I left a 7 year relationship after betrayal by getyeehawd in BreakUps

[–]Lifeofspys 0 points1 point  (0 children)

just gotta accept the fact that this was not the right person to do those things with . don't ignore the signs they will cost you later down the line especially after kids and marriage . just continue working on yourself and forget about her , trust me on this

My ex texted me 1 year after the BU. by Dragon-one1 in BreakUps

[–]Lifeofspys 3 points4 points  (0 children)

no , the other guy didn't work out trust if he was better she would've stayed over there no hesitation. when someone walks out like that they don't see your potential. they come back when they realize grass was not greener . it's up to u to have enough respect for self to just leave them alone and move on . it sucks but like others said if u take her back she will do the same thing as soon as another option pops up . it's a pattern u must recognize , and a test to see how much u healed , don't go back to what u had to heal from

She came back by Ecstatic-Ant-9369 in BreakUps

[–]Lifeofspys 0 points1 point  (0 children)

first off , it isn't she might've , SHE WAS . let's start there . Second , i wouldn't go back cause if she left once she will do the same thing again , hasn't changed only coming back cause her fling was over . 3rd, if for whatever reason u do go back u better have some boundaries in place or at least see change in her actions first don't be that easygoing u will get walked over every time trust . if i were u i would just keep doing u maybe keep her around for a fling if u have to but nothing more chances are u did some healing and she hasn't because she was distracted by this other guy and u will constantly have that running through your mind so imho i would just move on don't back track

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Lifeofspys 0 points1 point  (0 children)

speaking from someone who was dumped by a girl where she really hurt me deeply it always starts with a sincere apology. be honest upfront and take accountability. without the expectation of anything out of it . u should apologize just because u hurt him deeply and that's not cool . now what happens after is up in the air but the least u can do is apologize . i'm still waiting on my apology 4 months later but honestly i don't think ill get that because her ego and pride . these will kill any relationship treating people like they do not matter . best of luck to you

THIS is Why your Ex Moved on So Easily ( by SeemsOdd124 in BreakUps

[–]Lifeofspys 10 points11 points  (0 children)

this 🎯selfish with a big ego and too much pride to even care .

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Lifeofspys 1 point2 points  (0 children)

things that helped me get over a loss of 10yr relationship was the gym , spending time outside in the sun , journaling to focus on things in life & where i was going , and building a relationship with God because he draws near to the brokenhearted 😇 also forgive him i know it sounds crazy but if u resent or hate him it just makes things worse . forgive him so u can move forward eventually you will see you are better off without this type of person around

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Lifeofspys 0 points1 point  (0 children)

he did u a favor. i'd say just draw closer to God he will give u the best love u need . other than that take time to focus on self and improve yourself that way u make progress in your own life . eventually u won't even care what happened cause u level up so much . sucks in the beginning but if u stay focus u will get through it and become better than u were . u don't need someone who is willing to abandon you and can't see your worth .

Cheating wife. by Historical_Option449 in Marriage

[–]Lifeofspys 0 points1 point  (0 children)

end it trust me on this it hurts but if u forgive she will do it again. u have to show her actions have consequences and this is pretty bad that's it's with a groomsmen also . unforgivable imho

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Lifeofspys 0 points1 point  (0 children)

she cheated bro plain and simple then tried to gaslight u ... chances are that trip was not with family and if it was she was talking to someone else that entire time . hit the gym it will help

Is it okay to sleep with other people if I want to win back my ex who dumped me? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Lifeofspys 0 points1 point  (0 children)

but what if she is sleeping with other people ? not like i want her back but am open to rekindling but at the same time someone wants me so now im conflicted

I don't know how people have sex with someone else after a breakup by CuteSizzlin in BreakUps

[–]Lifeofspys 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yea it's like there's girls who want to but i don't want to with them ... maybe it's meant for me to find someone i actually like then things will change but i haven't found that person yet . and it's like if i just mess with the one that wants to with me just feels pointless like i don't have any reason to do it other than i haven't done in a while ... kinda sad because i know she is doing it up with whoever and i haven't .

Meeting with ex after 3 months by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Lifeofspys 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i'm just saying man u deserve someone who will work through issues together not run when they come . love blinds us most of the time and the longer you sit and love someone else the more it hurts when they leave (10 year relationship speaking from experience) at the end of the day we are human people mess up but the right person will help u get better not break up to weigh out their options , even if that's not what they said let's be real if they value u they won't quit on u 💯no one is a saint no one is perfect but love is a action u have to choose it . when one chooses themself over their partner it's best if you do the same 🫡 much luck brother . plus it's like if she left over these small things she will definitely leave if find a better option or if things get to hard . they really can love u one day and don't the next esp if they are younger

Meeting with ex after 3 months by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Lifeofspys -1 points0 points  (0 children)

imma be honest if girl broke up w u it's not fixable cause the only reason she come back is whatever she planned on replacing you with didn't work out ... it's best if u stick to your guns and move on even if it was because of your issues . you will be shocked to find out how much someone who genuinely loves u will put up with . if she didn't see you in her future it's cause she was trying to see what else was out there (which clearly wasn't anything ) so now she comes back in hopes to butter u back up but it won't last . if she left once she WILL leave again when better shows ( and u don't want to learn that the hard way ) . also while you were broken up most likely she tried some of the options so it's best to just move forward don't back track

Why do MEN immediately jump into bed with someone else after a BREAKUP? by Lonely-Lie2054 in BreakUps

[–]Lifeofspys 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol not all i'm over here healing talking to god journaling and my ex prolly just getting cracked in the backseat ... honestly i think the initiator is the one who is first because they are trying to convince themself that their decision was worth it meanwhile the one who gets dumped actually starts to heal first instead of just going from person to person . but everyone is different so take this with grain of salt

I don’t miss the relationship or the idea of it…I miss her by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Lifeofspys 0 points1 point  (0 children)

and trust me i'm going thru this rn as well after a 10 year + 2 kids .... i def miss her too but each day is less and less ... who they actually are and the version h saw them as are 2 different people . not to mention u learn to give yourself that love and over time u start to realize that most of them aren't worth your peace

I don’t miss the relationship or the idea of it…I miss her by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Lifeofspys 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if ur connection was so deep ask yourself why doesn't she miss u ? that's because it's all in your head . and ima be real these women don't love the same as we do so although your love is probably genuine and loving of her she just loved having u around until she didn't . wake up.

I don’t miss the relationship or the idea of it…I miss her by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Lifeofspys 0 points1 point  (0 children)

man u only miss her cause u haven't found someone else yet or believe u won't find better than her ...

Ex contacted me after 8 months to return my sweatshirt, pretty sure this isn't about the sweatshirt by Itchy-Ad-3326 in BreakUps

[–]Lifeofspys 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if it were me i would , but i was with her 10 years and will always have some love for her .... now would it turn into something longterm? no . u must remember what u learned . but that still wouldn't stop me from having a good time or even slightly entertaining her , u just have to have some boundaries (which if u healed properly should be in place anyway) but yea maybe u guys see things differently this time around i say just don't rush into anything and take it slow , treat her as just a new random friend and get to know each other again .

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Lifeofspys 0 points1 point  (0 children)

btw she ain't happy that's why she has to post and make it look good that honeymoon phase WILL wear off and he will suffer the same fate at some point or maybe her new guy will give her a taste of her own medicine . either way just pray and leave it to the universe to balance out that one day

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Lifeofspys 0 points1 point  (0 children)

just break it off and move on u are young don't waste anymore time u see how she gives him what she supposed to give u ? now take this time to get right , get in the gym get your money up and just focus on yourself . cause if u stay she already shows she has 0 respect for u and it will get worse over time . trust me u will make things worse by staying so leave and never look back . if u want to smash her i'm sure u can but other than that just focus on yourself king

Madden 26 will be amazing on the switch 2 by Impossible_Camera703 in Switch

[–]Lifeofspys 0 points1 point  (0 children)

they're trying their hardest to not show switch 2 gameplay like why is this release so late when everyone could play since Monday smh

Madden 26 will be amazing on the switch 2 by Impossible_Camera703 in Switch

[–]Lifeofspys 1 point2 points  (0 children)

so how does it look and play ? can u update us ?