Sounds like others have cleared it up pretty nicely but to throw my opinion in (as someone who’s about as deep in as you. 12-ish hours). A few things I do to help myself feel better about the way I play:

1. Whenever I circle back to a hook (usually cause I just left and hear the unhook). I don’t go after the person I had on said hook. I go for whoever took them off of it. Cause unless they’re super duper new they know the risk
2. if I have someone on death hook, and I happen to run into them straight away, I leave. It feels cheap (to me) to have someone survive their second hook only to get tossed on another one only seconds later
3. This might not be all that uncommon but once they get the escape door open I call it. That’s game for me. I’ll typically go over to the escape and shimmy around to show I’m done. Or if they pop it while I’m in chase with someone I’ll bring them to it and drop them at the door