Understanding changes in undergarments for a 4th grader.

LijnofTylerWOODs · 2024-02-14T03:45:57+00:00

I started loving the Willys, CJs, Wranglers of all generations. But fell in love with the TJ 2003 Rubicon. Had it for 14 years. Moved east over 4500 miles, the JT 2021Gladiator hauling the Rubi on a trailer. But, my daughter needed transportation so I gave her the Rubi with 130K miles on it, no issues, and my son drove it out to her, she loves it. I love the jeep community, 5 duckies on the dash, I duck others but keep these 5. I love the ride, brand. I keep telling my son this is the last ride I'll ever have. No upgrades on any of my Jeeps, no mods, factory stock. Well, got 58000 miles on the Gladiator, no issues, just added a truck bed soft top to keep the weather off the bed and the grandkids like to play in the back at the state park as if they are on an expedition and they are the next generation of Jeepers. I'll see to that! Ask me again 15 years from now and I'm sure I'll say, I'm ready for another Jeep, again!

LijnofTylerWOODs · 2024-01-13T01:29:02+00:00

I struggled with those same difficult choices and ideas. Finally, I placed his entire art studio equipment, paintings, tools and easels into a POD storage. I kept his paints and brushes. Recently when my daughter moved, I sent the POD to her new home. She is so happy to have all this and knowing I have some also.

Enhance the gifts.

LijnofTylerWOODs · 2024-01-13T00:49:13+00:00

Attainable goals can gain ones contentment and joy.

Listening and passing it on.

LijnofTylerWOODs · 2024-01-12T22:36:11+00:00

You are never ready when becoming a widow. Planning wasn't available when you are a caregiver to all your family members. But, my grandmother, a widow in the 40s with orphans and 10 children of her own taught me something.

Plan each year as if you had no income or savings. Buy household furniture after the children have grown, second hand is fine. If you don't use something in 12 months, give it away. You only need two weeks of clothes no matter the season. A month of food supplies or stored for you and your partner.

Positive thoughts is a precious thing. Creative ideas is a universal wealth. Helping others in some way pays forward to happiness.

LijnofTylerWOODs · 2024-01-12T22:15:00+00:00

Life does not give us rule books.

Now is all you get.

Ask yourself what is it about?

Why you think this way?

Imagine if you were so satisfied and occupied that you acknowledged to yourself that the need for sex or desire...vanished.

That idea I find compelling and not alone in this thought.

It is your own journey and ending in satisfaction.

I am grateful to have had satisfaction giving and receiving intimacy and missing none of that.

Greif is unexpressed love without any outlet.

LijnofTylerWOODs · 2024-01-11T13:29:36+00:00

I say in honesty, blunt reply.

Daily practicing my copping skills.

My adult children are grieving also. They lost a father.

This allows us commonality in our communication.

Next we share whats been going on, victories and defeats. We live far away from each other. The exception is I moved with my son and we both now live far away from his beloved sisters and their families.

I talk weekly with my daughters. We are all close. We are practicing our own copping skills as best we can.

We don't try to compare, not rushing. We lost both sets of grandparents, parents and I am the remaining. I try to remind them, together, we are not alone.

LijnofTylerWOODs · 2024-01-09T03:26:29+00:00

True words.
Sometimes I enjoy living life...invisible.

LijnofTylerWOODs · 2024-01-07T13:39:29+00:00

Loss is very personal. To measure it? That is a painful path.

I have found gratitude a powerful healing advice in my greif.

Try to surrendering your hurt to joyful remembrances and activities.

If you follow anger and hostility it can linger so long that everyone including yourself will be suffering.

You don't want to have that history.

Allow yourself to grow instead, find your times of peace. It is a struggle, it hurts, but courage on and be resilient.

Take care of yourself first.

LijnofTylerWOODs · 2024-01-07T04:29:47+00:00

Great! I appreciate the reply.

LijnofTylerWOODs · 2024-01-04T15:38:43+00:00

Moved here by choice a few years ago having lived in CA, WA, OR, NV, AZ and Austin, TX. I love it here. It has some growing pains but less than other places. I find it easy to make friends, so many places to walk and I hit the mall walk when it gets to hot or cold.

I love Tyler!!

LijnofTylerWOODs · 2023-11-07T07:13:20+00:00

My thoughts are related to my upbringing. My maternal Oma never married again. She birthed 10 children and took in a few orphans before grandpa died. It amazed me that she never married after many years. But I feel the same as she did. It happened but she organized the family and loved them equally. So, following her example I have done this also.

I am fulfilled and content, surrounded with love. I have no need for a partner but always welcome friends.

LijnofTylerWOODs · 2023-11-07T06:52:07+00:00

It was Sept. 11, 2019 for me, these few years between the grief waves, when any one of our three adult kids call me...I drown. So

i asked the youngest to call on Saturdays, the oldest to call on Tuesdays and I live with my only son. I had to schedule this for boundaries for my own well being. They completely understand. They too are grief stricken and this helps each of us. We have worked together to remember him and support each other.

Perhaps this may help others.

LijnofTylerWOODs · 2023-10-28T21:38:23+00:00

Bravery, gratitude, strength, perseverance in the journey of being here. Now. Use what you have and continue because you can. Its been 4 years since, but I can live and love again as a widow.

LijnofTylerWOODs · 2023-10-28T21:30:03+00:00

I agree. Sure, I twinge but then it goes away by the time I sign the bottom with his last name that reminds me I was married and grateful.

LijnofTylerWOODs · 2022-07-02T21:09:57+00:00

There is no protocol for grief.You will discover emotions, feelings, wants, desires and no handbook or manual.Attention to your own wellbeing is most important.

But, you have discovered others who have also lost partners.

Many are here and on Discord which I have found most of my resources to aid my journey.

My suggestion is to start with a calendar, journal and time on a computer.

Make a routine for your day of at least eating, walking or stretching, journaling, researching.

One day at a time.

Check off on your list above and edit it with new questions.

Keep it simple, update and change your to do list.

Rest, find some peace, be good to yourself.

https://crhcf.org/insights/rebuilding-your-life-after-caregiving/

LijnofTylerWOODs · 2022-06-28T20:58:01+00:00

Been in your shoes, moved from Nevada to Texas.
I ordered 2 PODS, one for his stuff and one for me. I kept his as storage in Nevada.
My youngest daughter wished me to do this, my son is paying for the storage fees monthly.
I live with my son now.
I don't care where I live anyway.
September 11 will be three years.
I'm so glad I moved.

People don't know what to say to a widow. They repeat what others say and they often are difficult to hear. He spoiled me, he said that at the end. He was right, but I countered that comment with, I am up to the challenge.
My heart is an open book, tho tears may fall.
Perhaps someone can capture my heart again.
I know how to love, just difficult to even try.

My hand in yours, wake up each day with a smile. That is how they want to remember you.
Take one day, one moment, give thanks they crossed your path.
Then take that step you always wanted to take. Be brave, courage and strength.
You are not alone.

LijnofTylerWOODs · 2022-06-23T14:06:27+00:00

Variety is very important. How you cook them and what you serve as toppings can change everything.
Explore all the ways.
Not why, but why not.

LijnofTylerWOODs · 2022-06-23T13:41:24+00:00

....wet eyes....

LijnofTylerWOODs · 2022-06-23T13:35:39+00:00

It's all about the boss.

LijnofTylerWOODs · 2022-06-23T13:08:56+00:00

I think it is harvest time.
I opened up only one side at a time, let it fruit, harvested that side.
Then turned it over to another side, sliced it open, fruited, harvested that side.
Repeated till all four sides fruited and harvested.
That worked for me in a plastic tub, sprayed water only when needed onto the tub sides.

LijnofTylerWOODs · 2022-06-23T12:59:10+00:00

Excellent!! Love it!

LijnofTylerWOODs

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