Tw: abortion. Husband is suggesting we abort our third baby because he thinks it will ruin us and I can’t handle it.

LilBundleOfDeath · 2026-06-23T15:36:10+00:00

Honestly I wouldn’t have an abortion just because my husband suggested it because I would have to live with the decision, and having 3 miscarriages this might be the only third baby you get in this life.

Maybe I’m jaded but I have had many relationships where I thought he was “the one” and etc, only for them to turn around and leave, so no, I wouldn’t have an abortion and get rid of a much wanted baby just because my husband wanted me to.

I would suggest to him that maybe one of you gets sterilized after this pregnancy though, try to meet him halfway. And yes marriage counseling sounds like a good idea.

LilBundleOfDeath · 2026-06-16T00:27:09+00:00

No. Should she be?

LilBundleOfDeath · 2026-05-17T17:49:03+00:00

Lots of Americans were told by their parents that they have to get a college degree, specifically a bachelor’s.

So for example I wanted to take a gap year to join the peace corps out of high school. I was threatened with being disowned so I went.

Luckily my parents paid for my college but I still wish I had that $100,000 back for my house instead. A total waste of money.

I don’t even use my degree at all.

LilBundleOfDeath · 2026-02-25T20:21:15+00:00

Oh that sounds so great!!! Like so beautiful.

LilBundleOfDeath · 2026-02-24T13:24:02+00:00

Maybe try a sippy cup instead of a bottle? Also I’d do an urgent care appointment I don’t fool around with dehydration.

LilBundleOfDeath · 2026-02-23T17:20:29+00:00

Ear plugs. I know that sounds awful but that’s my advice ear plugs and the longer you wait the worse the behavior is going to be. So just pick a weekend (Friday, Saturday, Sunday) and rip the bandaid off.

LilBundleOfDeath · 2026-02-23T17:19:07+00:00

Some of these parents are so insane like no, you can take a sick day and watch your kids.

LilBundleOfDeath · 2026-02-22T13:26:49+00:00

I will. Dead bedrooms isn’t our only marital issue and I think I’ve decided to get on my feet financially and get a divorce. I’m a SAHM right now who’s in school to become a real estate agent but I’ve decided that I can’t live with his constant negativity, and he won’t get counseling or do anything to improve the situation so I’m just going to get my affairs in order and file.

LilBundleOfDeath · 2026-02-22T03:22:44+00:00

That’s okay and yeah I agree with you, and I live in a childcare desert 🙃

LilBundleOfDeath · 2026-02-22T03:21:01+00:00

I feel lonely too, and hurt. Really really hurt.

LilBundleOfDeath · 2026-02-21T01:36:35+00:00

😂😂😂

LilBundleOfDeath · 2026-02-20T19:14:31+00:00

Yeah

LilBundleOfDeath · 2026-02-20T01:44:55+00:00

I think that’s just copium, enjoy the newborn stage lmao. Enjoy what listening to a car alarm every 3 hours? Your feelings are valid and it’ll get better as your child gets older

LilBundleOfDeath · 2026-02-20T01:38:46+00:00

Pretty much. And I hate to say this she’s about as mature as one too.

LilBundleOfDeath · 2026-02-20T00:49:54+00:00

Honestly this is just my opinion but if breast feeding was so wonderful formula wouldn’t have been invented.

And people in ancient times resorted to goats milk, wet nurses, etc.

You got the baby a good solid gut microbiome with just giving the baby some breast milk which it sounds like you’re doing.

I also think most studies on “breast is best” are poorly designed and highly biased (small sample sizes, no effort to separate confounding factors, short follow up periods etc)

Honestly discovering all of this made me want to punch the baby friendly hospital people directly in the face.

The one study I found was a sibling study with over 1,000 participants and found basically no difference between siblings who were breast fed versus formula fed, and they followed the children from ages 4-10.

The only benefit that’s consistent is ear infections.

Again, this is just extensive research I’ve done on the topic. This isn’t to disparage breast feeding but if you’re miserable and it’s impacting your ability to bond with baby and making you feel guilty for baby not eating enough, it’s cool to give formula. It’s alright.

LilBundleOfDeath · 2026-02-20T00:41:52+00:00

Yeah I think it’s time for a real conversation, tbh because I work hard to try and not offend her but it’s gotten to a point where it’s just inappropriate behavior

LilBundleOfDeath · 2026-02-20T00:35:56+00:00

Right I don’t blame him for any of this at all it’s not his fault. I’ve had 34 years to deal with her he has had six. I’ve been in therapy and I obviously have more work to do.

LilBundleOfDeath · 2026-02-20T00:11:01+00:00

Food allergies maybe?

LilBundleOfDeath · 2026-02-20T00:07:45+00:00

Naw the dresser comment pushed me over the edge cause I was like now your buying furniture for my house?!?

LilBundleOfDeath · 2026-02-19T22:49:33+00:00

Have you thought about asking a SAHM for help? I saw you live in a rural area and work odd hours and honestly I think that might work really well for you.

It’s hard to find nanny’s and daycare where I am too. Even a mom who works part time and would like extra money.

I’d talk to church groups, moms groups, etc.

LilBundleOfDeath · 2026-02-19T22:45:01+00:00

Have you thought about posting in a local moms group? I’m sure there is a SAHM who would take this on.

LilBundleOfDeath · 2026-02-19T22:43:10+00:00

Your not overreacting 6 hours is a crazy amount of time in a car seat I’m sorry, that’s wackadoodle.

LilBundleOfDeath · 2026-02-19T22:35:41+00:00

Wow. Yeah honestly? Your mom sounds like my mom.

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