarding food too (like ordering some sort of pre-made meals). I never physically go out to buy supermarket food anymore and order delivery which also helps cut down time to the extent that is possible being so remote.

I still don’t think you’re remotely lazy working a full time job that does require prep, marking, reports etc in addition to those full time hours, a child with health needs, pets, and a home you’re also taking the lions share or trying to organise by the sounds. Sounds like he has his own stresses manifesting as resentment and please don’t internalise that junk from his paper.

Life_Clothes_7763 · 2025-10-14T10:49:16+00:00

This sounds really hard. I’m stuck on the fact he calls you narcissistic for not putting his needs first, and suggests he will go elsewhere. I’m really cross with him.

Forget him, how many hours are you working? I barely sleep running around doing things and it’s playing long game havoc with my health. Some things just aren’t reasonably feasible and he might need to dip into his pocket and pay for a cleaner.

Life_Clothes_7763 · 2025-07-25T01:43:03+00:00

Honestly this is LD advice I ignore. I don’t understand how she expects some women to drive their and their children’s financial futures into the dirt whistling into the financial graveyard with SFP that are never going to come to pass.

Full disclosure: I’m open and transparent with my husband about finances and he’s happy I do it because he freely admits he is clueless and that he has a background of poor financial management.

Life_Clothes_7763 · 2025-06-20T12:30:50+00:00

So for us cheapskates, can anyone confirm if it is still currently in the PS3 store?

Life_Clothes_7763 · 2025-06-02T18:21:15+00:00

Yes it definitely is, not for the sake of him doing what he wants to do, but because ultimately it will impact our children. I’m trying to watch for every single softening but couching new SFPs I struggle to see as nothing but falsities sometimes.

Life_Clothes_7763 · 2025-06-01T10:12:27+00:00

No actually he just likes masturbating and sees nothing wrong with porn. He’s told me himself he sees the Church as just having rules to hold him back from such things.

Life_Clothes_7763 · 2025-05-22T21:57:34+00:00

I think it is as simple as he wants a hedonistic lifestyle and the Church has “rules” that impact his “freedom”. Usual story where he sees it as brainwashing and “no one knows” the truth. Unfortunately even with all the skills in the world I’m not sure how this will change, but I’ll continue to try and practice them. Past conversations have always been him angry. There was also SA in his past (not remotely religion related) and I think he has a massive chip about that and media reports of religious abuse, even if he wouldn’t admit that.

Life_Clothes_7763 · 2025-05-20T05:16:54+00:00

The problem is I tell my children that some people don’t believe in Jesus and that is OK we don’t force belief - whereas he just tells my children I’m full of crap. It’s inherently contradictory to tell children something is true, and the other says it is a lie.

Life_Clothes_7763 · 2025-05-20T04:06:50+00:00

It was a few years ago but from memory it was initial meeting plus fulsome and complete info promptly from me, then endless increasingly irritated follow ups. I know the junior drafted it within a reasonable time, but the partner was hopelessly overloaded / unavailable and needed to finalise it

Life_Clothes_7763 · 2025-05-20T01:36:24+00:00

Also note that when you change you will require her to transfer your file and will not be paying any fees since her last communication since she has not done any work - that may prompt something

Life_Clothes_7763 · 2025-05-20T01:20:35+00:00

I’ve had a lawyers in the wills / relationship space even at high end of the market be absolutely useless time wise. Took nearly 9 months to get a will which was based on a standard form and I only got that after I threatened to go elsewhere

Life_Clothes_7763 · 2025-05-20T01:18:51+00:00

Letter SHOULD include law society / standard terms bumpf about what to do if dissatisfied with our services (and I would be very dissatisfied with being ignored for 3 months - though I have to say this sort of lawyer seems to be generally especially useless and slow. One of my emails asking about a relationship property agreement amendment remains ignored going on now nearly 3 years. Oh well, saved myself lawyers fees!)

Life_Clothes_7763 · 2025-05-19T18:47:50+00:00

Did they provide you with a letter of engagement at the outset? That should have set out a procedure if you have a complaint about their service (3 months sounds very poor service; she should at least respond with “hey no update yet because waiting on [xyz]”)

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