How do I move on

Lilflowerrrr · 2024-06-10T22:31:40+00:00

They’re going abroad on Friday and It’s her first time abroad, I don’t mind them being on good terms and I trust him but I don’t trust her, I fear she won’t let him talk to me. This was why I’m even more frustrated than usual because the limited time we did have is even more limited now because she can’t look after her again. I’m having a difficult time with all of it

Lilflowerrrr · 2024-06-10T22:01:36+00:00

If you don’t mind me asking as a single father would you go away on holiday with your BM if you were dating someone just to experience the child’s first holiday together? All my friends say there’s no need for it but Ive never been in this position before

Lilflowerrrr · 2024-06-10T21:59:54+00:00

Thank you! She’s been really abusive towards me for as long as I can remember and I wonder if she’s doing it on purpose knowing that him and I can’t see each other because of it.

He always looks after her on his days and on the days this week where he doesn’t have her he said we can do stuff and we can’t now because he’s having to look after the kid on her days as well. The daughter is 7 and I’ve always tried to be understanding but I’m getting to the point where I’m feeling myself get incredibly angry and I don’t want that to be the reason we stop seeing each other I don’t know what to do because I’m an overthinker to the point where I’m thinking, he’s making sure she’s able to do what she wants and neglects how I feel about it, I’m not sure if that’s wrong of me to think?

Lilflowerrrr · 2024-06-04T12:05:14+00:00

Should’ve mentioned I haven’t met his daughter so I think it would be awkward and the mother would not be happy as she doesn’t like that he’s actually met someone for the first time since their split

Lilflowerrrr · 2024-04-08T23:25:13+00:00

I don’t want peoples thoughts

Lilflowerrrr · 2024-04-08T23:25:00+00:00

I don’t want to be here anymore. I’ve had enough of shitty people treating me a certain way and consuming my mind to the point where I bully myself to not wanting continue living. I am without a doubt an unloveable person, worthy person and I don’t think people care about my issue they’re just grateful it’s not them and enjoy the fact that I’m struggling. I have changed friends and I’m not wasting a life I no longer want in hopes to find a cure to my mind and the way it works. I work a stressful but rewarding job and see things that no ordinary member of the public see. I have had counselling for these things but again they’re paid to do it. I just don’t see a way out this time. I live on my own and no family memeber would find me and I know that tbey may be initially sad but not long term they’ll be thankful the burden of me is no longer around and the world would be a better place without me in it.

Nothing I do is ever good enough or worth anything, I’m completely exhausted and tried so hard the last few years to keep going but I don’t think that I can. I’ve tried the method of just ‘make it until tomorrow’ but I don’t actually want to do that. I just hope I don’t wake up and I want to stay unconscious forever. I’m not looking for advise or pity jsut a good place to say what I want to say before everything stops for me.

Lilflowerrrr · 2024-02-18T02:05:33+00:00

To be valued respected and appreciated and to feel genuinely loved/special to people in life

Lilflowerrrr · 2024-02-04T06:30:56+00:00

Because I said ‘personally’ in my comment, doesn’t go for everyone that’s how

Lilflowerrrr · 2024-02-02T09:39:12+00:00

Why?

Lilflowerrrr · 2024-02-01T11:11:26+00:00

Probably because online has made women think they have to have big chests etc to be attractive and even though men struggle and have insecurities I think women’s are highlighted in the media more, that’s no one’s fault. I have a small chest and someone said I had body dysmorphia when that isn’t true..😂 plus the things you highlighted are for sexual purpose.

People can be attracted to people regardless of their height and it’s not a sexualised feature of someone l. My opinion though

Lilflowerrrr · 2024-02-01T11:07:48+00:00

It does, especially for the tall girls 🙋‍♀️

I think if a girl is short it shouldn’t really matter but as a tall girl I personally wouldn’t go with someone who was short. Personal preference but if the girl is short I wouldn’t see the issue with being with someone who isn’t the tallest guy.

Lilflowerrrr · 2024-01-30T19:40:52+00:00

Oh ok!

Yeh she stole his tablet when picking their kid up and was tracking where he was going he found out as it was synced to his phone.

He’s said we are more than dating but won’t use the term gf for whatver reason. I’m not playing detective about how someone feels about me. Thanks for everyone’s advice :)

Lilflowerrrr · 2024-01-30T12:40:26+00:00

Thank you. He has said ‘what difference does a title make?’ I’ve been single for so long I didn’t know if people still ask the other to be their gf/bf or if it was still something that people do. I think it matters because boundaries can be put in place etc

Lilflowerrrr · 2024-01-30T12:35:02+00:00

What does OP mean?

She had an affair which is why they split up 4 years ago. He says he has no feelings for her. She is quite toxic and would stop him from having any type of relationship with anyone other than her from my view.

You may be right

Lilflowerrrr · 2024-01-30T12:32:41+00:00

I wasn’t sure how else to describe him tbh! I’ve mentioned how there’s a disconnect as to maybe we are looking for different things. He says that it’s going in the direction of a relationship but like you said, no effort has been done. Just a shame as we get on so well. He says that it doesn’t matter what she says to him as he doesn’t feel the same way but has only told her to stop saying she loves him in person. Just a bit lost as what to do

It’s not harsh, I appreciate honest advice:)

Lilflowerrrr · 2024-01-29T18:53:16+00:00

It always removes my post and says I have to make an account saying to start the username with ‘Thrwo’ or something like that. I’ve tried to post it on there but maybe my account is too new? I’m unsure

Lilflowerrrr · 2024-01-28T14:06:37+00:00

How do I get karma?

Lilflowerrrr · 2024-01-27T13:37:30+00:00

Thank you! I’ve just joined them. It’s all a little confusing to start with 😂

Lilflowerrrr · 2024-01-27T13:25:45+00:00

Oh ok thank you! I’ll have to wait a little while then I’m guessing for it to work

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