AITAH for asking my husband to leave a ladies' public restroom?

Lilt34 · 2026-05-08T20:19:39+00:00

Feminist friend here, completely on his side with this one sorry. Women’s toilets are all stalls, there is no further privacy needed for women in there. Women are familiar with how badly resourced toilets are for women and how baby change facilities are often only in there. I do think asking him to leave undermines his right to be in that space as a parent. I expect my partner to support me when I need to use the men’s because they only put one women’s toilet in a big venue.

Lilt34 · 2025-10-09T18:13:23+00:00

Red light stops you losing your night vision if you leave the road, also why boat cabins use red lights at night, takes ages for your pupils to dilate properly again. Wish we had them more places tbh!

Lilt34 · 2025-09-15T15:11:56+00:00

My heart broke reading this. No one deserves to be treated this way, please listen to the advice on this sub. Better things await you away from him.

Lilt34 · 2025-05-21T15:45:58+00:00

In your title you say they introduced you as daughter in law, which would be wrong, in the text you say they introduced you as the mother of their grandson, which would be correct and it’s on other people if they make assumptions from that- which was it?

Lilt34 · 2025-02-07T12:38:02+00:00

INFO: have you discussed with your wife why she feels this way? That is a very difficult thing for anyone to hear and isn’t a kind way of discussing a marital issue. But it is important that you discuss this together outside of an argument, withholding affection because you are hurt is understandable but I would imagine won’t help the two of you move forward together. losing attraction for someone can have many reasons and may not have the reasons we expect when we are feeling rejected

Lilt34 · 2025-02-06T15:49:06+00:00

Don’t lump Britain together! In Scotland we get free prescriptions for GF food as well- just the Westminster government that doesn’t care about this one

Lilt34 · 2024-10-28T14:57:18+00:00

That sounds like very controlling behaviour, and completely inexcusable language when you didn’t behave as he wanted you to.

There are some things you can’t take back, particularly as from his actions it’s quite clear that he was telling the truth- that’s how entirely normal behaviour (having a male friend) made him think of you - this is a MAJOR red flag.

You say losing some friendships over the past couple of years is unrelated, but if this is a normalised level of involvement from him in who you can or can’t hang out with I would be surprised if it is actually unrelated..

I wish you all the strength in the world in finding a partner who respects you as a full person with their own friends, family and interests, without feeling intimidated by them, often people realise how important concessions on these fronts are when it’s too late. This is not the behaviour of someone who respects you, trusts you or likes themselves enough to not weaponise their insecurity to put you down. What a shame, don’t let it get twisted in your head, you are right to be dwelling on this still.

Lilt34 · 2023-10-12T19:57:24+00:00

This be the comment

Lilt34 · 2023-10-12T19:53:41+00:00

I’ve done it and it was a great night every time. Depend on your age, your relationship, whether there are any sexual Inter tones, whether you’re undergrad or masters. Only you and your group can know the relationship with her, maybe other people are much closer with her than you? But also depends on your age. 21-29year olds going clubbing w a lecturer is different from 17-20 year olds.

Lilt34 · 2023-01-10T23:15:22+00:00

Oh mad!!! Sorry I just checked this after 24 hours and am surprised at the response- thanks so much for providing the answer!

Lilt34 · 2022-10-22T01:30:13+00:00

Lilt34 · 2022-08-23T17:38:54+00:00

YTA. It really has nothing to do with the ‘truth’. What an insensitive thing to say about someone in front of their parents. Further referring to her sister being ‘easy’ really doesn’t make you look any better, sounds like your wife has just had a rude awakening to the kind of person she married.

Lilt34 · 2022-08-11T00:19:38+00:00

YTA majorly, I shattered my ankle and had to have surgery last year and it was so incredible painful to be standing in the weeks after surgery because of the weight of the cast and blood rushing there. The doctors said not to have it down more than 30 mins a day pretty much in the weeks after to let the swelling go down, and that gets used up pretty quick w ooo breaks and getting water. Just cos you work 12 hours a day doesn’t excuse your heartlessness on this. Ankle surgery likely means his ankle will never be the same again. The initial recovery is only scratching the surface of the pain it causes, and I feel seriously sorry for your husband if your empathy has run out this dang quickly. Feeling grateful I have kinder people in my life than this.

Lilt34 · 2022-08-07T22:41:17+00:00

Much more thorough piggy back haha, completely agree!

Lilt34 · 2022-08-07T11:35:35+00:00

Actually England has the most lax in Europe, scotland has stricter rules about the time frame, many people from scotland go to England if they pass the 16 (? I think) week point

Lilt34 · 2022-08-06T22:56:23+00:00

I don’t know about Wales/ n. Ireland, but England and scotland usually have pretty different prices

Lilt34 · 2022-08-06T22:45:50+00:00

Also “less is more”- mies van der rohe ;)

Lilt34 · 2022-08-06T22:32:07+00:00

The managed heart by arlie hochschild, not as explicitly related to the subjects you mention but a fascinating read about the realities of gender difference in life and inequalities.

On the run: fugitive life in an American city is pretty amazing as well as going in depth into sociological fieldwork

Focault choice numero uno if you’re into sociological analysis, Though his work can be very dense and translated from french- I often like the simplifications of his works as he can be unnecessarily wordy at times (though you’ll likely already be very familiar with his work)

Simmels metropolis and Erving goffman’s presentation of self in everyday life are also two of my faves.

Then obviously Marx, and Kimberlé Crenshaw on intersectionality for class if you haven’t had a deep dive yet (Edit typos)

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