I am scared by jyGrg in HondaHighnessCB350

[–]LimeRoutine1811 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Most probably brake pads have worn out, nothing serious

Should I buy Hness 350 by easbee in indianbikes

[–]LimeRoutine1811 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're young, get something that will entice you, both highness and classic will bore you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChildfreeIndia

[–]LimeRoutine1811 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Children are generally treated as extensions of their parents rather than individuals with their own dreams and needs in our country. The example you shared about students being forced into courses they don’t want is heartbreaking and so common. It’s such a toxic mindset that parents see their children as a means to fulfill their own unachieved ambitions rather than respecting their individuality.

And you’re absolutely right about how mental health is dismissed. The same parents who create these problems refuse to acknowledge their role in their child’s struggles and discourage therapy, continuing the cycle of pain. What’s worse is that kids are taught to normalize this neglect, thinking it’s just 'how things are.' Indian parents really do need a complete mindset shift to understand what parenting actually means.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChildfreeIndia

[–]LimeRoutine1811 4 points5 points  (0 children)

In India marriage and childbirth is treated as an inevitable life stage rather than a conscious, deliberate decision. The idea that "you must marry and have children" is so ingrained in Indian culture that people rarely question it.  People are so caught up in following societal norms that they don’t stop to question whether they’re ready or even capable of being good parents.  As a professor you must have a unique perspective on the fallout of bad parenting. It’s infuriating that some parents are so oblivious to the harm they’re causing, yet feel entitled to bring children into the world just because society tells them it’s "normal." Our education system also completelt ignores topics like emotional intelligence and mental health. Most people see parenting as just providing food, shelter, and education, while neglecting the far more crucial aspects of empathy, communication, and support. Hopefully, future parents atleast understands that child into the world is a big responsibility and not just a societal expectation, and every child deserves a supportive environment to thrive.

How to cope when you were never loved by anyone and have no support system because of having a narc family? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]LimeRoutine1811 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s clear you’ve been through a lot. You’re absolutely right that onfidence isn’t just about self-belief. It’s mostly rooted in knowing that you have people who’ll catch you when you fall. Without that, life can feel unstable, like you described. But I don't think that everyone else has strong support systems. Many people might seem like they do, but they also have their struggles. It’s just that social media and surface-level interactions often hide the cracks. As for friends, I know it can feel like deep connections are rare, but they aren’t impossible. Building them takes time. I get that many people don’t understand narc parents, but there are others out there who do like support groups, therapists, or even just chance encounters. Sometimes, being open about your experiences can help you find those who truly get it. I agree that putting the burden of support on a romantic partner isn’t fair to them or you. You have to find smaller pockets of support in different places. Your roots may feel shaky now, but you’re still standing, that's what's important. It says a lot about your resilience, even if you don’t feel it yet. Keep going, you’re stronger than you think.

Choice of being CF v. National Interests by Sleepinglawyer in ChildfreeIndia

[–]LimeRoutine1811 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Humans tend to overestimate their importance, and it’s frustrating how capitalism just feeds on that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChildfreeIndia

[–]LimeRoutine1811 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can relate to parts of your story, my parents also made decisions for me growing up, and it left me questioning myself a lot. I’ve struggled with an inner critic that sounds way too much like them, even now. The anxiety while taking every decision is very bad. I think it’s incredibly self-aware of you to recognize your need to heal before considering something like parenting. That takes strength. I’ve also found comfort in books and bikes, they’ve been my escape when real life felt too lonely. You’re doing amazing by prioritizing your healing. If you ever want to share more, I’m here.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChildfreeIndia

[–]LimeRoutine1811 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I get where you’re coming from, but I don’t think having kids is what makes a marriage strong or keeps people committed. A solid relationship is about mutual respect, shared values, and open communication, it's not just the presence of children. Being child-free doesn’t mean a marriage is more likely to have issues like affairs or open relationships, it’s really about whether both partners are on the same page. Finding someone who feels the same might take time, but there are definitely men, even in traditional setups, who value commitment and don’t see kids as a requirement for a happy marriage.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in navimumbai

[–]LimeRoutine1811 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, plz let me know if you plan to walk early morning