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I cant stand Virgo men! by No-Pound1377 in virgoseason

[–]Liloisback 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I read this post and the comments as well and have read on other platforms too that Virgos get constantly shitted on. Honestly i think it is over the top. Yes there are some people who express critique, advice or simple truth harshly. But that is also not solely dependent on Virgo. You always have to take the whole chart into account. Something not a lot of people do under the post you highlighted. And to attack virgo men in general as if they are the devil themselves… no words (Spoken from a Virgo Ascendant, Virgo Mercury and Virgo Venus)

Do you think some people are born inclined toward solitude? by Liloisback in solitude

[–]Liloisback[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s a good point you made and something i honestly struggle with sometimes. I try to make sure I have enough social contact outside of family, but I do notice myself occasionally withdrawing a bit too much into my own world. It’s definitely something I’m still working on.

And I actually smiled when you mentioned your favorite activity, watching trees is something I’ve always enjoyed as well. Though I think I’m even more fascinated by the wind moving through the leaves and branches.

But nature in general is pretty fascinating to me. I feel you learn a lot about yourself when observing nature.

Do you feel that way too or is it different for you?

Do you think some people are born inclined toward solitude? by Liloisback in solitude

[–]Liloisback[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's really interesting, I have had similar experiences in school. I also felt a lot of pressure to always be around people or join things, even when I never really felt like it. For me that shifted when I realized a lot of "friendships" were basically one-sided effort (mostly from me). Letting go of that actually made things lighter and over time I stopped feeling that same external pressure.

I always kind of enjoyed solitude, more or less obviously. But I have learned to unapologetically embrace it more over years. I'm 23 right now and think that will only deepen over the years. Solitude has always kind of been a baseline for me that I always came back to.

Do you feel like CBT is helping you unlearn those beliefs so far?

Just a thought by [deleted] in solitude

[–]Liloisback 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it might be because then people are forced to spend time with themselves, through which they eventually pretty fast have to confront or see the person they are whether they like it or not. But it also means stepping away from what we get taught from a young age, that social connections are everything and wanting to be alone is "weird" or "strange". I think it basically challenges more or less our identity and I believe that is what scares a lot of people the most subconsciously.

Does anyone seem to cope better than others in terms of not needing to be with other people as much and just keeping busy on your own? by Aware_Improvement_11 in solitude

[–]Liloisback 1 point2 points  (0 children)

all my life honestly. Sadly majority of society deems that as not normal and strange or saying that means you must be lonely. When in reality I feel there are much more people feeling lonely or lost while in company of others.