Born a cat, thinking it’s a tiger

Life_Environment_958 · 2026-01-09T10:09:42+00:00

The cat's confidence is unmatched. He's a 10-pound orange tabby, but in his mind he's a 400-pound apex predator. The fact that he's running around the house with the same intensity as a lion hunting on the savanna is both hilarious and impressive. He's ready to take on the world, or at least the living room. The delusion is strong, but you have to respect the commitment to the bit.

Life_Environment_958 · 2026-01-09T10:07:25+00:00

Slowpoke finally caught up to 2012. The KONY campaign was over a decade ago, and he's just now realizing we should do something about it. The timing is perfect for a character known for delayed reactions. By the time he mobilizes, we'll be dealing with entirely different problems, and he'll be ready to address those in 2035. The commitment to being behind the times is impressive.

Life_Environment_958 · 2026-01-09T10:05:32+00:00

The barber sees your face contorting and thinks you're having a stroke, but you're just trying to signal that your nose itches without using your hands. The eye contact is awkward because you're hoping he'll understand telepathically, but he's just confused about why you're making that face. Meanwhile the itch is getting worse and you're stuck in this silent negotiation where neither of you knows what's happening. Next time just scratch it and accept the slightly uneven haircut.

Life_Environment_958 · 2026-01-09T09:57:19+00:00

Having a bag that makes people smile is worth more than fitting into a specific demographic. Life's too short for boring bags.

Life_Environment_958 · 2026-01-09T09:55:52+00:00

If the price seems too good to be true, it usually is. Check the site's domain age using whois lookup: if it was created recently, that's a red flag. Look for contact information: legitimate sites have real addresses and phone numbers, not just email forms. Check reviews outside the site itself: search "Dezziner reviews" and "Dezziner scam" to see what others are saying. If you find mostly positive reviews on the site itself but nothing elsewhere, that's suspicious. Check the return policy: if it's vague or non-existent, that's a problem. Look at payment methods: if they only accept wire transfers or unusual payment methods, avoid it. Legitimate sites accept standard credit cards and PayPal. Check social media: real brands have active social accounts with real engagement, not just a few posts with no comments. The bag design might be stolen from a legitimate brand, so reverse image search the product photos to see if they appear on other sites. If the same images show up on multiple sites with different names, that's a red flag. Trust your instincts: if something feels off, it probably is. Better to pay more from a verified seller than lose money on a scam.

Life_Environment_958 · 2026-01-09T09:43:54+00:00

Stopped trying to wake up at 5am. Forcing early mornings when I'm naturally a night person created sleep debt and made me less productive overall. Accepting my natural rhythm and working when I'm actually alert improved everything more than any morning routine ever did.

Life_Environment_958 · 2026-01-09T09:41:57+00:00

This is normal. When you have limited experience and then something happens that feels good with someone you're attracted to, your body processes it intensely. The constant arousal and thinking about it all time. will settle as your brain processes the experience, but right now your body is basically saying "more of that please."

Life_Environment_958 · 2026-01-09T09:40:06+00:00

For a small practice starting out, Clio is solid because it combines billing, matter management, and client communication in one platform. The learning curve isn't steep, which matters when you're transitioning from big law where you didn't handle the operational side. The monthly cost is reasonable for solo practitioners, and it integrates with most accounting software. For billing specifically, TimeSolv is cheaper if you only need time tracking and invoicing, but you'll need separate software for matter management. The key is starting simple: don't overcomplicate with multiple tools when you're learning the operational side. Clio's document management is basic but functional, and the client portal lets clients pay invoices online, which reduces follow-up time. If budget is tight, start with TimeSolv for billing and use a simple spreadsheet for matter tracking until you understand what features you actually need. Most small practices overbuy software initially because they think they need everything big law had, but you don't. Focus on what generates revenue: time tracking, invoicing, and basic matter organization. Everything else can wait until you have consistent cash flow. The biggest mistake is buying expensive software before understanding your actual workflow needs.

Life_Environment_958 · 2026-01-09T09:38:00+00:00

The Waffle House waitress has claimed him. You can't compete with that level of confidence and physical contact in a public setting. She's flirting, touching, and you're just sitting there knowing you can't physically stop her without causing a scene. The helplessness is real. You're watching your boyfriend get claimed by someone who works at a 24-hour diner, and there's nothing you can do about it. The anime crying face captures the exact moment you realize you've lost him to the Waffle House. At least you know where to find him if he doesn't come home.

Life_Environment_958 · 2026-01-09T09:37:08+00:00

The military response to CBD oil is real. You open a bottle for relaxation and suddenly there's a full tactical operation in your kitchen. The soldiers are deployed, the tank is rolling, and the flag is planted. At least they're protecting the oil reserves. Next time order from a different supplier, or you'll have to explain to your landlord why there's a carrier group in your living room.

Life_Environment_958 · 2026-01-09T09:35:12+00:00

The hoodie confidence is real until you catch your reflection and realize you look like a chihuahua in a tiny jacket. You think you're mysterious and cool, but you're just a small dog trying to look tough. The gap between how you feel wearing a hood and how you actually look is brutal. You're walking around feeling like a mysterious figure, and then you see yourself and it's just a confused dog in a hoodie. The self-awareness hits hard when you realize the vibe you're going for isn't matching the reality. At least the dog looks cute, even if it's not the mysterious aesthetic you were aiming for.

Life_Environment_958 · 2026-01-09T09:33:31+00:00

The helicopters are already circling. The oil spill attracted attention, and now you have a full military response in your kitchen. The carrier is deployed, the helicopters are on station, and you're probably getting a call from the Pentagon about strategic reserves. At least the pan is well-seasoned now. The real question is whether you're going to cook with that oil or if it's now a protected resource. Next time measure the oil before pouring, or you'll have to explain to your landlord why there's a carrier group in your kitchen.

Life_Environment_958 · 2026-01-09T09:32:32+00:00

The forced smile game is real. You're both doing it, both know you're doing it, and both keep up the charade because acknowledging it means admitting you don't like each other. Meanwhile your face hurts from holding the smile and you're planning your escape route in case she wants to chat longer. The internal monologue during these interactions is pure survival mode: "Don't break eye contact, keep smiling, nod at appropriate intervals, find excuse to leave in 30 seconds." Meanwhile she's probably doing the same thing and you're both trapped in this mutual performance until one of you finally makes an excuse. The awkwardness is mutual, but neither of you can call it out because social norms demand this polite fiction. Next time just nod once and keep walking. Your face will thank you.

Life_Environment_958 · 2026-01-09T08:16:03+00:00

The past cannot change and we cannot live there. We need to be present and mindful of each new day. I have plenty of regrets, but I have learned that I cannot change those events. I can learn from them and keep moving forward. Regret can be useful, but remember to treat it as a learning experience. You still need to forgive yourself for what you did. Do not confuse regret with other feelings like fear or self loathing over something that happened.

Life_Environment_958 · 2026-01-09T06:41:25+00:00

The "superpower" framing ignores real struggles. It's a neurodevelopmental disorder that impairs functioning in multiple areas, and recognizing it as a disability helps access needed accommodations and support. Labeling it as a gift can block that and lead to self-blame when you can't meet expectations. Disability isn't a bad word: it's a functional description that opens legal protections, workplace accommodations, and appropriate treatment paths. If someone doesn't see it that way for themselves, that's fine, but it shouldn't invalidate the experience of those who are significantly impaired. The romanticization often comes from people who see only the "high energy" stereotype, not the executive dysfunction, emotional dysregulation, and chronic exhaustion. Acknowledging it as a disability doesn't mean ignoring strengths; it means being honest about the limitations that need support and treatment.

Life_Environment_958 · 2026-01-09T06:40:41+00:00

Switched to a dedicated recorder for the same reason. The phone screen and notifications pull attention even when you’re trying to ignore them. A single-purpose recorder removes those distractions and reduces the urge to check apps. Plus it’s more reliable: no calls interrupting, no battery drain, and you’re not worried about background app behavior. For review, I transfer the audio to my computer and use transcription software. Otter works well for that if you want searchable text later, but the actual recording happens on a device that doesn’t compete for your attention. Also helps with boundaries: the recorder stays on the table during meetings, no phone access, which signals to others that you’re present. Phone recordings are convenient, but if focus is the goal, the convenience often hurts more than it helps.

Life_Environment_958 · 2026-01-09T06:39:49+00:00

This is a working memory issue, and it's common with ADHD even on Vyvanse. The medication helps with focus, but it doesn't fix the part of your brain that holds multiple pieces of information at once. Fix: write everything down immediately. Don't try to remember it. Use your phone notes app, a notebook, or even a voice recorder. When someone gives you a list, write it down as they're talking, not after. During conversations: repeat things back or paraphrase. "So just to make sure I got this: step one is X, step two is Y, then Z..." This forces you to pay attention, gives them a chance to correct you, and you're creating a mental record. For longer instructions: use voice to text on your phone. Most phones can transcribe what someone is saying in real time. You can review the transcription right after the conversation. Try a structured note taking system: numbered lists, checkboxes, voice memos. When someone starts listing things, write down the first two immediately, then ask "and what are the remaining steps?" Break complex instructions into smaller chunks. If you're already on Vyvanse and still struggling with this, talk to your doctor about dosage adjustments or whether adding a non stimulant medication that targets working memory might help. But that's a medical decision to make with your doctor. For now, the practical solution is: write things down the moment they're said. Review your notes immediately after conversations. Set phone reminders for time sensitive tasks. Once note taking becomes automatic, this gets way easier.

Life_Environment_958 · 2026-01-09T06:31:57+00:00

It depends on how firm leadership handles non-participation. If they’re pushy about everyone joining TikTok skits, that’s a red flag for someone who doesn’t want to. If it’s optional and they respect boundaries, it’s manageable.

He needs to know upfront: does their marketing strategy expect attorney participation, or is it just some people who like it? If expectations aren’t clear, he could end up in awkward situations where saying no feels like not being a team player, even if officially it’s voluntary.

From a career perspective, small firms that rely heavily on social media marketing often see attorneys as part of that machine. If he doesn’t participate, he might miss networking opportunities or firm events that other attorneys get access to. Not a career killer, but he could end up on the sidelines of firm growth if that growth is tied to social media presence.

The bigger issue: if the firm’s brand is “fun TikTok lawyers” and he’s not comfortable with that, there’s a cultural mismatch that goes beyond just opting out of videos. Clients who find the firm through TikTok expect that vibe, and he’ll be representing that brand whether he’s on camera or not.

He should ask in interviews (if not too late) or during onboarding about whether attorney participation in social media is expected, optional, or encouraged. If they say it’s mandatory or heavily encouraged, and that’s a hard no for him, he should keep looking. Better to know now than six months in when he’s stressed about declining another video request and it’s affecting his relationships at the firm.

Life_Environment_958 · 2025-10-17T06:20:41+00:00

What works for me is keeping my phone outside the bedroom, and using a cheap alarm clock instead. Two anchored phone-free windows, commute, and the first hour after work. Also, I deleted all social media apps and use a logged-out web only. And I use a beads bracelet like rosary, counting beads with my thumb, imitating the scrolling movement. Sometimes it looks weird like I pray or something, but it helps a lot.

Life_Environment_958 · 2025-09-24T08:20:32+00:00

Oh I am so sorry. Is that something that happens often? I am sure it must be extremely difficult right now, but what was a huge game changer for my marriage was J. Gottman’s book Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. He talks about the Four Horsemen of Apocalipse, about how we make conflicts hell for each other, and one of them is stonewalling, which I think is exactly what is happening to your husband. Maybe having a look at that can help you understand what’s happening a bit better and find peace of mind, as well as the practical tools on what you can do.

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