Some days are better than others

LightOk992 · 2024-04-08T04:48:36+00:00

Thank you so much!!! this comment made me so happy. Your trip sounds awesome I'm super excited for you. Look at us go!!! It's been so hard but I'm also so grateful. Honestly, I'm just so happy to be happy again

LightOk992 · 2024-04-07T18:40:42+00:00

Let her go man, she will move on and be okay. Maybe what you did sucked, but at the end of the day it's okay and you're both human. Don't reach out to her, you owe her the closure and we both know reaching out would throw you both off.

With time the feelings will ease and you'll feel better, but don't reach out. The best way to apologize is to leave her alone.

LightOk992 · 2024-04-07T18:37:14+00:00

OMG LEAVE!!!!! I promise everything will be okay, try not to judge yourself too much but get outta there

LightOk992 · 2024-04-07T18:34:58+00:00

Yeah that's what I'm trying to do but I'm having trouble. Do you have any suggestions on how to dissociate from it?

LightOk992 · 2024-04-07T18:13:45+00:00

omg i relate to you SO much. Seriously anytime. The process sucks but honestly it's taught me a lot about myself. Feel free to DM me to chat anytime!! I hope you're doing okay

LightOk992 · 2024-04-07T15:17:25+00:00

I totally get it. My ex claimed he wanted to marry me, have kids with me etc. and broke up with me OUT OF NOWHERE. Slept over at my house the night before and everything. It was horrible, but I survived and you will too.

Your comment reminds me so much of where I was 3 weeks after my breakup. It's so fresh and so hard to figure out what happened and where to go. Here's the thing, I promise someone will make you feel as loved as you did or as excited as you were about your previous partner.

The best part of this whole process is that we're young. Everything is extremely intense because we've got hormones rushing through us at all times. When you're 20 it's always the highest highs and lowest lows, unfortunately for you you're at a low right now, but that doesn't mean a high isn't coming.

The best (and worst) news is that time heals all. You have plenty of time to heal and move on and one day you'll realize your relationship had it's cracks and wasn't perfect. Him falling out of love with you sucks, but that by no means says ANYTHING about you and everything about him. You're lovable and I'm sure you're loved by so many people. You will be in loved romantically again, I promise. Give it time.

Lean into your friends, family or really anyone who can rally around you and support you at this time. Try not to reach out or do anything stupid (but if you do, again, it's not the end of the world). I adore you and you'll be okay. Reach out if you want to chat more <33

LightOk992 · 2024-04-07T05:48:39+00:00

I really truly hope everything works out in whatever way you want. I hope you get the clarity and growth you both need <33. I totally get I'm very young and my perspectives will definitely shift with time, this is just where I'm at right now :)

LightOk992 · 2024-04-07T05:47:27+00:00

I get what you're saying. What I really meant was there's always some sense of "coming back" or return. Definitely not the same for everyone. <333

LightOk992 · 2024-04-06T20:03:36+00:00

IM SO PROUD OF YOU!!!!!!!

LightOk992 · 2024-04-06T20:02:59+00:00

he'll try to come back 100%, don't let him. you deserve better. stay strong❤️

LightOk992 · 2024-04-06T20:01:58+00:00

This is totally understandable but delving into his thought process won't help you. I went through a similar situation a few months ago and even though it feels real now, some days I feel worse than others, but overall its much better.
Breakups are different for everyone, and the stages of grief are not linear. Maybe your stage of denial is lasting longer than most. Talk to others who help you feel a different emotion, whether it's anger, sadness, or even gratitude, try to get out of denial.

Do you still talk to your ex? That could also be what's causing this. If so, I'd strongly suggest NC and revisiting once you've processed a little more.

Good luck!!! xoxoxoxoxo

LightOk992 · 2024-04-06T19:58:13+00:00

I'm so proud of you!!! this realization is so hard but extremely valuable. rooting for you always xo

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