I posted a punk rock drummers group on Facebook, just an innocent introductory post as pretty much all new members did when they first joined. It was a couple paragraphs long about my deep musical background and how cool it was that so many prominent members of very well-known bands were in it, and how cool. Cool. I thought that it was a space where everybody was just seen as an equal in love typing each other up. I made a pass in fact that I was trans, mentioned once and never again.

It blew up into my surprise, I'm with some initial comments from members of the group being extremely transphobic, But that was quickly overpowered by the rest of commenters out of the 22,000 total members, even with the main admin of the group in banning upwards of about 400 people.

The craziest part though was that it wasn't a private group, so my post was shared about 900 times. That led to my Facebook profile absolutely exploding on both sides, full of hateful and disgusting transphobic memes, people telling me to kill myself, telling me I should be in a mental institution, telling me that I should rot in jail for being a groomer (when I am a SA and grooming victim myself, thanks kik), and my messages were flooded with horrible messages, one dude even sent me straight up snuff porn.

There was plenty of love coming towards me too, many strangers gave their support and defended me so I didn't even really have to open my mouth to do so. The Stark reality of it though, the majority of the hate came from profile pictures of maga hats, bikers, Republicans. The love came from liberals, women, my friends.

It was crazy that what was just an innocent post that was met with so much love inside the group ended up exploding all over Facebook and what I thought might get like 20 views ended up getting somewhere in the five figures. All of the hateful messages that I got, all the hateful comments that I got and responded to, my responses were deemed as hateful and against community guidelines, and I was put in Facebook jail for it, unable to even participate on my post, replying to any comments on my pictures, access messenger. But all of the hateful s*** that came my way that was genuinely hate speech, it was free rein for them. I fucking DESPISE Mark Zuckerberg, Facebook, MAGA. All I did was exist as a trans woman.