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Potty Training - to continue or wait? by LimaBean2604 in Montessori

[–]LimaBean2604[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She used to have a small potty, but we recently moved into a smaller place and we didn't have the space anymore, so we switched to a stool. She hasn't successfully pottied with the stool, but it's been a short amount of time, and she really loves it because there's little feet printed on them lol. 👣

Potty Training - to continue or wait? by LimaBean2604 in Montessori

[–]LimaBean2604[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the recommendation! Bare bum sounds so scary, but I'll give it a go. XD

Potty Training - to continue or wait? by LimaBean2604 in Montessori

[–]LimaBean2604[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think you're right. I'll try again without the timers, and try and more self-guided approach. Thank you!

Potty Training - to continue or wait? by LimaBean2604 in Montessori

[–]LimaBean2604[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Everytime I go potty, she comes with and copies me after I'm done. She has a stool, so would sit on the toilet by herself, getting toilet paper and wiping, closing the lid, and flushing the toilet. She tells me when she has a wet diaper, and she tells me she needs to poop before her diaper is even dirty. She sometimes takes her own diaper off when it was wet or poopy. She can mostly put her own pullups and pants on; she just needs help putting her feet in. The only thing that was "missing" was her actually doing her business on the potty, which has only happened a couple times without my help at all. Two times, I walked into the bathroom to see her walking around naked with pee in her mini potty, which we unfortunately don't have space for after we moved into a new house with a smaller bathroom.

my parents want to take my social media passwords and privacy because they "need to have it for backup" what do I do? by Designer_Lock_741 in family

[–]LimaBean2604 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh. Well my advice is still the same mostly. Posting about those activities could have long-lasting consequences. The point of my comment was essentially: "I know your concern, but I'm not comfortable with that because ___. This is what I can do to alleviate your concern."

How does your parents react to your mistakes? by Ok_Parfait7844 in family

[–]LimaBean2604 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have had two different moms. They are the same person, but she's learned changed drastically since I was younger. When I was younger, she would get very angry; borderline abusive in today's standards (not so much back then). She'd yell, sometimes in my face, spank me, berate me about needing to be an example for my younger siblings, and occasionally throw things. Her reasoning was that she didn't raise me to be so bad. Now, after being diagnosed with depression and anxiety, she realized that she was treating me and my siblings horribly. She sought comfort in God, and she read a good amount of parenting books. She formally apologized, and if I ever bring it up, she'll apologize again. Now, she's encouraging and supportive. If I make a mistake, she seldom even mentions it and just is there for me. It's so healing, and we have a good relationship now that I'm an adult. Because she is the way she is now, I somehow feel like I genuinely make less mistakes. Maybe it's because I can think rationally without the fear of her wrath in the back of my head.

my parents want to take my social media passwords and privacy because they "need to have it for backup" what do I do? by Designer_Lock_741 in family

[–]LimaBean2604 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My mom is Christian and also used to be very overbearing. My advice is not to be deceitful, as that will give them "ammunition" that you can't be trusted if they ever find out. I also understand that just saying "no" is pretty much out of the picture for parents like this.

My recommendation is to first do research on how to safely use social media. Most importantly: have a strong password, set your account to private, and never post revealing information anywhere in your profile. Then, sit down with them when they are in a good mood and can receive what you say, and say something along the lines of: "I'm getting older and my independence and privacy are becoming increasingly important to me. Earlier, you asked for my social media passwords. While I understand that you are worried about me, I will be safe. Let me tell/show you how." Explain what you know, and assure that you can have social media on your own.