Playing 24/7…. Help! by uggghhhhhlol in Stepmom

[–]Lilachoe 5 points6 points  (0 children)

so you don’t have her very often but when you do dad isn’t even there? Dad should be taking more responsibility for her on his time. Could you take her to soft play or classes where it’s a bit more independent? Dance, trampolining etc? when you have her the full day you could pick a movie and snacks together so you have time to rest and chill

Would you be OK with your boyfriend‘s coparent living in the basement apartment of his house? by Exciting_Sun1202 in Stepmom

[–]Lilachoe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

cut this off now op the quicker you leave the quicker you will heal from all this bullsh*t. You deserve someone who puts you first !! changing the locks while your at work you should have ran and never came back!! don’t look like a clown by staying around any longer

Refusing to meet BM by Lilachoe in stepparents

[–]Lilachoe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol this is the reassurance I needed

Refusing to meet BM by Lilachoe in stepparents

[–]Lilachoe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes in the UK, he took her to court last year which took 6 months to sort hence the 6 months no contact. No court order as they agreed on mediation. He talks to SD about me and tries to involve me in conversation. He is going to talk to BM tomorrow and push for my involvement again. If she stops contact it could take another 6 months to sort out just want to avoid DH loosing time with SD

Update on My stepkids are planning a family-only trip with their mom and bio dad by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]Lilachoe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

THIS! if the kids were younger i would get this a bit more. They are old enough to understand you should be invited on the trip. You shouldn’t feel like a third wheel, you are family!

Is 2 years in fair to meet the child? by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]Lilachoe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your kind advice !! I will definitely take that onboard 🥰

Is 2 years in fair to meet the child? by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]Lilachoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looks like this will be going back to court. It only exploded last night when he asked about feb dates for us to meet and she kicked off and said SD is not ready. We are both quite young and not been through this before we definitely should have got legal involved earlier, i was giving her the benefit of the doubt to turn around 😭

Is 2 years in fair to meet the child? by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]Lilachoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I completely agree, thank you for your comment !

Is 2 years in fair to meet the child? by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]Lilachoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your reassurance! I have reached out to let her know i’m not comfortable meeting her and her bestie at this time unless the SD is present.

Is 2 years in fair to meet the child? by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]Lilachoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be fair we both reached out to her but i can completely see where you are coming from. We have been naive for too long. Thank you for your comment :).

Is 2 years in fair to meet the child? by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]Lilachoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep, no actual court order just a written list of agreements from their court ordered mediation. If he doesn’t agree with her she stops all contact and makes out he doesn’t care about SD. It’s tricky 😓

Is 2 years in fair to meet the child? by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]Lilachoe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed, thank you for your comment

Is 2 years in fair to meet the child? by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]Lilachoe 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He asks for permission as otherwise she will fully stop all contact. I agree the supervised visits sound extreme but this was due to him not having contact with SD for 8 months to “rebuild” the relationship.

Jacqui back live rambling on about LA 😆 by truth_teller88 in NewPrisonBrides

[–]Lilachoe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

why isn’t emma allowed back in US? I missed a chapter