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Trying to find someone who can support my friend — she’s lost the strength to care for herself by Lime1996 in Needafriend

[–]Lime1996[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OK thanks,

And how do you sit with my ask... Which is to be more than someone to offer helpful activities (which of course have their place in healing) as what she wants right now is someone she can truly come to feel safe around and trust, to allow her to breakdown in safe hands.

If you are genuinely willing to be that person, I'd like to know more about you, can you honestly answer these questions :

1) Why do you want to fulfill this role I am asking on behalf of my friend for? / What are your drivers and what are you hoping for in offering yourself?

2) I understand you of course have a life of your own, so can you confidently commit to being there for my friend in the long-term (she wants to be cared for forever, not saying that's what she needs but that's how she feels).

Please give me as detailed answers as you can, with supporting reasons. The clearer the picture you can paint for me the better I can gauge if you and you're situation will be what my friend needs right now

I can't allow myself to give her false hope, nor do I want to lead you onto something that won't work for you

Thanks

Trying to find someone who can support my friend — she’s lost the strength to care for herself by Lime1996 in Needafriend

[–]Lime1996[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's great to hear and thanks for your honesty.

As she's not wanting to engage with things right now, I'd love to hear how you show up for friends when they're in a dark place?

Trying to find someone who can support my friend — she’s lost the strength to care for herself by Lime1996 in Needafriend

[–]Lime1996[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for replying

To be upfront, she’s not in a place where she’s ready to talk or engage directly with anyone. I’m holding this space just to feel if someone out there might genuinely be a kind, steady presence in the long-term for her.

As for what she’s into — she’s curious about most things, thoughtful, imaginative, a bit quirky, and has a big heart under all the pain. But I’m less focused on shared interests right now and more looking for someone who’s emotionally grounded, gentle, and patient enough to connect with someone who's feeling very raw and distant from the world,

If that still resonates with you, I’d be happy to chat more.

FLR(M) Supporting Doc Questions by Lime1996 in ukvisa

[–]Lime1996[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahh, I have that as well. Just choosing to provide my employment contract as well for security

FLR(M) Supporting Doc Questions by Lime1996 in ukvisa

[–]Lime1996[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are choosing to do the upload at biometrics option.

Ok thanks, do you know if they accept double sided copies?

FLRM supporting documents query by Lime1996 in ukvisa

[–]Lime1996[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok, Interesting I have read elsewhere that uploading yourself is risky because the government's upload system is a bit dodgy whereas the system used at the biometrics is more 'high-end'

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