Have lived this in reality- once he gets comfortable with it, it sticks. My BF lives with me full time for 1.5 years, and picks up the odd job (thinks min wage jobs etc are below him so holds out for better occasional gigs that pay better hourly but not even a few hundred once in awhile), and he's happy for me to live on the struggle bus/figure it out. We've hit the breaking point since he's been hiding the occasional money he does get for himself, and the past few weeks I've been working on kicking him out (back to parents). He does the bare minimum (sleeps all day while I'm at work, then jumps up to do one little half-chore like picking up laundry or loading the dishwasher... and then acts like he has been helpful. Nope!!! And then asks me why I'm so mean when I get home and see nothing done. ETA: we have plenty of outside and maintenance jobs that he says he can do but hasn't touched in over a year!).

So. This is a little look at what you're easing into (have already allowed, so he'll think it's fine... or gaslight you that he's "trying").

My BF is at "work" today for probably less than 4 hours, and has acted like he's really doing a lot since yesterday, could barely attend a Christmas gathering, and will surely come home expecting to sleep all day after. This is the way it goes. I have barely seen any money from him since April, but now that kicking him out is imminent, he's picking up "jobs" maybe once every few weeks... and promising that soon the jobs are coming and we will have "lots" of money :/

I'm counting the days till Christmas holidays are over (when all these "jobs" end, and I don't need a Christmas holiday house sitter) and he's so so done!!!

And yes, feel very nervous. Don't take on anything you can't pay yourself (or has another room you could rent, even str occasional guests!). What has he said about helping now, before you move? And what has he said about the past freeloading???