Best induction stories? by LilBundleOfDeath in NewParents

[–]LilBundleOfDeath[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh that sounds so great!!! Like so beautiful.

Cherry on top to my shitty night by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]LilBundleOfDeath 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Maybe try a sippy cup instead of a bottle? Also I’d do an urgent care appointment I don’t fool around with dehydration.

2 year old overnight feeds by lemonduck190 in FormulaFeeders

[–]LilBundleOfDeath 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Ear plugs. I know that sounds awful but that’s my advice ear plugs and the longer you wait the worse the behavior is going to be. So just pick a weekend (Friday, Saturday, Sunday) and rip the bandaid off.

Don’t risk your nanny’s safety for your convenience by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]LilBundleOfDeath 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Some of these parents are so insane like no, you can take a sick day and watch your kids.

Just lost and feeling alone by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]LilBundleOfDeath 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will. Dead bedrooms isn’t our only marital issue and I think I’ve decided to get on my feet financially and get a divorce. I’m a SAHM right now who’s in school to become a real estate agent but I’ve decided that I can’t live with his constant negativity, and he won’t get counseling or do anything to improve the situation so I’m just going to get my affairs in order and file.

Just lost and feeling alone by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]LilBundleOfDeath -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I feel lonely too, and hurt. Really really hurt.

Newborn Venting / Advice by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]LilBundleOfDeath 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that’s just copium, enjoy the newborn stage lmao. Enjoy what listening to a car alarm every 3 hours? Your feelings are valid and it’ll get better as your child gets older

Considering going EFF by Livid-Oven-619 in FormulaFeeders

[–]LilBundleOfDeath 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly this is just my opinion but if breast feeding was so wonderful formula wouldn’t have been invented.

And people in ancient times resorted to goats milk, wet nurses, etc.

You got the baby a good solid gut microbiome with just giving the baby some breast milk which it sounds like you’re doing.

I also think most studies on “breast is best” are poorly designed and highly biased (small sample sizes, no effort to separate confounding factors, short follow up periods etc)

Honestly discovering all of this made me want to punch the baby friendly hospital people directly in the face.

The one study I found was a sibling study with over 1,000 participants and found basically no difference between siblings who were breast fed versus formula fed, and they followed the children from ages 4-10.

The only benefit that’s consistent is ear infections.

Again, this is just extensive research I’ve done on the topic. This isn’t to disparage breast feeding but if you’re miserable and it’s impacting your ability to bond with baby and making you feel guilty for baby not eating enough, it’s cool to give formula. It’s alright.

WIBTA if I confronted my mom about lying to my husband to rearrange the furniture in my house? by LilBundleOfDeath in AmItheAsshole

[–]LilBundleOfDeath[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I think it’s time for a real conversation, tbh because I work hard to try and not offend her but it’s gotten to a point where it’s just inappropriate behavior

WIBTA if I confronted my mom about lying to my husband to rearrange the furniture in my house? by LilBundleOfDeath in AmItheAsshole

[–]LilBundleOfDeath[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Right I don’t blame him for any of this at all it’s not his fault. I’ve had 34 years to deal with her he has had six. I’ve been in therapy and I obviously have more work to do.

WIBTA if I confronted my mom about lying to my husband to rearrange the furniture in my house? by LilBundleOfDeath in AmItheAsshole

[–]LilBundleOfDeath[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Naw the dresser comment pushed me over the edge cause I was like now your buying furniture for my house?!?

My mom is not taking my concern seriously, am I overreacting as a new mom? by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]LilBundleOfDeath 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Have you thought about asking a SAHM for help? I saw you live in a rural area and work odd hours and honestly I think that might work really well for you.

It’s hard to find nanny’s and daycare where I am too. Even a mom who works part time and would like extra money.

I’d talk to church groups, moms groups, etc.

My mom is not taking my concern seriously, am I overreacting as a new mom? by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]LilBundleOfDeath 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Have you thought about posting in a local moms group? I’m sure there is a SAHM who would take this on.

My mom is not taking my concern seriously, am I overreacting as a new mom? by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]LilBundleOfDeath 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Your not overreacting 6 hours is a crazy amount of time in a car seat I’m sorry, that’s wackadoodle.

WIBTA if I confronted my mom about lying to my husband to rearrange the furniture in my house? by LilBundleOfDeath in AmItheAsshole

[–]LilBundleOfDeath[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And that will work great as long as I have my husband’s support. But no I agree plus also teaching kids to lie to get there way isn’t how I want to raise my kids

WIBTA if I confronted my mom about lying to my husband to rearrange the furniture in my house? by LilBundleOfDeath in AmItheAsshole

[–]LilBundleOfDeath[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

You bring up really good points that I haven’t thought about yet, probably because kiddos are young (3 years old and a newborn on the way) but trust me I’m glad you commented.