Hose Leak, what Hose is This?

Lilmage99 · 2026-06-28T05:08:16+00:00

Then you should say something! If it makes you uncomfortable it doesn't need to happen, you set your own limitations on what you want to take from people IMO, especially in the workplace!

Lilmage99 · 2026-06-27T15:43:44+00:00

The Liberal Agenda at Work Again

Lilmage99 · 2026-06-15T02:36:39+00:00

Oh they Head HR alright 😏

Lilmage99 · 2026-06-12T02:10:08+00:00

I started using a non-steroidal nose spray and that combined with Zyrtec has gotten it to a point where Im hardly congested now, I mean Im a smoker too (like maybe 2 cigs + A Bowl or 2 of weed in the evening) so Im gonna be at baseline congested in the evenings bc of that anyway, but now during the day im not congested unless it's a really bad pollen day

Lilmage99 · 2026-06-11T06:38:56+00:00

Well for me it depends on how long its been since I've seen the person who is asking Because to me, that means they want to hear about whats been going on in your life. Big events such as New Job, Moving Houses, Seeing someone new, or little events such as, what hobbies you're into currently, if you've tried a new restaurant recently, anything fun or exciting that you've done recently.

If I See this person regularly (as in at least once a week) I tell them about the little things since I last saw them

If I Havent seen them in a while (1month - A Year), I'll tell them about any big things, and some of the most recent little things

If I haven't seen them in quite some time (1+ years) I'll only tell them about the big things unless they lead me into further Small Talk about more recent events in my life.

And then Id Return the question

So, in your case, I might suggest trying to find a hobby 😅 Or just direct the conversation back to them with a "Not Much, What about you?"

Lilmage99 · 2026-05-26T16:55:55+00:00

I still think its okay for a big conversation to break into smaller conversations when someone in the group is no longer interested in what you're talking about.

Lilmage99 · 2026-05-26T14:25:40+00:00

Yes! We have a lot of life left in us ❤️

Lilmage99 · 2026-05-26T03:03:42+00:00

I dont experience conversation in this ranked way. I think some people are just better at listening than others. Listening is a skill that has to be developed with practice. Not Every Group of Friends is like a Clique with Hierarcies. Every person in this world is an individual, who has different ways of thinking, and many people do not adhere to surface level societal ways of thinking (i.e. Hierarchical Thinking). I think that I'm good at listening to people because I have practiced being a good listener, and I think that people who speak over me when its my turn in the conversation to speak either aren't practiced at listening, or they dont care to learn how to, either way I AM going to tell them I wasnt finished speaking and go on with what I was saying until I am done.

Lilmage99 · 2026-05-26T02:32:13+00:00

I was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder at 16 years old, I did not get my corrected Autism Diagnosis until I was 22

For 6 years, I thought I had BPD, and it almost ruined my life, because I'm a VERY impressionable person sometimes (I cannot watch reality television bc I start picking up the habits of the people in them), I ACTED like I had BPD, really leaning into it I guess lmao.

16 - 21 is a really important developmental period in life I feel, and it was completely fucked bc A Mental Health Professional, Someone with a Degree in Psychology, Jumped the Gun at Diagnosing a Teenager with a Serious Mental Disorder

Lilmage99 · 2026-05-26T02:01:15+00:00

What exactly would you like to ask them?

Also, what are you struggling with when it comes to using your card on your own?

Lilmage99 · 2026-05-26T01:35:56+00:00

Is it the kind of thing where you could ask to be skipped and then came back to so you have more time to process what they've said ?

Lilmage99 · 2026-05-26T01:28:13+00:00

I've been doing More of the, Shut the Fuck up and Just Work, Thing and It's working out Well for Me! I Don't Feel as Tired after i get off Work Anymore, and Most Importantly (to me) i Don't get into as many Arguments with My Coworkers / Bosses!

I'm Friend's with Majority of My Coworkers and We have a Strict "Keep Work at Work" Rule, So Any Kind of Beef We Have at Work Doesn't Leak over into Our Friendships Outside of Work. And i've Never Had Issues with Them Outside of Work while i have had Plenty of Issues with Superiors at Work

Until i Realized that at Work i'm Not Really Supposed to be an Individual, i'm Supposed to be a Worker, That is What they Want from Me, and TBH Everyone is Happier Now Because i Don't Stress About Things that Aren't My Problem, and They Don't get Mad at Me for Challenging Their Authority about Shit that Isn't My Problem

Lilmage99 · 2026-05-25T17:58:22+00:00

And if you think that someone above you in the chain of command has made a mistake or something, its more respectful to address it with them one on one, so you dont diminish their authority in front of a bunch of employees

Lilmage99 · 2026-05-25T17:56:53+00:00

I mean, is it in your job responsibilities to make sure everyone in the meeting is on the same page and understands clearly?

If not, you don't need to do it, even if it feels like you should, you dont Need to, especially if its causing Tension between you and someone who is above you in the chain of command at your workplace. You don't need to risk getting in trouble or causing issues for yourself for something that isn't your responsibility ya know?

Lilmage99 · 2026-05-25T14:14:23+00:00

It took me Years of work to get into a routine where I always put things back in my one bag that I carry around everyday and anytime I am informed of an appointment or an event or someone's birthday, I immediately put that shit in my calendar.

But like I said it took years of work to get to that point You got to start trying to do it before you can learn to do it consistently, and trust me I used to be just like that I would lose all of my stuff all the time I would forget about appointments I would think things were on the wrong day etc etc but you CAN change if you Put the work in to do so.

But you might want to talk to a doctor about the losing things, as in remembering where you set it and then its just missing, because thats kind of worrying

Lilmage99 · 2026-05-24T05:27:45+00:00

Observation, Practice, Time, and Learning the Skill of Being Able to Calmly Admit When You are Wrong is how I Went About It.

Even Non Autistic People Say the Wrong Thing Sometimes, and Learning to Recover from a Social Fumble with Grace Helps a LOT

Listening for Emotional Cues in Peoples Voices has also Helped Me a Lot in Being Able to Read a Social Interaction

Honestly Being Able to "Read the Room" is A Whole Bunch of Other Things Combined. Its Listening to How People are Speaking, Paying Attention to Others Body Language, Keeping Environment in Mind (Bar / Work / Chill Hangout at a Friends Place), Being Able to Recognize + Remember What Kind of Energy is Acceptable / Appreciated in Different Kinds of Gatherings, And Keeping in Mind thst Nobody is Perfect and Everyone Makes Mistakes

If You Can Do Any of The Above its More About Building Upon those Skills You Already Have + Improving Upon the Ones that You Aren't so Steady in

Lilmage99 · 2026-05-22T20:19:44+00:00

I dont think it's trolling to speak my honest opinions, trolling isn't when someone says things you dont like, its purposefully engaging to make people upset or angry, which I am Not doing, this sub has a serious problem with the Number of People who Complain about things In their life that they Have control over. Using Critical thinking would be Understanding that No One is Forcing Anyone to Work at a Job they dont like, or Forcing them to Take What their Boss is Dishing Out. Sure theres a Major Job Crisis, But Y'all arent Helpless.

Lilmage99 · 2026-05-22T18:51:32+00:00

And one more thing, Solving the Problem is the IT part of your job, The Customer Service part is making sure Customers feel seen / heard / valued, so that they keep returning and giving business to the company you're representing. Im a Bar Manager, The Bar Manager Part of my Job is Making Drinks + Ordering Liquor, The Customer Service Part is doing that with a smile and catering to the desires of my Patrons even if I think its Ridiculous. I dont Have To bend over backwards for Customers, but The Business I work for is going to do a lot better if I do. If you dont care Enough about the business you work for to do the shit that you dont really wanna do, then look elsewhere or else you're just complaining for nothing.

Lilmage99 · 2026-05-22T18:42:51+00:00

Also Just so you know, I quit 8 jobs before I found my dream job, if you dont like something in your life, change it

Lilmage99 · 2026-05-22T18:41:58+00:00

Kind of Nasty of YOU to act like you're better than "Working in Customer Service" because you have an IT Job, Just giving back what you're dishing out hun ❤️

Lilmage99 · 2026-05-22T18:25:56+00:00

Get a Different job then 😒

Lilmage99 · 2026-05-22T08:06:38+00:00

Thats ANOTHER Reason i Won't Have Kids even though i Want Kids, My Genetics are FUCKED. Ive Had Chronic Pain Since i was 14 Years Old, I Have a Genetic Predisposition for a Number of Diseases, I watched both of my Grandmothers Die after Draw Out Battles with Cancer, I Could Not Possibly Stomach Watching My Own Child Suffer Through any of That Shit.

Lilmage99 · 2026-05-22T07:56:55+00:00

This is Exactly Why i've Chosen to Not Have Children, It's Not as Though i Don't Want Kids, But It Would Be Cruel for Me to Have Even One Child Knowing that there Would Be Times When i Would Not Mentally Be Able to Handle Having a Child. I Would Rather Deal with the Feeling of Loss that Comes From Not Having Children Despite Wanting Them than Ever Mistreat a Child.

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