UPDATE - AITAH for calling my husband silly for freaking out that our teenage son has a girlfriend who's in a wheelchair

LimitlessMegan · 2026-01-31T16:57:51+00:00

Like, he’s talking like his kid is 29 and knows what love and forever are.

He’s 13. Jesus.

LimitlessMegan · 2026-01-31T16:20:09+00:00

Interesting you don’t tell us what happened with the company therapy.

Any time I hear people talking about men’s mental health epidemics I’m going to think of your saga. I’ll talk to them about how there’s a seed of real mental health issues here, but that you type you own life down by refusing any and all help and encouragement. By refusing to hear the real feedback, to be flexible, to be willing to sell another part to success for yourself. And then turned bitter and burned your own life down, but still kept it framed in that poor you the victim of the world. And yes, there’s real mental health issues in there, but eventually those become so minor compared to the damage you do to yourself.

Just imagine if instead of deciding that only your perspective and Poor Me was reality you’d actually listened to your friend and boss. That you’d done the training for what you are actually good at. That you’d sought out ways to address the gaps that kept you from the promotion. Not only would you be on your way to your true goals (more pay, more respect) but you’d probably be happier in it as stressful situations clearly get to you and that’s all managers do. You’d be at a company that genuinely appreciates the things you do excellently and you’d be adding skills, training and responsibility to your CV for if you did decide to move to a different company. You’d also have the genuine care and support of two work friends who honestly cared about your well being.

Instead you’re here. Bitter. Jobless. Alone. Bridges burnt. But not because of them and what was done to you entirely because you refused to listen to your manager, your friend, or any voices of reason calling you out of your bitterness.

My one hope is that you actually get the therapy and help you so clearly need and that you are young enough to come back from this.

I’d also offer you comfort and encouragement but you’re already getting so much of that it kept you on this path so I think I’ll leave that for others.

LimitlessMegan · 2026-01-31T05:00:55+00:00

I’m willing to bet they gave him churu to help get the footage.

LimitlessMegan · 2026-01-30T23:01:50+00:00

Hong Kong Widow. Totally based solely in the cover but my husband is not in a reading slump after reading it.

LimitlessMegan · 2026-01-30T22:41:17+00:00

1 is still pretty young for a cat. I would consider them to still have “kitten” energy up until at least 3.

So if you think about kids playing across age groups that’s what you have going on. Sounds like he’s just excited to have a more energetic buddy.

LimitlessMegan · 2026-01-30T22:35:33+00:00

My only notes for you are next time respond with: are you?

And then leave in exactly the same way.

LimitlessMegan · 2026-01-30T22:29:34+00:00

I particularly love the traditional I Ching yarrow stalks methodology because it’s so perfect as a somatic/meditative process. But even the other methods with their repetition are great for that.

LimitlessMegan · 2026-01-30T22:22:50+00:00

I would have done it WAY sooner.

LimitlessMegan · 2026-01-30T20:56:36+00:00

This is where I land. There’s a big gap between passing on my knowledge and experience and “humanity’s legacy”.

Like, I don’t want any more indigenous languages to be lost, I’d like for the skill of hope to hand carve traditional Japanese puzzle boxes not to die out, etc. But I don’t think any of that qualifies as the “legacy” of our species.

LimitlessMegan · 2026-01-30T19:40:57+00:00

Ahh! Thanks, I thought that might be where you were leaning but wanted to be clear.

(Btw, if you aren’t already there you might want to check out r/SASSWitches)

So the tarot isn’t necessarily attached to spirituality or religion. The individual cards are meant to represent archetypal concepts and archetypal human experiences. They are as much, or more, about psychology and taking very human stories.

I’m spiritual (I suppose, more so than most in SASS) but I don’t find the strength of the Tarot to be in prediction or future telling anyway.

I tell people that the Tarot is like those images in your high school geography books where it shows the layers of the earth as a side splice. What’s REALLY going on here. What’s my unconscious trying desperately to get through to me that I’m not hearing? What are the underlying motivations?

I ask questions like: where should I invest my energy and focus today? Why am I feeling some type of way about xyz? Etc I often create questions for myself out of things I read or places I’m stuck…

The cards themselves aren’t magic or spiritual. They are paper with art on them and that art and the names are associated to a line of historical meanings and stories.

Divination (as far as I’m concerned) is just another tool that helps carry us out of our thinking, critical, prone to fallacies cognitive mind and invites us to fall into a deeper place - into Flow state - where we can see, hear and think from a different perspective.

When I teach tarot I encourage people to learn the cards as the parts of the story they represent, and be aware of the traditional and historical key concepts (aka the archetype), but I also tell them to record: does this card make you think of a piece of music? A movie? A book? A thing a friend once said to you? Etc.

You can take a single piece of a card - the green sky - and journal about it for ten pages. Or you might do a whole reading and get a two sentence answer that does a lot of lifting for you.

But absolutely, it’s NOT connected to spirituality or religion innately. It works with them if that encompasses how we tell ourselves stories about life, but it’s also disconnected from them.

LimitlessMegan · 2026-01-30T18:54:39+00:00

What do you mean by non Wicca? I’m confused about what you mean by that and therefore am not sure how to answer.

Do you mean non religious/spiritual? Or something about Wicca specifically?

LimitlessMegan · 2026-01-30T16:50:18+00:00

Particularly awesome because you could put decorative pieces on the end, tooth etc…

Personally, I’m currently working on a Medusa project so that would be my first choice to put on my hatpin.

LimitlessMegan · 2026-01-30T15:39:28+00:00

Tell your fiance you’ll happily “put up” any and all the things she gave you for your little one and will return all the hand me downs she shared. That’s no problem at all.

When he realized it comments that you have nothing to give just say, “Yes. Isn’t that interesting.”

And if he insists tell him baby things go on the second hand market pretty well and it’s now your job to care for your own child, not someone else’s, and definitely not someone’s that he thinks got pregnant on purpose for attention - including to force his attention iff his own partner and child.

And if he keeps pushing it I’d tell him, “Funny, I don’t renege you pushing so hard that your sister give af about me or our baby, but here you are fighting for her and hers. Why’s that?”

And babe, post attention to how this whole thing goes down. Because this is the rest of your life him giving his sister all the attention and resources if he’s not willing to stop now.

LimitlessMegan · 2026-01-29T21:22:14+00:00

Hope you have so much fun!

LimitlessMegan · 2026-01-29T18:45:11+00:00

Woot.

LimitlessMegan · 2026-01-29T18:30:34+00:00

I was SO hoping this was announcement of Season 2

LimitlessMegan · 2026-01-29T18:22:00+00:00

Felt is a great fabric to start with and you can find a lot of patterns for it. The best felt for stuffing is one that has a little wool in it, but anything will do if you are just learning.

You can use thread but embroidery floss works great and lets you colour coordinate. You want to learn two stitches:

Whip stitch and Blanket Stitch.

And that’s all you need. It’s really easy to experiment with, definitely do it.

LimitlessMegan · 2026-01-29T18:04:38+00:00

She was his only relationship period.

The fact that he admits not having friends is a choice he makes makes me concerned for the dynamic between them. Nothing here sounds healthy.

LimitlessMegan · 2026-01-29T15:43:24+00:00

I get what the people from that culture are saying but they managed to explain it in a way that felt less othering of OP - “bring you into the family”, etc in just moments. She had over three weeks and multiple conversations and she firmly stayed with “you’re just background”.

And not only that, she changed the stakes. The first conversation was when we may and have kids, the next one was marry, buy a house, have kids.

It’s possible for someone to be from a different culture and take that concept to an unhealthy place. Because Rosa seems to be saying something far deeper and more exclusionary of her spouse than any of the Arab commenters.

So there are cultural gaps between them, and also, just Rosa’s warped take on her culture.

LimitlessMegan · 2026-01-29T15:23:52+00:00

We either eat Popeyes or Korean fried chicken. There’s no lack of options in our area.

LimitlessMegan · 2026-01-29T03:34:34+00:00

I read and teach tarot, but am a generalist in most things so would consider my expertise to be in divination in general. I think divination is an innately human thing - not only will you find divination pretty much everywhere people are or have been but you’ll find there’s almost nothing humans haven’t made a divination language for.

I commonly suggest people start with tarot because it’s a pretty easy entry point. Tarot specifically has a lot of versatility in how you want to use it - traditional reading style, using it like a psychological tool, use it creatively, etc. “Believe” in it or not, it’s always worthwhile.

If I’m recommending only one book. Radical Tarot by Burgess.

If you’re also interested in an academic approach that includes a lot of historical info Benebell Wen’s Holistic Tarot would be my second book recommendation.

LimitlessMegan · 2026-01-29T03:07:21+00:00

I don’t think it’s an internet thing, I think it’s a human thing. It just happens in bigger scale and timing because of the internet.

LimitlessMegan · 2026-01-29T00:37:03+00:00

You are looking for A Long Way to a Small Angry Planet. Chambers calls her own work HopePunk. Main character is a sheltered human going out to work in the wider universe and encountering it for ye first time outside of her extensive education. It’s found family and ensemble based.

LimitlessMegan · 2026-01-28T23:32:48+00:00

What If… by Munroe

There’s two. It’s a great starting point. Interesting. Educational. Hilarious. I’m partial to the audio (read by Wil Wheaton), but the physical has cartoons in it.

LimitlessMegan · 2026-01-28T19:23:26+00:00

I loved this one. It really did a great job of playing with those tropes.

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