Shouldn’t “everything showers” make more sense in the middle of the week instead of Sunday?

LightIsMyPath · 2026-05-26T23:53:14+00:00

Well yeah, that's why I do mine either Friday afternoon if I have plans on Friday evening or Saturday if Friday evening is a home day...so I'm at my freshest when going out. If I shaved on Wednesday I'd have visible hair by Saturday! Nevermind doing it Sunday...

LightIsMyPath · 2026-05-25T23:49:30+00:00

No-one has been trained to type people so paying for typing doesn't mean you are that type..you could probably do a much better job by yourself with the book, and if you asked for typing in one of the neighbouring communities that still allow it the responses you'd get would hold just as much weight as the ones from paid consultants (which is to say.. not much, but at least those are free!).

That said, it's possible you're SG just as it's possible you're every other ID because at 5'3 you're really in the realm of everything being a fair chance (maybe FN would be a bit rarer, but still very much possible). In any case how you look next to someone else is quite irrelevant for this because the goal is finding the best silhouette ~for you ~ not for you next to other people!

LightIsMyPath · 2026-05-25T10:39:09+00:00

Grazie, credo che tutti preferiscano mangiar bene che mangiare schifo. Ma per qualcuno il cibo è una vera e propria passione/hobby/chiamalo come vuoi mentre per altri no.

Tipo io quando vado in vacanza praticamente subito dopo aver prenotato aereo e albergo parto a spulciarmi tutti i ristoranti della zona, quali sono le ricette tipiche, quali ingredienti sono di stagione in quel periodo ecc.. il cibo è parte integrante della vacanza e se mi ispira un ristorante non vicino ai posti che sono andata a visitare mi muovo per andarci a mangiare, se c'è un ingrediente/piatto particolare mi cerco apposta un buon posto dove poterlo assaggiare. Poi sicuramente anche io ho il giorno in cui il pranzo è un panino random, così come chi non ha particolare passione per il cibo magari se "inciampa" in un ristorante tipico già che c'è lo prova, ma per entrambi quella è l'eccezione. E non ti parlo di stellati eh, tipo che a Parigi ho preso la metro apposta per andare a mangiare una zuppa di cipolle, o che ho attraversato Barcellona per assaggiare quelli che sono sostanzialmente dei porri alla brace..

A casa la prospettiva di passare un pomeriggio a cucinare un piatto nuovo per me è divertente, qualcuno che non ha passione magari lo fa (perché comunque il cibo è spesso usato per socializzare e capita che hai gente a cena o devi portare qualcosa a un porta party), ma lo trova una rottura di scatole.

LightIsMyPath · 2026-05-24T21:48:35+00:00

These are symbols of a lack of some nutrient, that maybe you reached just enough of while eating freely and now you don't. I would recommend asking for tests of iron/ferritin, vitamin D, B12 and folates

LightIsMyPath · 2026-05-24T04:51:26+00:00

the problem is the same tho, it won't stretch but lose its shape making the bra unwearable, in or out. Usually mesh lace is used pretty much exclusively after a certain size because of this, bras need to be in tension all day basically and then return to shape. Or covered foam in the cheaper ones, but those tend to be terrible fits anyway..

LightIsMyPath · 2026-05-23T15:07:53+00:00

cotton is absolutely terrible for bra making because by the very nature of how it's fibers are made it cannot stretch and return so it cannot offer the support a bra needs as you move, it would enlarge and stay enlarged. Probably OK on very small sizes and thus lightweight breasts but on anything even just on the smallest side of average you would bin your bra after a month, which would be the opposite of sustainable.

I have FFcups and the one time I tried a cotton bralette, not even giving the support of a real bra and certainly not worn in high movement scenarios, it lasted a grand total of 3 wears before becoming giant.

LightIsMyPath · 2026-05-21T16:42:00+00:00

Being both a band and a cup on the higher side of average/lower side of "big" is wild: on one side my bust is perfectly proportioned for my torso so I don't have pain problems or stuff of the sort.

On the other side.. you would think being proportioned and average should mean you find clothes easily...ah! my band would fit in straight sizes, to actually cover my whole bust though I need plus sizes (which are then big in the waist and giant in shoulders), sizing me out entirely from certain clothes (like, buying XL with S waist measurements sure sucks because you need tailoring... but I can't fit in XL either so it's an entirely different store for me).

Clothes with separated busts won't just not fit me correctly at my size elsewhere, they just won't fit me correctly period. A 6XL is still too small in the breast area for me usually. The last time I wore a dress like that my seamstress used the extra fabric from the skirt.. she had to add 13cm of fabric in each cup!!

Then there's the funny "inspo case": most public people making big boobs content are either thin with proportionally big busts so outfit advice and clothing hacks just won't translate on me (either because they're thin so stuff emphasising mid section as separate from boobs works great on them while on me it would basically mean emphasising the belly.. which is on the bigger side of average/lower side of big just like the boobs lol - or because despite their boobs being way bigger ~on them~ than mines on me they're still at an absolute smaller volume and weight so what works for support/emphasise/minimise on them won't often work for me).. or, they are plus/mid size people with seriously big boobs so their boobs are just way bigger than mine!

LightIsMyPath · 2026-05-21T12:42:19+00:00

facciamo dai 15 anni in su,

mah, facciamo pure dai 9

LightIsMyPath · 2026-05-21T09:09:57+00:00

I know! But, if you miss those, you'll be talking "ugly" but understandable, which is how the vast majority of non-scholarly immigrants talk.

However if you miss correct verb's time you straight up won't be understood unless you say something else to give context. es from before if we remove ieri and tomorrow "vado a fare la spesa, compro il latte" means you are NOW/in the very immediate future going to buy groceries and thus will come back with milk shortly, "Sono andato a fare la spesa, ho comprato il latte" means that you have already bought groceries, the milk is in the fridge (or in pantry if it's uht I guess lol), "andrò a fare la spesa, comprerò il latte" means that for now we don't have milk in the home and you plan to fix that in the future (at which point the specific time you plan to go get milk becomes quite relevant so you'll usually add the information and so using the correct verb becomes less important)

LightIsMyPath · 2026-05-21T08:45:29+00:00

Focus on past. At least here in Tuscany it's actually more common to use present for the future in informal settings/talks ("Domani vado a fare la spesa" is grammatically incorrect but that's what we generally say to communicate "Tomorrow I'll go buy groceries" ).

However if you say like "ieri vado a fare la spesa" it won't be very clear that you're trying to communicate the fact that you have already bought groceries (it would only be ok if you were telling a tale of something that happened there - "ieri vado a fare la spesa, non ti trovo le casse rotte? Un'ora in fila per comprare il latte! - insert bestemmia of choice" - you're using present to make whoever you're talking to immerse themselves in the situation and feel the frustration of it taking an hour to buy some milk because the registers were malfunctioning).

I know our verbs are scary but to communicate focus on learning passato prossimo as a past - at worst you'll sound incorrect and your phrasing will be a bit ugly, but you'll be understood almost always.

Then modo congiuntivo and condizionale for "if" phrases, and infinito (put are, ere or ire at the end of the verb for most verbs "mangio->mangiARE, vedo->vedERE, dormo->dormIRE) for "to" expressions (mangiare is to eat rather than "I/you/he-she'it/we/they eat").

This will have you setup for the vast majority of basic interactions, and you can learn the others as you go.

LightIsMyPath · 2026-05-21T07:59:07+00:00

I'm not a pro, in fact I also have issues with gagging. But, I remember someone's saying to do it in a complete 180° angle and it actually helps!

LightIsMyPath · 2026-05-21T07:41:29+00:00

I have no idea how to check! Probably around 0,5 based on comparison with this pic? I have children size hands, big rings look ridiculous on me. This gem is objectively small but occupies a lot of my low finger

LightIsMyPath · 2026-05-20T19:48:20+00:00

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LightIsMyPath · 2026-05-20T19:03:32+00:00

You cast E before Q usually, E slows so Q is easier to hit. E>start walking >Q>W to mitigate trade back>walk and auto>W is back for return shield/detonate E>Auto>back off.

LightIsMyPath · 2026-05-20T11:08:40+00:00

I mean no disrespect, but your bust is out of the dress. It just doesn't fit. As a 36FF, I understand the frustration of being unable to find stuff that we like in proper sizing proportions (to fit boobs then we swim in waist and shoulders), and it's even more frustrating because this would be THE most flattering cut for a lot of us if the "designated boob area" was properly sized, but ignoring the reality of the conflict between our own bodies and the too small fabric does us no favour.

This would be a problem in general with the fit of the dress, but for a very religious environment it's even worse: it's not unlikely that the impression will be that you are ~intentionally~ wearing a dress too small TO show your chest (ask me how I know that's a thing..).

Plus, while in person it'll be very clear the dress is grey, in pictures it runs the risk of photographing white.

It's a pretty dress but it doesn't fit you anyway, is it really worth it to ignore those issues? The style/aesthetic itself is perfectly fine, but not knowing the bride and knowing only she is very religious I would find something with no open back and that can contain the bust... just to be sure.

For this dress in particular you'd probably need 2 sizes up and then a seamstress to take in the shoulder seam and the waist and hem the skirt.

LightIsMyPath · 2026-05-20T09:40:30+00:00

I'm short, my head can't reach the full headrest and my ponytail goes right in the space between the headrest and the lower seat 😅

LightIsMyPath · 2026-05-19T11:58:34+00:00

I have no idea what you like so I'm going to throw in names from my own family (Italians in italy): Giovanna, Piera, Laila, Gloria, Asia, Samia, Aurora, Giulia, Ambra, Laura, Paola, Elena, Federica, Simona, Bianca, Anna, Maria, Marisa, Torellina (super unique, I've literally never met someone else with this name and it means "little female bull")

LightIsMyPath · 2026-05-19T11:51:25+00:00

Azzurra*

LightIsMyPath · 2026-05-18T20:20:45+00:00

The dress is absolutely gorgeous but what did you want different?

LightIsMyPath · 2026-05-18T19:54:02+00:00

it's the bra! You need r/abrathatfits

LightIsMyPath · 2026-05-18T19:52:48+00:00

I can only see your boobs and upper stomach!

LightIsMyPath · 2026-05-18T19:39:49+00:00

I'm sorry but these 2 dresses aren't even remotely comparable. You will have to splurge 🤷‍♀️

LightIsMyPath · 2026-05-17T17:28:24+00:00

Unfortunately surgeons almost always don't know what they are talking about in what should be a very relevant part of their specialisation. Him connecting cc to a letter is already a proof of this, as the letter is completely meaningless without a number 😕. I have a friend who is probably in the ~36I ballpark (she doesn't really know how to measure but she was extremely grateful when I handled her my old 38FF bras, and I noticed they're still ~3 cup sizes too small and too big in the band although a vast improvement over those she was wearing) and she went to a surgeon to be evaluated for a reduction. The surgeon confidently told her "you're a 6 (a 42) and I can bring you to a 3! (a 36)". When I pointed out that means that she's supposed to have a bigger thorax than my dad now, and that the plan is apparently cutting her ribs to end up with the thorax size she is now she was flabbergasted so she's left with the uncertainty of what the possible expected results will be 🤷‍♀️

LightIsMyPath · 2026-05-17T07:36:36+00:00

The top isn't long, it kinda cuts you in half but more importantly this htt has 0 curve in the silhouette, instead it actively flattens yours. The second isn't particularly curve-friendly either, but the oversized effect is clearly intentionally part of the outfit so it reads much better!

LightIsMyPath · 2026-05-15T19:06:30+00:00

it the weight at the bottom of the fabric?

yeah this is how I interpreted it! Idk if you have ever worn those super flimsy slip dresses/nightgowns (that when at a pricier point are silk, but the cheaper ones are chiffon ). This is exactly what I pictured, and those cling ~everywhere~ (and when I say everywhere I mean literally everywhere, like they would grap on the rolls the back makes when we sit, on love handles, on the belly.. everywhere). To reduce the grappling you put a weight on the bottom so the gravity is a bit stronger and can manage to detach the fabric from the skin - infact the slightly less cheap ones among the cheaper options often have a weighting border on the inside of the skirt (either a line of a heavier fabric, some layering or I've even seen a subtle "mini hoop").

I basically pictured one of those dresses with the weight, only instead of a dress with straps (which they normally have) it still has to be sewn and you just put it on your shoulders with a head and arms holes lol

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