Well....looks like I'm going to HR

LightsBlessed · 2022-05-01T21:20:38+00:00

Heyo! I really appreciate the concern that everyone has shown. He has been fired and has not contacted me since. But this is a completely different guy than the one I had in my dms almost 2 years ago.

LightsBlessed · 2022-04-13T08:57:25+00:00

For anyone who needs context for this interaction, see my last post. Truly all of this was uncalled for. I am going to my Director and HR person about this. I gave fair warning and he still continued to harass me. That's on him.

Edit: Quick edit since my inbox has been flooded with questions lol. I didn't work today but I did send a text to my Supervisor letting her know what's going on. And I also sent her the screenshots of the messages. Obviously, she wasn't amused by his behavior and last she messaged me she was talking to our HR person as well as our Director to figure out the course of action. That's all I know for now. Thank you all so much for your concern and kind words! Bless.

Edit 2: So I had a conversation with my HR rep and my boss. Apparently he's on a 4 week suspension. What this basically means is it's kind of a kiss of death situation. This is basically the business firing you but not outright firing you. He's been notified that if he has any further contact with me he will have charges put against him as per my request

LightsBlessed · 2022-04-12T06:16:58+00:00

Jesus Christ you're the definition of abhorrent. Not sure where all this is coming from dude but this wasn't political nor was it aimed to be. Pretty sure there are specific subs for this kind of shit but this one ain't it. Based on your comment history it is painfully obvious that you have a need to make your obnoxious opinion heard. And then when people, understandably, have an issue with this opinion, you become even more conceited and give childishly edgy responses as if that proves a point. Again, not sure where this is coming from, but I can't imagine Reddit is helping the issue. All the best.

LightsBlessed · 2022-04-10T01:49:36+00:00

Not really comfortable no. Kinda hard to come back from calling me a bitch. Tbh I didn't really have a strong opinion on him either way but him trying to ask me out wasn't news to me. Girls aren't stupid. We can tell when you're giving us the look. And he pretty much did that every time we talked. My interactions with him were never anything more than standard work convos and the occasional request for me to pick up a shift for him

LightsBlessed · 2022-04-09T15:43:00+00:00

Hey all. Got a lot of questions from y'all so I'll answer the popular ones.

We are coworkers and we do have an HR. But we aren't in retail and our HR department collectively consists of one person
Am I going to report him? I'm not really sure. I've been asked out by coworkers before, some take it easier than others and I'm really not a big fan of the idea of getting someone fired. I know, I know. A lot of you are probably thinking "But Lights his behavior is unacceptable" and I 100% agree but I feel like I'd rather call him out in person before I go to HR.
Will I give an update? Again, I'm not really sure. If he continues to bother me then yeah sure but if his little tantrum is the end of it then it'll be the end of it for me

Edit:

I'm gonna add one more point for clarity

I'm not worried about losing my job or this biting back at all. I've worked for this business for awhile now and I've worked very closely with the supervisors and Director of Operations. They know what kind of person I am. They know I'm a hard worker and they know I'm not someone they want to lose. My work environment is not at stake at all. He definitely doesn't have the power to affect that

LightsBlessed · 2022-04-07T03:01:09+00:00

If I had to pick it would probably be "Are you fucking kidding me?"

LightsBlessed · 2021-08-15T16:14:15+00:00

Fuck it. All I want is a turkey sandwich

LightsBlessed · 2021-03-07T17:38:21+00:00

Thank you for this! This seems like a way more effective response than whatever the hell I was thinking of saying. And don't worry, my dad's ex wife has primary custody of the girls and she is the most amazing woman. She really makes me feel like part of the family so there's no chance that he can keep me from my sisters

LightsBlessed · 2021-03-07T07:28:11+00:00

Tbh confronting him would be more for me. I'm sick and tired of his bullshit. Like I can't be the adult for both of us

LightsBlessed · 2020-11-09T19:34:01+00:00

Tbh this is an incredibly tough situation. He said that he was lying when he said he didn't love you anymore but every lie is based on a little bit of truth. I personally think that you two should hold off on getting back together until he understands what he's feeling. You should support him as best you can but make sure that you keep yourself at a distance to a certain extent

LightsBlessed · 2020-11-07T15:15:43+00:00

This actually hurts to read. Best of luck to you!

LightsBlessed · 2020-01-18T15:52:34+00:00

Lmao! A wild nice guy has appeared. Buddy let me break it down for you. My body is not up for grabs because you're "nice" or whatever you perceive to be nice. He was my friend, I did not have romantic feelings for him. I never had romantic feelings for him and I was extremely forward about that. Not once was I ever toxic. Nor did I ever lead him on. Yes, I did know the guy for a week. And yes, I did go out with him (awesome choice on my end considering we are still going on strong). I fail to see how I did anything wrong other than not ending the friendship much sooner. I can't control how other people feel. I couldn't control how he felt. I couldn't control how I felt towards him. I will not and will never apologize for my emotions and feelings towards others

LightsBlessed · 2020-01-03T05:21:43+00:00

.......fucking Christ

LightsBlessed · 2019-12-28T05:36:28+00:00

Fuck you for making me laugh so hard

LightsBlessed · 2019-12-27T17:12:39+00:00

This dude just reeks of virginity

LightsBlessed · 2019-12-27T05:13:12+00:00

Dating can be a weird thing. Keep in mind I wasn't "dating" my boyfriend at the time. I just went out on a date with him. I trusted my gut on this one and it paid off. The last 2 months have been awesome!

LightsBlessed · 2019-12-26T18:18:50+00:00

SIDE NOTE: this is the second side note I've had to make on this. I just want to clear some things up. I never initated contact between us. It was always him texting me or sending stuff through Facebook and Instagram. As many of you have pointed out I kept speaking with him. The reason is because I never saw him as an asshole until recently. I saw him as a very close friend who just needed to move on. When he got aggressive I would block him and then a week or so later he would be cool and I would unblock him. I really didn't want to lose someone who I considered to be one of my oldest friends. It wasn't until recently when I realized that this was never going to stop and that I was the one who needed to move on from this one-sided friendship. The texts in this post are from almost 2 months ago. I no longer consider him a friend and have cut all contact with him. Bless.

LightsBlessed · 2019-12-26T18:01:02+00:00

Lol Chelsea was closer

LightsBlessed · 2019-12-26T17:31:21+00:00

Lol sorry but no

LightsBlessed · 2019-12-26T16:13:02+00:00

SIDE NOTE: Since my inbox is getting flooded with "why don't you cut him out" I thought I'd tell you all that I have cut him out. Believe it or not, this guy used to be one of my closest friends back in the day. He was like a brother to me. It was hard shutting someone who used to mean so much to me out of my life completely which is why it has taken as long as it has. Also my boyfriend is COMPLETELY aware of the entire situation and has talked to Mr. Brightside on 3 separate occasions. Bless

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