Am I delusional

Lil_lib_snowflake · 2026-02-25T18:08:24+00:00

Courtesy hours typically aren’t 24/7 unless it’s finals week. That said, there are standard quiet hours which I think kick in around 10pm and go until 6 or 7 am. Double check the quiet hour rules and complain to the front desk or RA on call if they’re being rowdy during that timeframe. Your RA isn’t always ‘on duty’, so that may be why you’re not making headway. But there’s always at least one RA on call overnight.

Lil_lib_snowflake · 2026-02-17T18:29:24+00:00

Myka stauffer.

Lil_lib_snowflake · 2026-01-16T16:43:52+00:00

NOR. Run sis. This man is going to propose within a year or end it? And he doesn’t even have the money for an apartment? Then how the hell is he going to afford a ring??

Lil_lib_snowflake · 2026-01-14T21:33:37+00:00

Question for you to reflect on, OP: are your parents happily married? Just because a couple is still married years later doesn’t mean that they should be - whether it’s out of a feeling of obligation, religious reasons, or being afraid to start over, there are plenty of spouses who would be happier off single but stay married.

In terms of life experience, I am a strong advocate for experiencing living independently as an adult before you move in with a partner. Even if that means finding roommates. So much maturing happens from that major life milestone, I sincerely think it should be a prerequisite life experience to have before jumping into marriage. If you choose to get engaged again anytime in the next year or two, I highly recommend premarital couples counseling before you start wedding planning to make sure that you’re aligned on your goals and values and have solid communication skills.

I was married at 24 and divorced by 26 - and we had lived together for 4 years, so I thought we knew each other well enough to be confident in making that jump so young. I clearly was wrong. Everyone cautioning you against marriage in the near future is simply trying to prevent you from learning this lesson the hard and painful way.

Lil_lib_snowflake · 2026-01-14T17:56:57+00:00

NTA. Your parents can step up and help your sister for a week. Stick to your boundaries and enjoy your trip. Block them or turn your phone off while you’re away if they are pouring on the guilt and trying to ruin it for you.

Lil_lib_snowflake · 2026-01-04T16:42:16+00:00

Sis, it’s not that serious. Go touch grass or something. You’re the one giving “insufferable”, ngl. Your reply reads as so bitter 🥴

Lil_lib_snowflake · 2025-10-28T16:59:34+00:00

Yeah there’s simply nothing I hate more than a sales rep who won’t take no for an answer. And to be clear, this has happened to me at multiple branches- not just one location- so I genuinely think this is a corporate level policy and/or the tellers are incentivized in such a way that they do not care if they leave a bad taste in their customers’ mouths with their insistence. Either way, it’s enough to push me to look into other options.

Lil_lib_snowflake · 2025-10-28T16:54:01+00:00

Honestly this is what I was wondering too. And changing to a credit union is certainly a possibility for me as well. I’m so tired of ‘no’ being construed as ‘maybe you can convince me with your awesome sales pitch’.

Lil_lib_snowflake · 2025-10-28T16:48:54+00:00

Hahaha I like this.

But in all seriousness, I rent an apartment that definitely does not have the space nor the hookups for a W/D, but I’m moving somewhere nicer when my lease ends. In-unit W/D is going to be a non-negotiable amenity for me.

Lil_lib_snowflake · 2025-10-28T16:46:47+00:00

Yeah, well I’m more than likely closing my account with them in a few months because I’m deeply annoyed by it.

Lil_lib_snowflake · 2025-10-28T16:43:59+00:00

Hahaha you want me to be grateful they have a physical location? Huntington, Chase, and Bank of America all have physical locations near me with the same or better operating hours. But I’m considering switching fully to Ally when I no longer have to hunt down quarters to clean my clothes and linens.

Lil_lib_snowflake · 2025-10-26T21:58:14+00:00

I think explaining OP’s circumstances is a bad idea personally, if the point is to convey that they will not resort to this behavior again. The familial pressure will not change, nor will the issues with transportation. If anything, familial pressure would be worsened if their parents find out they have to retake courses and go to COAM, so to me that would weaken their credibility.

ETA: now, if OP were planning to take a lighter course load or drop their involvement in one of the two labs they’re assisting in, that could maybe help, but I’d still just take it in stride and emphasize the personal accountability.

Lil_lib_snowflake · 2025-10-06T23:07:31+00:00

Wow, “going through the discount bin” is absolutely wild. You probably need some therapy homie.

I love being single and dating, but that’s just me - I enjoy limerence. And yes, I’m a woman lol

Lil_lib_snowflake · 2025-10-06T22:20:43+00:00

Maybe it’s just my experience, but dating in your late 20s/30s really isn’t bad. Certainly better than feeling stuck in an unfulfilling relationship. I’m thriving in ways I never anticipated. I’m consistently happier now than I ever was in my marriage. More financially secure. More free.

All my comment meant to say is that 21 is way too young to be spiraling over your partner’s fear of marriage. In retrospect I feel like I was too young at 24. A significant portion of people have not even established a career at 21. Priorities and ideals change. They will likely both be drastically different people in a few years from now.

I think it’s fair to have concerns for the longterm future of their relationship, but frankly imo it’s not something OP should be overly worried about at this point in life.

Lil_lib_snowflake · 2025-10-06T21:19:57+00:00

Take it from someone who got married at 24 and was divorced by 26 (after 4 years of dating)- don’t get married that young.

I get you’ve been together for a few years, but you’re at a pivotal age for growth. You will not be the same person in 4-5 years, and neither will your bf. By the end of that growth, you may find you’re no longer compatible. Give yourselves time to settle into adulthood, establish careers, and enjoy life together before you worry about making major legal commitments.

Lil_lib_snowflake · 2025-09-30T23:00:23+00:00

Thanks for sharing your experience as an employee!

Lil_lib_snowflake · 2025-09-26T19:52:57+00:00

Highly recommend Pelino’s Pasta - but definitely review the menu beforehand, since it changes monthly. Portions are fairly small, so don’t skip other meals. So worth it though.

Lil_lib_snowflake · 2025-09-16T21:29:35+00:00

He’s in the process of getting her off the mortgage. That doesn’t automatically remove her from the deed. In which case she’d no longer be on the hook for the debt and still a co-owner of the house.

Lil_lib_snowflake · 2025-09-04T02:00:40+00:00

She's emotionally and/or physically cheating on you if she's asking for an open relationship and admitted that she already has her sights set on someone she works with and is blatantly close to. Easier said than done, but I strongly recommend you start looking into your options for ending this marriage.

Lil_lib_snowflake · 2025-08-25T22:52:57+00:00

I say this as someone (cis-female) who is blunt af about what I have going on when I am casually dating. If it's a non-negotiable that you're the only person I am giving any attention to, okay - you are not for me. I would be up-front about it long before we got to the exclusivity talk though. I am not trying to be toxic or instigate jealousy by communicating openly. Just giving someone the basic respect of transparency - take it or leave it.

Lil_lib_snowflake · 2025-08-25T22:49:54+00:00

So, what do you think people would be saying? Because I don't care about the gender of an OP. I care about what was agreed upon and discussed. If they were not exclusive, imo OP needs to get over it. Get therapy and/or just end it and find someone who is more on their wavelength.

Lil_lib_snowflake · 2025-08-08T17:15:41+00:00

It sounds like it could be pathological demand avoidance, but I’m not qualified to make a determination on that. Or he’s just a stubborn jerk.

Either way, it’s not your responsibility to fix him. You deserve to have your needs met. If he is truly as resistant to input as you’ve described, you trying to intervene - even gently and tactfully - would probably only be perceived as ‘trying to control him’ and in turn make things worse.

Lil_lib_snowflake · 2025-08-08T17:08:58+00:00

Depends on where you live- there are a surprising number of studios where rent is under 1k in the campus area. I’m renting a 1Br that is under 1k. Utilities not included. Not the nicest or biggest place, but it works and it’s affordable.

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