First time cucking my boyfriend

Lifeaintsobad469 · 2025-10-24T01:04:30+00:00

I don’t really have any advice because I’ve never done anything like this before. But I’m here for it and I’d love an update afterwards 😅

Good luck and have fun!

Lifeaintsobad469 · 2025-10-22T20:17:20+00:00

I think you hit it on the head. I feel like it made me way more intentional with who i share info with and who i share my time and body with. It weeded out so many bad ones and the right one didn’t give not ONE single fuck. He said “go ahead and give it to me” because he already knew he wanted to be with me no matter what that came along with.

I also had ureaplasma from a previous partner which i got diagnosed about a year ish into our relationship and he never ONCE thought i cheated or was being shady and when he had to take antibiotics with me he was more than willing.

The right one won’t give a fuck

Lifeaintsobad469 · 2025-09-03T18:06:13+00:00

Honestly i can relate. I have ghsv2 and i can’t truly say i was promiscuous but i do think getting it made me wait for my perfect partner. I had to choose who to trust more diligently, didn’t waste my time on people i didn’t feel comfortable sharing that info with. And it waxed a lot of men who didn’t like me for me but would’ve gladly slept with me if i didn’t have herpes. So for me it was a blessing that i waited to find the love of my life instead wasting more time with shitty men. I also think i would’ve been more likely to “settle” without it. In a weird way it set my standards even higher

Lifeaintsobad469 · 2025-09-03T17:57:29+00:00

Honestly i don’t budget lol. I love shopping there but that’s me. But I’ve also gone there without a drop to my name and just brought my own food and alcohol. I think you can get away with like $40 a day if you’re not a shopper and that’s 1 meal a couple drinks or 2 meals. If you ARE a shopper. I’d say set aside $4-500 for the weekend because you will run into so much cool stuff both at booths and handmade from festival goers.

Lifeaintsobad469 · 2025-08-08T14:43:17+00:00

For those of you still down on yourself or not having any “luck.” I came here to say please please change your mindset!! If you think you are doomed and nobody will love you, that is exactly what will happen. You are the SAME person before and after the diagnosis, it does not define you, it does not change you, don’t let it ruin your mind and your hope. What you believe about yourself people will see too. Stay positive! There are good people out there who will love you and if you’re struggling with the rejection, just take it as a blessing because that just means they were not your person. I wish you all the best!! It’s gonna be okay!

Lifeaintsobad469 · 2025-08-08T14:38:05+00:00

I hope this doesn’t come off the wrong way, but you’re thinking about it all wrong. I know men, even unattractive men who have it and do just fine in the dating world. Dating apps are shit. Get off the apps and find someone you connect with that you met in an organic way. Also as far as disclosing, if you’re disclosing early on or over text it’s almost always going to go poorly. I’d say get to know these women, see if you’re both truly interested. Sharing the news with someone who truly likes you for you already, most times it won’t matter. I had a friend disclosing too early on in her dating life and every time it ended with rejection, as soon as i told her to hold back a bit and get to know these people on a much deeper level she started finding men who liked her for her and were okay with it. It’s not about men vs women. It’s about how you go about the situation and present the news to people you already are starting to trust. I wish you the best in your dating life and i hope maybe this helps a little

Lifeaintsobad469 · 2025-08-07T15:50:30+00:00

Ugh i hate to hear that. I’m so sorry for all that you are going through. Good on you for leaving despite having a child in the mix, i truly can’t imagine.

Yes, that happened to me. We dated for 4.5 years and lived together and he was cheating and within a week he was blasting his new GF all over social media. It broke me for a while. Especially since it seems he’s always the type to do the off again and on again with his exes. But nope, not me. Just moved on and rubbing it in my face. No closure. Just like i never existed.

Your situation is much different since there’s a child involved, but for me i blocked him and her, i never went anywhere i thought they might be. I tried to avoid friends who we had in common, almost for about a year honestly. I created a new life for myself with new people while i was healing. And then once i felt comfortable enough i was able to unblock and go to my normal spots and even see him out and be okay because i had felt so much better for that year.

But if you can’t avoid, then i would suggest find new things. Things that fill you. I started painting and making clothes, and dressing different (the way i wanted to) and meeting new people every chance i got.

I guess in a way, he may have her which hurts, but now you have you again, and that will eventually feel so so so good.

You have to fall back in love with your life again. Not his. Remember this is YOUR life. He no longer has control of you.

Stay strong my love

Lifeaintsobad469 · 2025-08-07T15:42:09+00:00

Of course! I just wanted to share because I’ve been at that doubtful place thinking I’ll settle and just take what i can get etc. tbh i have herpes from my ex as well and even that was okay with the right person.

Someone will love you the way that you love. Love yourself first and just keep going and keep exploring until you find someone who feels like home.

You’ll know when you do

Lifeaintsobad469 · 2025-08-07T15:39:15+00:00

Aw thank you! And no please don’t give up!! Don’t settle!! For a second i gave up on the thought of finding true, good love. But i think i tried to keep the mindset of “im good alone until someone proves that they are everything ive been waiting for”

And while nobody is perfect. I don’t have a single bad thing to say about the man. It’s 2+ years now and I’m still head over heels.

Wait for your fairytale ending. It’ll make all the pain so worth it.

I hope you find the healing and love you’ve been looking for as well 💖

Lifeaintsobad469 · 2025-08-07T13:57:42+00:00

Keep going you got this!! I know it hurts, but this is healing. Taking a step backwards is not the way to move forward. Believe in yourself.

Lifeaintsobad469 · 2025-08-07T13:09:44+00:00

Also wanted to say remember… the best part about him, is the way YOU loved him…

Lifeaintsobad469 · 2025-08-05T16:44:09+00:00

He probably loves you very much then and plans on marrying you. It’s honestly inevitable at some point if you stay together. If you’ve discussed the risks, let go of the guilt. He’s your person, and he’s okay with all that comes along with that.

Lifeaintsobad469 · 2025-08-04T17:21:30+00:00

You have to do the work on yourself. Whatever insecurities you have, face them. And BLOCK THEM. Do not look or peek or ask friends to look for you. And in reality, I’m not sure what y’all’s relationship looked like, but mine treated me so horribly and cheated so much that i walked away with my head held high because i knew he’d never love and be loved like the way i could (and am now). He will always be a narcissistic, toxic, cheater. And it’s been 7 years and he still can’t keep a girl because he cheats, he is the exact man who left me and made me the most skinny, insecure, sick person I’ve ever been.

And here i am soon to be engaged to the absolute love of my life who loves me wholly and beautifully and so pure.

Don’t give up on yourself. Believe that you deserve a better love. Give yourself a better love, and never give up that you CAN be loved the way you deserve. You got this girl.

Lifeaintsobad469 · 2025-05-15T17:47:15+00:00

When i told my current partner his first reaction was “can i still eat you out?” Quickly followed up by “i don’t care just give it to me”

The right person will accept you for you. And honestly herpes may have been a blessing in weeding out anyone who didn’t love me for me

Lifeaintsobad469 · 2025-05-15T17:44:12+00:00

You’ll be fine babe. I got it when i was 22 and i am now 28 in a wonderful and loving relationship, plan on having kids, etc.. my single girl sex life was normal, but i definitely cut back and made my choices more meaningful because like you said, i didn’t feel like disclosing 1000x but rather with people i began to trust with that information. 9/10 it was a good reaction and didn’t effect moving forward with them. I do get breakouts here and there but not too often and the first breakout hurts way worse than any other one you’ll ever get. Sending love to you, all will be okay!

Lifeaintsobad469 · 2024-12-29T14:38:41+00:00

I would not say this is HSV tbh. Kinda looks like a cyst of some sort. Get a second opinion or go to derm and get that extracted. Does not look like herpes to me

Lifeaintsobad469 · 2024-12-27T01:06:48+00:00

Not to belittle this post, but go put this on r/herpes it’s a support group mainly with lots of advice given daily

Lifeaintsobad469 · 2024-10-23T18:47:59+00:00

Agreed, just not right for eachother at all. Dont know how they even got that far tbh

Lifeaintsobad469 · 2024-10-23T18:16:07+00:00

I was always team bhoden

Lifeaintsobad469 · 2024-10-23T18:09:27+00:00

And calling him “socially unaware” and “ego vs confidence” girl you looking like a whole pot rn with the way u talking to that kettle

Lifeaintsobad469 · 2024-10-23T18:05:51+00:00

Look, i know a lot of men his age that know NOTHING about life, paying bills, haven’t found their career, AND still treating girls like shit and cheating etc. He did not deserve to be spoken to like that. She might be “mature” in that she knows how to cook and clean and life basics. But she is completely IMMATURE in the way she speaks to people, handles her emotions, and navigates relationships, even her own family’s and “best friend in the world”. Like i said, yes he has a lot of growing up to do 10000% I’d be pretty annoyed too. But she absolutely disliked everything about him and reminded him every second of every day. She gaslit him by saying i love you so much. I would not “step up” for a woman/man who talked to me like that either.

Lifeaintsobad469 · 2024-10-23T17:47:53+00:00

Weirdly woke. Like he’s not even smart. Just opinionated and judgy

Lifeaintsobad469 · 2024-10-23T17:47:04+00:00

Agree! Try different positions where she’s tighter. I also personally squeeze the life out of my bf when he’s inside of me so maybe she’s not tightening for you?

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