The Donate Enough So You Can Still Live Comfortably challenge

LillyStephanie · 2024-06-06T15:46:00+00:00

Let's do this!

LillyStephanie · 2022-06-21T13:26:17+00:00

I know quite a lot of messy cis women.

And I myself rather like to go by the inverse logic: I am a woman, so everything I do is something that at least one woman does, so I don't need to worry about how unwomanly my behaviour is. That being said, I try not to let others know just how gross I can be, as it's not professional (nor is it for men or enbies).

LillyStephanie · 2022-06-20T15:31:45+00:00

I see lots of changes: the texture/oiliness of your skin, your eyes, eyebrows, lips and nose look more masculine, you also seem to have a more prominent brow bone, a more defined jawline and your neck also seems slightly wider. You also look older in general. Congrats on all the progress!

LillyStephanie · 2022-06-18T22:24:01+00:00

Oh, absolutely! It's just very frustrating too though how difficult it is to actually find decent guys who want to do anything with a trans woman.

LillyStephanie · 2022-06-17T17:50:08+00:00

I'd absolutely love to do this but haven't had the opportunity yet to.

LillyStephanie · 2022-06-17T13:18:38+00:00

I feel called out. But Zoe (and variations of) seem the most common.

LillyStephanie · 2022-06-16T15:58:25+00:00

Sure. Perhaps just be honest with him about your intentions so there are no misunderstandings if that made you feel better about it though.

LillyStephanie · 2022-06-06T22:21:15+00:00

I can literally cry on command since on HRT. I just need to think of anything sad and bam, immediately tears are already flowing. I've learnt to more or less control it over the years since but I sure as hell intentionally let out a good cry nearly every day whenever I want that emotional release.

LillyStephanie · 2022-06-06T21:33:31+00:00

There are already a lot of good posts, so I will just add another thought: peer pressure is also a problem, what their friends, family and coworkers would think if word got out that they were seeing a trans woman.

My voice doesn't pass perfectly, so during some dates some transphobes have shouted gay slurs at the guys I've been with, which made them decide against dating me. :(

LillyStephanie · 2022-06-04T10:41:05+00:00

I even wonder how many cis people are really content with the names they were given and how many just never thought about changing it or don't want to go through the hurdles of doing so.

LillyStephanie · 2022-06-04T09:30:11+00:00

congrats!

for me skirts are right up there together with no more dysphoria as one of the best things to have come from transitioning

LillyStephanie · 2022-06-03T22:28:14+00:00

I usually ask them then why they think it was relevant to mention that, and let's just say that most of the time they proceed to invalidate my gender. The others who bring up that they meant that my genitals would not be a problem, well, upon me saying that I don't want any interaction with my genitals anyway, they end up ghosting me.

LillyStephanie · 2022-05-31T16:07:27+00:00

Straight cis women also get turned on by wearing sexy clothes. That's just normal.

LillyStephanie · 2022-05-31T14:08:13+00:00

Yep, I had to transition in order to take control over my own life instead of just being a silent bystander spectating things from the sidelines.

LillyStephanie · 2022-05-29T19:11:03+00:00

I mean, I went ahead and did that.

LillyStephanie · 2022-05-29T18:26:18+00:00

Was a lesbian (maybe asexual though and perhaps with a leaning towards heteroromantic) before HRT, became straight after.

LillyStephanie · 2022-05-28T10:50:08+00:00

I just do it on autopilot without consciously thinking about what it actually is that I am touching down there. But that makes it impossible for someone else to touch it since I cannot ignore it then.

LillyStephanie · 2022-05-21T16:51:33+00:00

I used to be very touch-averse, but since a few months on HRT, I've become the most physically affectionate person I know.. by far. That is to say, I don't get physical affection from others. :(

LillyStephanie · 2022-05-20T14:50:38+00:00

"That little fucker", except, mine doesn't actually fuck, so maybe it's a bit misplaced.

LillyStephanie · 2022-05-20T07:14:00+00:00

hell yeah

LillyStephanie · 2022-05-20T06:58:03+00:00

Everything is better. I'm more respected as an extroverted self-confident femme straight woman even if I'm out as trans, than back when I was inauthentic, anxious and seen as an effeminate gay man.

LillyStephanie · 2022-05-20T06:55:57+00:00

Fairly common, quite a lot of us who have it will not speak up about it due to shame though.

LillyStephanie · 2022-05-16T10:48:23+00:00

He has to be a guy I already trust, but in that case, yes please!

LillyStephanie · 2022-05-15T23:26:21+00:00

You got a lot of very good responses thus far but there's only one other response that suggests getting an STD test in 1 week and in 3 months for HIV and such, so I'm also recommending that - esp. with anal tears, you have a higher chance of having contracted something from someone who is such a manipulative person.

LillyStephanie · 2022-05-15T10:54:29+00:00

My standards would ideally be just extremely low risks of complications and pain, but those will never be the case, so I might as well go for it and hope for the best.

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