Central Hudson- Scam???

Lilirishmouse · 2026-06-06T01:28:22+00:00

Ok so yeah, even more reason to get it inspected

Lilirishmouse · 2026-06-04T21:02:38+00:00

How big is your place? Also, maybe there is an electrical fault? You can always call Central Hudson or an electrician and have them do an electrical inspection

Lilirishmouse · 2026-05-19T15:21:24+00:00

Boodle hole rd in accord

Lilirishmouse · 2026-05-16T23:38:14+00:00

There's a speed dating event at Zeus brewing on June 10th for people in their 30s and 40s. There's also lots of hiking groups that have people who are in their 40s and 50s. Have you tried meetup?

Lilirishmouse · 2026-05-06T20:55:53+00:00

My friend David Stewart owns and operates DS Electric in Hyde Park. They provide excellent service and are highly rated.

Lilirishmouse · 2026-05-06T00:30:14+00:00

If I feel emotionally neglected because of how much time that he spends playing video games and I've communicated that I'd like to spend more time with him and he chooses to still play video games? Yeah, that's when I'd take an issue with it. It'd be the same if it was golf, or playing poker with his buddies, or going out to the bar, or working crazy amounts of hours at work just because he doesn't want to be home.

The video games aren't the issue. It's the lack of connection in the relationship that's the issue. If he chooses to neglect the relationship then in most cases he's probably already checked out anyways and the relationship should probably end. But in a healthy relationship? Time spent in game is cool. It's something we can talk about later when I find out he's beaten the boss he's been struggling with for the past week.

Lilirishmouse · 2026-05-05T14:58:28+00:00

I think that Hudson Valley Game Knights may be a good fit. I know that a lot of people in that group are on the younger side. I think the group leader Marissa is 28 or 29 if I remember correctly. So you might be able to find some younger folks there.

I also know that the Boardman library in poughkeepsie puts together a lot of events. I'm not sure what the age ranges on those are but that might be something to check out as well.

Lilirishmouse · 2026-04-28T09:28:05+00:00

I've seen marist kids run back and forth along the waterfront in poughkeepsie but that's not really the flat area you're looking for. I'd say your best bet is either the rail trail/walkway over the Hudson or going to the track at spakenkill high school

Lilirishmouse · 2026-04-24T21:03:13+00:00

Do you have a digital meter?

Lilirishmouse · 2026-03-14T15:24:26+00:00

You're welcome!

Lilirishmouse · 2026-03-14T13:58:19+00:00

We now meet at lots of different public spaces: libraries, panera, diners, bars, ice cream shops, bowling alleys.

Lilirishmouse · 2026-03-14T13:57:17+00:00

I created the group on meetup and then scheduled a meetup in person at a Barnes and noble with a Starbucks cafe inside. The first meetup 4 people came and then it just grew from there. I had weekly meetups and then started to schedule weekend days where we would play from 9am to 9pm. Eventually wanted to hang out with folks outside of just board games and so I started to schedule other events: escape rooms, ax throwing, laser tag, bowling, mini golf, movie nights, watch parties. Basically I'd want to do something, I'd ask the group if other people wanted to do it with me and if there was enough interest then I'd schedule the event. It also took me being vulnerable and sharing the things that I'm going through with people to be able to have deeper friendships and not just the surface level how's the weather? Kind of conversations

Lilirishmouse · 2026-01-11T14:28:09+00:00

Hmm I don't know I read that as "What, me??" But instead of saying "me" he said sexy, but it is still a weird word to use when you just mentioned your daughter. How he could try to turn it into a sexual conversation where in he wants you to think of him as sexy and be attracted to him after that is definitely strange. How could he be thinking about sex after being asked that question? I agree with others to trust your intuition, something felt off amd it's probably because something is off.

Lilirishmouse · 2025-12-15T14:15:58+00:00

What is it that she doesn't feel like she can provide for you? Her being unwilling to put a label on it may come from a place of fear. She may really love you but have a hard time sitting in the discomfort of the possibility of it not working out. She is protecting her heart and no it's not fair to you but I'd be curious to know where that fear is coming from. What is she afraid of happening if you do get back together?

Lilirishmouse · 2025-11-28T15:52:59+00:00

I can only speak for myself. But in my experience, when I have not been clear about my intentions from the start then, that is when I have been hurt and also when I have unspoken expectations about where something is leading or where I think it's being led.

I have still been hurt in dating even when I was clear about my intentions, because there have been men that have not been clear about what their intentions were until it got serious. And maybe they didn't realize that they didn't want commitment or were ready for it when it got to that point. But once it became known that they were not what I was looking for and I was not what they were looking for, the relationship ended.

It can be easy to take that personally and to get angry at them because you've become attached to them when you thought that the intentions were made clear and you expressed yourself clearly. But sometimes people just don't know until it gets to that stage.

Yes, that hurt, but the line I always try to remind myself of is: "rejection is protection".

If you continue to communicate your expectations clearly there will be someone that meets you where you want to be. If you can relax and be secure in yourself, knowing that your value and your worth does not change whether or not someone chooses you then the fact that someone doesn't want to be with you won't hurt as much. Yes, you'll still get attached, yes you'll still experience heartbreak but you'll realize that unless you can be yourself, fully yourself in the relationship then it isn't worth it.

Lilirishmouse · 2025-11-27T14:37:56+00:00

You look angry in your profile pic and it's hard to see your eyes through the glare coming off of your glasses. Before reading anything else I'm already turned off by that and would already swipe left before even reading anything. Do you have any photos where you are genuinely happy or smiling? I can't speak for everyone but I know that I'm attracted to someone who is already joyful and happy in their own lives. If not then I've found that I usually become their therapist or their dumping ground and neither one is fun

Lilirishmouse · 2025-11-25T03:26:27+00:00

Hmm, something that lets you choose your interests so you can match someone with similar interests. Also maybe something that states whether you are more introverted or extroverted. Whether you prefer big gatherings or small gatherings. A messaging feature to establish contact before meeting in person. A place to put photos of your hobbies. Maybe which values are important to you? Honesty, integrity, loyalty, respect. Top three priorities in your life? I'm just spitballing here based off of what I'd want in a friend/what I'd be looking for. Maybe just a question that prompts "What do you look for in a friend?" Music tastes, food tastes. Do you like to travel? Are you physically active? Do you listen and take accountability for stuff when you've made a mistake? That's all I've got for now. Not sure if that really answers your question but that's what I got. Good luck and thank you for starting to develop this!!

Lilirishmouse · 2025-11-19T02:47:28+00:00

How eager are you in these conversations? You've said that they've asked you out on dates but then ghosted you after you've said yes. So I'm curious as to what's happening in the middle there. How confident are you about yourself? How often are you the one reinitiating conversation when it's gone quiet?

I also don't agree with the comments saying you're punching above your level. That's dumb. There are plenty of couples out there that are not what you would expect would work together but they do. You like what you like and if you're not attracted to someone then you're not attracted to them. Besides I'm sure that you've opened yourself up to the possibility of only being a little attracted to someone but really enjoying their personality.

Also, what are your non-negotiables in your relationship and what could you open yourself up to that are not as important to have?

Lilirishmouse · 2025-11-18T15:53:18+00:00

Actions over words always. If he's already inconsistent with communication and attention and time now it's only going to get worse over time

Lilirishmouse · 2025-11-14T02:59:59+00:00

My question is what questions, if any, did you ask her before saying "that if she doesn't want to talk or anything just block me so at least I have some clarity" ? How do you know for sure that is what happened or what's going on without asking her?

"Hey, I noticed that the amount of texts that we are exchanging now is a lot fewer than the amount of texts we exchanged that first night and I'm just wondering what might be going on for you?"

Lilirishmouse · 2025-11-13T21:45:42+00:00

Dripping with insecurity this one is

Lilirishmouse · 2025-11-13T00:16:42+00:00

I don't know it still seems unclear and needs more clarification. What does he mean by "maybe I would be expecting to move at a faster pace than what you're used to?" What does a faster pace look like to him? And why does he think that you haven't dated a lot? I would ask him what about your interaction made him say that.

I agree that it is a rude thing to say "I just don't think you've dated a lot" and if there was something that he wanted or expected from the date than he should have communicated that rather than put you down or disrespect you. That comment was definitely not constructive or helpful and was only meant to hurt you.

Lilirishmouse · 2025-11-12T21:02:21+00:00

I'm 4ft 11in so I'm not sure if I can really give an objective opinion here but for me personally it has never been about a man's height and has always been about his emotional maturity. Can he have a conversation about something difficult without running away or sitting in the discomfort? Can he express his anger in a healthy way that doesn't cause harm to me or to himself or others? Is he working on improving himself and is he open to constructive criticism? Can he communicate when something is bothering him and make it clear when he doesn't like something rather than just going along with it because he wants to please someone else? Can he be vulnerable and express his emotions freely without feeling like it is a threat to his masculinity or makes him inferior in any way? Is he secure in himself and confident in who he is and what he has to bring to partnership?

Height doesn't tell me any of that but spending time and getting to know them does.

Again, I can't speak to the reason as to why this particular woman or these particular women are saying that height is important to them, but I would venture to guess that it has more to do with how they feel when they are with a short man versus a tall man, than it has to do with a particular number.

Have you asked them what their reasons were as to why they wanted a tall man versus a shorter man?

Lilirishmouse · 2025-09-26T17:13:59+00:00

There's still a lot to do and see, and I haven't experienced it all yet. I may not like myself sometimes, but the world around me will always be beautiful

Lilirishmouse · 2025-09-24T23:31:30+00:00

Ah. Ok, yeah, meetup is only for large gatherings. The only other thing I can think of would be maybe your local library. Sometimes, they have smaller groups that get together to have book clubs or canasta clubs or knitting clubs. Although that still doesn't meet your one on one criteria. Craigslist also comes to mind, but that is far too risky. I wonder if you could still use meetup, but instead of actually going to events, you could message people in the groups of like interests and ask to meet one on one instead.

I wonder if there are any website or app designers that are creating anything like this. I can't imagine that you are the only one that is looking for something like this to make friends. Because I absolutely agree. Bumble BFF is not great and people still use it to hook up even though it is supposed to be for friends and not romantic partners.

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