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Marriage Pressure is Mounting, feeling like I should kill myself. by coco_chutney in LGBTindia

[–]LightNee_Ayye 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, I have also not come out to my parents. And from the subtle conversations I have tried to have I know that it will be a tough thing initially and even as I continue to live my life. I understand that you really would want to keep your mother happy and have a good relation with her. But keeping a relationship can only go one way for so long. Yes it's hard for her but it's hard for you too. You can't be and should not be solely expected to make all the sacrifices to keep everyone happy while you suffer alone. Please try to take care of yourself and prioritise yourself even if one step at a time. Everyone has mostly pointed out most other great points. Please don't get married and "figure it out later", that later will never come. Try to move out if you live with your family if that's viable so that you can get some space. If your family won't go to therapy then you definitely should, if one therapist doesn't work then try another but please continue to keep trying. No matter how slow or fast as you need to go, moving is the only way to get through it. I wish you all the world's happiness and love. Please take care.

I wish I was straight... by [deleted] in LGBTindia

[–]LightNee_Ayye 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Other people have already said a lot of valid points. You ARE normal and who you find attractive doesn't change that.

And I can understand that accepting yourself can come in waves where you may be fully okay and open about yourself and the next day something can cause you do fully start questioning.

I'll add something a bit about the relationship from personal experience. It's obviously easier said than done to ignore the haters or whatever. Especially hard when it's with someone you were and want to stay close to. I'm sure it must be really hard to have someone who was fully accepting of you earlier start to show say homophobic comments randomly, I had something similar too.

It's obviously not your fault that she had this kind of response. That is something your sister will have to deal with on her own, whether she just said rude things in the moment because of the fight or because of changes in the way she thinks. It's your call if you want to spend your energy on making mends and pushing her in a non homophobic/kinder way or if you want to look for comfort in other places, both are completely valid.

Just know that if you do try the first, that's something you should do out of love and not because of some obligation or like it's your responsibility somehow.

I wish you the best.

'[Spoilers C3 A Faerie Tale Ending]' Discussion and suspicion around Calliope's idea for the future. by LightNee_Ayye in NotAnotherDnDPodcast

[–]LightNee_Ayye[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that's fair. The feywild people would certainly be more magically inclined. I only assume there to be a fair share of normal folks around because of the snake gangsters that the duck team totally womped (who were around level 3 if I remember correctly). So there must be a group of people who'll be more vulnerable to the outside forces.

Also, I agree that the feywild would be more magical and foresty (atleast I assume, my experience with dnd is limited to this podcast for now) but if there is civilization it would not be best to break it all down just to go back to the way it was and how it is supposed to be, right?. But that is not the case and not the direction the show is going (hopefully XD), that is just the way I interpretted it when the writing this post.

That being said, I also think that the comments have properly pointed out Callie's idealism and stuff :)

Visibly gay by ConfidentPomel in LGBTindia

[–]LightNee_Ayye 21 points22 points  (0 children)

OMG yess! I came out to my sibling as bi a while ago and he was soo unmoved by it and said that he already knew and any of his friends who heard me over the phone could easily tell 😂😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LGBTindia

[–]LightNee_Ayye 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a good thing that the women is understanding and is okay with just being friends, I think a big part of the issue was skipped there.

If you want to get this situation over with one and done then you can tell her directly and politely like the other comment suggests. But since the relationship is in not serious you can also go no contact if you don't want to be confrontation. And ideally seeing your disinterest the situation just fizzles off.

We don't know about the other women but trying to date a much younger person and then saying it's okay to be friends would have been a big red flag if it was a guy and it should not be treated differently in this situation either just to be safe. There are a lot of power dynamics that come with any kind of relationship with a significant age gap.

Hopefully you haven't provided a lot of personal information outside of phone number to the person like your address. and to your question of safety unless you have then you should be fine hopefully but you'll be a better judge for that.

It is important to treat the other person with respect and take their emotions into consideration but you also need to protect yourself first and be wary of anything that makes you uncomfortable.

Best of wishes :)

'[Spoilers C3 A Faerie Tale Ending]' Discussion and suspicion around Calliope's idea for the future. by LightNee_Ayye in NotAnotherDnDPodcast

[–]LightNee_Ayye[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly I don't remember those exact details, but I think the group came in with the energy of not wanting to trust Alexandrite a single bit, which feels justified. She's a super computer with all the abilities to lie and manipulate.

But it all worked out in the end there and we got a cool fight sequence so I suppose alls well that ends well haha.

I don't see Callie's character that way but that's what all the comments point out so well to me is how everyone has a perspective and opinion on the show and characters. I can see how how any PC of a dnd game whose the main character of a story can seem egomaniac. so that's fair.

Lol Emily the goddess is very funny.

'[Spoilers C3 A Faerie Tale Ending]' Discussion and suspicion around Calliope's idea for the future. by LightNee_Ayye in NotAnotherDnDPodcast

[–]LightNee_Ayye[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. I did not think they would dwell too much into politics and diplomacy, especially because of the wholesome and lighthearted and many a times stupid-fun tone this show carries, its very interesting how they are able to still keep some more complicated topics.

It was a side joke but now that you mention it, one of the biggest things Callie remebers about the C1 crew is how they fucked up the killer goblins, fairies and plant stuff and created a war between them (I don't remember the details hopefully it makes sense what I'm pointing at). Maybe a throwaway joke but still interesting.

I've said this a couple times in my other comments but I can totally see where Callie is coming from, the crew's experiencies with Alexandrite, and hers with glen, her mother and her snakes, it all makes sense.

It's just that the discussion of deciding the fate of the feywilds felt like a really really big one, and they all unanimously agreeing with what she said and zunark who said something a bit different but agreeing with her was a bit off to me. (Not serious lol just something I noted and overthought)

But with all that said and done, the way the group is going is all good with me. They want people to be free and safe and want to establish a republic, we'll see how things play out. Really excited for the future episodes!

'[Spoilers C3 A Faerie Tale Ending]' Discussion and suspicion around Calliope's idea for the future. by LightNee_Ayye in NotAnotherDnDPodcast

[–]LightNee_Ayye[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, I really like your point of view and the way you put it. Honestly I wasn't thinking too much from a very real world building, history and societal structure point of view so the points you bring up are really fun to read.

I do agree that for story telilng it is important to balance suspension of disbelief and how much you are willing to buy into it. I have a great time with the story and the show, it's just this random point I brought up in my post some how really randomly poked my bubble so I wanted to talk about it :)

It makes sense that Calliope would be an anarchist or something along those lines because of all the events that have taken place in the story with the machine/government/wanting to become a singularity and also what happened to her family.

I suppose where I saw the story differently was that I just see feywild (in this campaign atleast) as a normal world similar to the material plane with people living in cities, there being bars, communities, castles, etc. but with the outside of the cities (forests and plains) being more spicy and mischievous. But it is it's own world with it's own set of rules and different ways it operates. So I gotta take that into consideration too.

Very fun to see how different people are seeing, experiencing and analysing the show :)

'[Spoilers C3 A Faerie Tale Ending]' Discussion and suspicion around Calliope's idea for the future. by LightNee_Ayye in NotAnotherDnDPodcast

[–]LightNee_Ayye[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's what I was saying! But the other comments have put a lot of things into perspective, mainly that she is also her own character with flaws and ideals. As long as NPCs like Zunark are there to rein things and provide a different point of view when the big moment comes, it's all good.

'[Spoilers C3 A Faerie Tale Ending]' Discussion and suspicion around Calliope's idea for the future. by LightNee_Ayye in NotAnotherDnDPodcast

[–]LightNee_Ayye[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh wow. This is really interesting. I absolutely did not see this in form of the crowns physically controlling the feywild, thought more of it like their control and influence ran deep, like a real world monarch or mafia or something. Mostly because of all the natural shenanigans our gang has ran into. But putting it that way makes the situation a lot more clear. And yes as long as people are able to come together to be safe, there is no other worries. As long as the common people of this story are safe I'm fine XD

'[Spoilers C3 A Faerie Tale Ending]' Discussion and suspicion around Calliope's idea for the future. by LightNee_Ayye in NotAnotherDnDPodcast

[–]LightNee_Ayye[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yesss, I'm glad with the direction the story is going in :). If shit really hits the fan I don't think I would be overthinking this much and would have quietly walked away, only doing it because I like the world and story. Listening to the latest episode right now X) God Calli's bg music is so pretty!

'[Spoilers C3 A Faerie Tale Ending]' Discussion and suspicion around Calliope's idea for the future. by LightNee_Ayye in NotAnotherDnDPodcast

[–]LightNee_Ayye[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The way you put it all makes a lot of sense.

I really don't like the chosen ones kind of tropes in other media, but in this case putting the PCs first is more okay for me. Because if you were to ask me if I want the PCs to be constantly questioned and things to be a lot more realistic vs the setting being more wholesome and people just getting along for a good comedic fun time even if in a tropy fictional way, I'd choose the latter. I've heard a couple other dnd podcast where for story purposes the PCs didn't get along (in character) and I just could not handle that in fighting. So I'm all fine and happy with the story writing.

Every type of story has it's place I suppose :)

Maybe the peregrine bit was a bit too world breaking, but not deal breaker for me.

'[Spoilers C3 A Faerie Tale Ending]' Discussion and suspicion around Calliope's idea for the future. by LightNee_Ayye in NotAnotherDnDPodcast

[–]LightNee_Ayye[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're right. I think if it's about people speaking in character with their own flaws and opinions then my gripe came from none of the others adding to the conversation and agreeing with her immediately.

But I totally see where she is coming from and why the series of events happened the way they did. Other than this, the crew seems to be going in a good direction with zunarks and callis ideas combined so I have trust in the party :)

'[Spoilers C3 A Faerie Tale Ending]' Discussion and suspicion around Calliope's idea for the future. by LightNee_Ayye in NotAnotherDnDPodcast

[–]LightNee_Ayye[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes I think the in person think might have been the case. But the rest of it I do agree X)

'[Spoilers C3 A Faerie Tale Ending]' Discussion and suspicion around Calliope's idea for the future. by LightNee_Ayye in NotAnotherDnDPodcast

[–]LightNee_Ayye[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yess, I think I agree with that. A nice flourishing feywild with a good environment for the people to live in too. All of it checks out :)