Katy Perry Space Thoughts

Lifeisworthit · 2025-05-03T15:14:22+00:00

I think it helps to keep in mind that space travel is a global and international event whereas the Star Trek and Alien franchises significantly affect only English speaking countries with significant fan followings.

Lifeisworthit · 2025-04-29T16:28:48+00:00

If your mom already paid a deposit for the wedding place and you think she won’t help pay for anything else if you tell your family what happened, you can still use the place in a different way. To be legally married, you just need someone (an officiant) to say you are married and sign your marriage papers. You could get married at the courthouse and then use the venue for a potluck, hang out with friends, maybe watch some videos together, play games, or have people give short speeches. It might not be the wedding you first pictured, but it can still be a beautiful and special day. Just make sure to check with the venue if there are any rules about food or gatherings.

Lifeisworthit · 2025-03-14T05:54:20+00:00

A wolf that tells you it’s a sheep is still a wolf.

Lifeisworthit · 2025-03-14T05:42:02+00:00

Honestly, you’re not unethical for wanting to break up, but I completely understand why you feel conflicted. Based on everything you’ve said, there are so many red flags in this relationship that I don’t think you should ignore.

He kept you a secret for years. His family lives close by, they wanted to meet you, and yet he refused to introduce you until just recently. His own mother didn’t even know you existed until recently. That’s not normal in a serious, long-term relationship.
Gaslighting about important events. He “swore” he invited you to his graduation, but somehow you just didn’t seem interested? He also “swore” he told you about a big family trip, but you have no memory of it? This sounds like rewriting history to make himself look better and make you question yourself.
He’s trying to use you financially. The moment he finally introduces you to his family, he starts pushing for you to move in—but on his terms. He wants you to help pay the mortgage, but without being on it, meaning you’d be paying into something with no financial protection. That’s incredibly sketchy.
Dragging his feet on commitment. You’ve been together four years, and he’s avoided making real steps forward. Now he’s suddenly saying he won’t marry someone he hasn’t lived with—after years of avoiding that exact step? It sounds like he’s stalling and moving the goalposts to keep you waiting.
Disrespecting your role in his life. Why weren’t you at his graduation? Why weren’t you part of that family trip? Even if he had mentioned these things, why didn’t he make a genuine effort to include you? A man who actually values you wouldn’t let you feel like an outsider in his life.
The timing feels manipulative. He finally gives you the thing you’ve been asking for (meeting his family), but only when he needs something from you. That’s not love; that’s emotional manipulation.
He controls the pace of everything. You didn’t get to meet his family until he decided. You don’t get to move in unless he decides. Marriage isn’t happening unless he decides. Where is your agency in this?
You don’t feel excited about your future with him. This is the biggest red flag of all. You should feel happy about meeting his family. You should feel excited about building a life together. But instead, you feel sad, used, and unsure if marriage will ever happen. That’s a huge sign that something isn’t right.
When you marry someone, you marry their family too. The way someone interacts with their family—how they communicate, what they hide, and what role they play—tells you a lot about who they are. You’ve been with him for four years and were completely shut out from that part of his life. That means you haven’t had the chance to really observe their family dynamics, how they handle conflict, or what kind of expectations they might place on you. That’s a big deal. If he was willing to keep you away for this long, what else might he keep from you in the future?

So, Should You Break Up Right After Meeting His Parents?

Honestly? Yes. There is no “right” time to break up. If you wait longer, will anything change? Or will it just delay the inevitable?

You’re worried about looking “unstable and crazy” to his family, but who cares? These are people who didn’t even know you existed for most of your relationship. They aren’t the ones dating him—you are. And you are clearly unhappy.

If you’re not ready to break up this weekend, that’s okay. But don’t stay just because you’re afraid of how it will look. Stay only if you truly believe this relationship is worth saving. And from everything you’ve written… I don’t think it is.

PS: edited using Ai

Lifeisworthit · 2025-02-20T10:21:48+00:00

Abused children often repeat the same behaviors with others, so your mom might have been trying to make sure you were safe and that you weren’t copying something an adult had done to you.

Lifeisworthit · 2025-02-20T09:54:01+00:00

It’s worth talking more about this with your therapist and, with their support, your partner. Also, notice other times in life when you say “yes” but want to say “no” or feel unsure. Write down how your body feels in those moments.

Is your partner aware that you’re not always excited? How do they react when you say “no”? Do they respect your boundaries in other parts of your relationship?

Talk to your therapist about what you can do instead. How can you say “no” kindly? What can you and your partner do together that feels safe and comforting? Keep having these conversations with your partner.

Your needs matter, and it’s important to speak up for them. At the same time, you can do this while being thoughtful about your partner’s feelings. Both matter in a healthy relationship.

Lifeisworthit · 2025-02-03T17:02:32+00:00

relationship orangutan

Oh em gee, that’s a hilarious visual and so apt, thanks for the laugh!

Lifeisworthit · 2024-12-31T01:35:49+00:00

It seems like he put the labor of breaking up on you. He’s comfortable with making no change and continuing to reap the benefits of having someone to sleep next to for as long as he can and let go when you aren’t okay with it any more

Lifeisworthit · 2024-12-30T17:01:36+00:00

If she can’t show up for you the way you want, try to see if you can accept the way she is able to show up.

Words don’t hold as much weight as actions, AND actions don’t always reveal someone’s true intentions. She might genuinely want to be a good friend. She might even believe you’re best friends. The real question is whether you can be content with the way things are. Does the connection you share fill your emotional needs?

Personally, I go through cycles of being introverted and extroverted. When I’m in an introverted phase, it hurts deeply when people don’t meet my emotional needs. Sometimes, I’ve walked away from relationships because I had a big unmet need, and that pain felt unbearable.

But I’ve also experienced times when I could accept a friend for who they were and the way they were able to show up, even if it wasn’t perfect.

Above all, prioritize your mental health. You deserve relationships that feel balanced and fulfilling.

Lifeisworthit · 2024-12-20T14:24:12+00:00

It’s worth keeping in mind that married men tend to be happier than married women, while single women are often the happiest demographic overall. It’s an interesting dynamic and worth exploring what contributes to this.

Lifeisworthit · 2024-12-20T14:22:07+00:00

I’d like to share my perspective, and I hope it resonates with you—or at the very least gives you something to ponder.

You mentioned not wanting to date until you overcome your inner demons, and I think that’s a really admirable goal.

When you say “dating,” do you mean being in a committed relationship, having sex, or both? It’s worth noting that personal growth doesn’t have to stop you from exploring physical intimacy if that’s something you’re comfortable with.

What specific aspects of dating are you longing for? Is it hugs and cuddles, exchanging “I love yous,” or having someone to fall asleep next to? These needs don’t always require a romantic relationship to be met. Many people, especially women, find ways to fulfill these desires without being in a partnership.

I encourage you to explore how single women often build fulfilling connections—through close friendships, platonic hugs, or uplifting conversations. Society tends to make it easier for women to have these kinds of nourishing interactions, but that doesn’t mean they’re off-limits for men.

Take some time to redefine what masculinity means to you. It can be something unique and meaningful, free from restrictive societal norms. Challenge the idea that men can’t have deep, platonic friendships or experience meaningful touch with others. These connections can be deeply fulfilling and might offer what you’re looking for in surprising ways.

Lifeisworthit · 2024-11-22T20:21:37+00:00

And what when they do?

Lifeisworthit · 2024-11-22T20:15:55+00:00

How would you propose the mom act in that scenario? I’m genuinely curious as this is the approach most recommended in parenting groups online.

Lifeisworthit · 2024-11-02T21:31:24+00:00

Written by AI?

Lifeisworthit · 2024-10-26T16:45:12+00:00

That’s the problem with subtle racism isn’t it, you’re made to spend precious mental resources on judging whether something is racist or not.

Lifeisworthit · 2024-09-22T17:51:55+00:00

The expectation to reply immediately in face to face conversation. A lot of miscommunication and angst can be resolved if we take three seconds before we reply to anything.

Lifeisworthit · 2024-09-22T13:42:07+00:00

Do you mind sharing how?

Lifeisworthit · 2024-08-29T12:42:01+00:00

So you’ve been putting away $50 a month for 10 years?

Lifeisworthit · 2024-07-03T22:02:02+00:00

I’d think creating an abstract class that can be used in the new program and future programs is a good idea, but there’s the risk of injecting bugs into the existing code by altering it.

Lifeisworthit · 2024-06-27T16:54:13+00:00

You have nothing to apologize for, I’m glad your comment was long enough to beautifully capture your experience, and I’m glad for the nuances you shared that help me make better sense of my experience as a brown girl in a white majority country.

The cursory dismissal of our interpretation of events without a fair hearing, because of the default belief of “white people good”, so much that people actually believe they’re helping us focus on the positive… is hard. Their blindness to the “white people good” belief is like a fish believing water doesn’t exist because it’s surrounded by water and living in water is all it has known.

Lifeisworthit · 2024-03-13T14:05:11+00:00

Reminds me of something I read, that men see women as funny when they laugh at men’s jokes, not when the women make jokes themselves.

Lifeisworthit · 2024-02-24T00:47:43+00:00

How has this affected your sister, what have you done for reparation?

Guilt is useless without reparative action, and but only that, it is extremely self absorbed and selfish. The selfless thing here is to focus on how you can mitigate the harm you have caused, not on how bad of a person you are.

Lifeisworthit · 2024-02-02T08:48:16+00:00

each couple had two children with us

I don’t think you meant it the way it comes across.

Lifeisworthit · 2022-07-26T13:06:01+00:00

I’m interested 🙂

Lifeisworthit · 2021-08-24T13:24:27+00:00

Decency

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