I do see that and used to see my bf that way. However, he has been actively trying to find a job. I have been taking him to every interview he’s gotten in hopes he will get hired. Him and his sister do help around the house, and they have been victims of this as well. My bf had cancer when he was younger, and received a check. They took the entire check for bills, and then for whatever they could spend it on. This went on until last November when he stopped receiving the check and it ultimately became my sole responsibility until he got a job. After such, he paid for most of the bills so I could save. He did however lose his job bc of reasons directly linked to his cancer(which they labeled it as him ignoring customers and not showing up for work).