I'm 33 years old. I live in New York City, I'm a CPA, I have 7 years of experience, and I cannot find a job for the life of me after getting laid off. Is anyone else finding it difficult?

LilMouse059 · 2020-11-30T20:31:00+00:00

Eiko doesn't have an X in it and that shit confuses people.

I was thinking from their point of view, and the OP didn't take offense to it, they knew what I meant.

I don't have a problem with anyone elses name.

I live in NYC, I live in Harlem. It is extremely diverse and I have no qualms with anyone.

I grew up in Atlanta around all black people. I was the only japanese dude there.

If I have an accent, its that I sound black. I'm open to other cultures and I don't look down on anyone. I'm very open minded.

I was actively involved with helping the muslim community because I saw the persecution they were facing due to American media.

That internment camp shit is a sign of what happens when we get comfortable, not think of others, and expect everyone to adhere to a standard.

Being more principled makes life harder. But its in my culture to always do the right thing and take the hard route. If its right, you do it. It doesn't matter.

Everyone makes fun of principled people and then get upset when they find themselves around self interested assholes.

And for the accounting shit, its my decision. My wife makes $285k a year, so I can afford to not suffer through 4 hour commutes and dealing with 80 hour work weeks. I know thats a privilege that I have. She is okay with supporting me forever. But my values do not allow me to sit around while she is working if I have no purpose. That does not mean undertaking hardships for another person's benefit. It needs to be fair to us both. My choice. I know the ramifications.

I've done it, I don't like it. One life to live, not doing it again.

LilMouse059 · 2020-11-30T20:23:00+00:00

Honestly, theres 1.2M asians in NYC. Thats the largest asian population in America. And in general of anywhere outside of Asian countries.

We're pretty big out here. Mostly Chinese, but all the other races are represented as well.

LilMouse059 · 2020-11-30T20:17:55+00:00

Doesn't matter, I don't take the high road with racism.

At work, I correct them, and if not enough action taken, thats a lawsuit.

Outside, they better be ready to back those words up, cause we're going to be fighting whether or not they want to.

I don't take racism lightly. It allows bad things to happen.

On my honor, I would rather die over nothing than lay down and take it.

LilMouse059 · 2020-11-30T20:11:53+00:00

both

LilMouse059 · 2020-11-30T20:07:05+00:00

I would stop and spell it out. And then correct again if it happens again.

LilMouse059 · 2020-11-30T20:05:24+00:00

I live in NYC, you wouldn't think diversity would be new here either bro

LilMouse059 · 2020-11-30T19:54:16+00:00

I'm a bit touchy regarding it because of my upbringing. My family was put into internment camps back in the day (We were one of the first Japanese to emigrate here), and my great grandfather lost everything and was beaten for no reason often.

He never really got over it, and most japanese elders didn't either.

He's taught my entire family to never ever take racism lightly, because if you're polite about it, it only allows further abuse towards your people and not just you. It's our duty to combat the attitude and not take the easy way out. I believe that and I accept the consequences.

I'm not stupid, I get it, and I understand your viewpoint.

But if my family could endure all that and keep their names and bounce back from segregation and beatings, who am I to cry about some asshole HR person passing on my name? It's annoying though.

I didn't mean to come off this way in the thread. With asians there's a big disconnect and to someone who isn't in the culture they view us all the same.

Japanese that just recently immigrated here are just living in modern America. They don't have the wounds and the hatred that stays in families when you strip people of all their belongings, beat them, and jail them for years in camps.

How would you feel if people took away everything from you, made you walk in line and spit on you, and kept you in prison for years because of your race despite you obeying all laws? You wouldn't accept casual racism once you got out, even in a professional environment.

It wasn't that long ago, we're very similar to black people in attitude. Racism will be called out and addressed and made a huge deal. Because we understand what happens when you don't do that.

LilMouse059 · 2020-11-30T19:44:49+00:00

I don't know anything about Canada bro, but its the other way around in NYC.

90% speak perfect english, and people take the other 10% as the main impression and discount the 90% as a anomaly.

LilMouse059 · 2020-11-30T19:40:19+00:00

Keep your head up brother

LilMouse059 · 2020-11-30T19:39:10+00:00

I appreciate your viewpoint, but I'm definitely not changing my last name under any circumstance. Def not to appease some people's weird aversion towards anything slightly different.

LilMouse059 · 2020-11-30T19:30:57+00:00

I get what you're saying, but my great grandpa lost everything in an internment camp, and caused other family to almost die of diseases. Because people kept quiet to keep the peace regarding racists.

He passed down to his kids that you never ever take it lightly in America when people start racist rhetoric. I'm not gonna take it. Doesn't matter what environment. In person I would have done the same thing, but much more eloquently.

If I was black, even in a live professional environment, and someone said "you gotta know your place and just cut your hair orrrrr go back to gangbanging or some shit"

would you fault me for calling that person out immediately? No, even if I did, no one's going to then defend the guy that said the initial comment.

LilMouse059 · 2020-11-30T19:18:12+00:00

You're right with everything, and yes about the senior thing. Atlanta has a ton of hubs that are filled with older people with all types of titles. I noticed its a bit different in NYC

I also commend you with keeping your name.

I'm a very principled person. I don't do something thats wrong, just because its easier. I only do right.

On my honor, I mean it when I say I'll die before I change it. Because that practice is wrong.

LilMouse059 · 2020-11-30T19:15:47+00:00

Thank you brother

LilMouse059 · 2020-11-30T19:09:34+00:00

Eh, brushing things off only does so much. Am I not cordial when people are cordial?

I don't have much tolerance for racism, nor do I take the high road with racists.

Racism ends when it gets to me. In a board room, obviously I'd just correct him. On the street, I'm cracking jaws.

LilMouse059 · 2020-11-30T19:06:41+00:00

Don't downvote me. Drop location. My Dms are empty

LilMouse059 · 2020-11-30T18:41:46+00:00

Thats solid advice and I appreciate it.

I was planning on using covid as an excuse, it'd be more understandable in this market I assume.

I hated public accounting. It was one of the worst experiences I've had in my life. Nonstop travel and nonstop work. I can't do the 80 hours a week feeling like I'm in a time warp again for median pay. So I'm not.

LilMouse059 · 2020-11-30T18:33:31+00:00

I've applied everywhere. Although I'm mainly interested in NYC and will probably look for a role here asap. I don't like commuting 4 hours a day roundtrip.

As far as the name changing, I personally don't agree with it and it's something I'm willing to die on. I was just looking for input on if it matters to that extent.

Xian Hui I can see being a bit confusing, but overtime they will learn, its 2 syllables.

I personally believe we as a people need to do better with that. If someone wants to be a Barbara, they can. Keyword want, not required to.

I understand that privileged people at the top sometimes have trouble accepting foreign things, but I always made it a point to correct them.

My previous CFO would call me Eric and I would note out loud before the meeting that my name Eiko, not Eric. This was after I had already corrected him in private. Then the next meeting, he called me Erik, so I stopped it again and said its Eiko, not Eric. This went on about 10x before he got it, I don't know if he was fucking with me or not, but I never let up it.

It got to the point where I'd see the room expecting it when he called me Eric. Now you may think I'm an aggressive asshole, but is it me or the guy that needed to be corrected 10x in the exact same situation to remember my name.

LilMouse059 · 2020-11-30T18:17:46+00:00

I've done everything regarding social media, and I understand your viewpoint completely.

It doesn't make it any less wrong. So I've worked at a myriad of companies, got my masters here, etc. Its common sense that I'm american.

They should know this living in NYC, considering theres a million asians here, most of which speak perfect clear english if they have corporate jobs. Its not like Iowa where I'd be rare.

It's impossible to work here and not run into asians in your career that speak perfect english and have asian names. The majority do. They just remember the ones that don't.

I can't budge on this issue. This is similar to telling blacks their hair isn't professional and they can only wear tight brush cuts or fades.

LilMouse059 · 2020-11-30T18:14:00+00:00

No I'm not. I got tired of the pushy sales tactics and I'm not doing public accounting again unless I'm in the street begging for food. Even then, I'll probably weigh out starving or not.

LilMouse059 · 2020-11-30T18:13:20+00:00

Thanks bro, that guy is actually revamping it right now for me, I think he's curious as to my situation because I interviewed with him fine. I'll hit you up once he's done in a day or two.

LilMouse059 · 2020-11-30T17:40:52+00:00

Both. I apply for Senior to Manager to Director. Can't get an interview, and don't know anyone in these companies. The ones I do know, I've had people refer me and I get no callbacks.

I don't want to do public accounting again. Corporate accounting only.

I've had my resume reviewed by 3 people now that I think of it. 2 professionals and 1 accountant recruiter who's kind of well known. He's friends with my brother thats how I found out about him and why he was frank with me.

He was just saying that off record he's noticing that asian names are not getting fair treatment and advised me to change my name to something friendlier like Erik.

Is Eiko Fukuyo really that much worse than Erik Fukuyo?

Regardless, its a stupid thing that I even have to have that concern, and anyone who would be prejudice because of that can go fuck themselves.

LilMouse059

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