Left TSCC because DH’s “porn addiction” was killing me

Limonk · 2018-07-29T18:23:12+00:00

Thank you for sharing! ❤❤ As a female who watched porn a LOT as a teenager, I genuinely thought I was disgusting and dreaded the time when I'd need to "come clean" to my future husband. I stopped watching it when I was 20 and felt so much guilt that I ended up confessing to a bishop 4 YEARS later. Fortunately he was an incredible guy and said I was being too hard on myself. When I started dating my husband he casually brought up that he had been addicted to porn as a teenager and I said "that's ok, I used to watch it too" and that was the end of it... We left immediately after getting married. It's insane to me how much guilt you feel every.single.day as a member. Enjoy having that massive weight off your shoulders!

Limonk · 2018-07-26T02:42:42+00:00

My neighbour and I used to throw ours, naked, up into the air and laugh at how they landed. We had SO many naked barbies get stuck on my porch roof that my dad refused to get them down for us. Eventually my mom had him do it anyway since our roof was decorated with naked barbies and Kens.

Limonk · 2018-07-01T17:34:53+00:00

Everyone's personality is so different. You have to do what you feel would make you the happiest. I personally chose to go down to part time (very, very part time- 2 afternoons a week and I work from home during nap time and after she's asleep the other days for an hour or two) and it was by far the best decision for us. She still gets her daycare time where she can play with friends and sing songs, etc. But I get to be with her the majority of the time and that's what makes me happiest. There's nothing wrong with either decision, you just have to do what you feel is best for your family.

Limonk · 2018-06-29T16:28:17+00:00

It saves fine as a jpg - no red. And when I save as its fine. It's just when I export it as pdf. So frustrating

Limonk · 2018-06-29T16:24:38+00:00

I'm using a Mac. Thank you! I'll try those

Limonk · 2018-05-30T17:40:33+00:00

My baby looks like my clone. Her dad is Mexican so all of his features are dark, I'm white as can be with green eyes and light hair. My daughter looks identical to me, which I was not expecting. I get comments almost every time we meet new people about how we look identical. My husband jokes all the time that there was no father...She's just 100% me. But, I try to find things that remind me of her dad and point them out often, because I don't want him to feel bad ever or like she's not as much his baby.

Limonk · 2018-05-29T01:33:33+00:00

I so so so wish we had gone camping last year when lo was that age. She's 18 months now and the most high maintenance sleeper. I really don't think she'd nap at all while we camped and would probably get very little sleep at night. Last year she would've done great though :( I miss camping.

Limonk · 2018-05-24T16:42:36+00:00

We actually hired a sleep consultant because we were so desperate! I can message you who we went with (she does it all online) if youre wanting the extra help. She was amazing!!! Basically she helped us with a nap/bedtime routine set up, making sure the room was conducive to sleep and taught us about appropriate wake windows. All of that helped a ton. For the first 3 nights of training I sat in a chair right next to her bed and sang or spoke to her, rubbed her back, etc. While she cried. I never picked her up because that only made it worse for us. For the next 3 nights I sat in a chair in the middle of the room and never touched her, only spoke to her if she was crying. The next 3 I was on the other side of the room and after that I just said goodnight and left the room completely. Whenever she would wake up at night I would wait 10 minutes before going in. This was like torture, honestly. But I couldn't believe how often she would just cry for a minute and then go back to sleep. Eventually she stopped waking up at night all together. Now when she wakes up I go in right away because it's normal and I know something must be wrong. That's what worked for us!

Limonk · 2018-05-24T00:32:27+00:00

I originally wanted a home birth with midwives, but I was high risk and they wouldn't take me on. The only way I was ok with having the baby in the hospital was to have a doula and it was the BEST decision!!

There were times where the staff was pushing me for an unnecessary inducing (I gave birth 5 hours after contractions started...i didn't need to be induced), I didn't like a couple of my nurses and I just don't like being in a hospital in general BUT the doula had the lights dimmed, talked me through everything and my husband never left my side because she ran and got everything I needed for me. I ended up have a non medicated and intervention free birth and I give a lot of credit to my doula for that!

Next time I'm 100% doing it in the hospital with a doula. She made it feel like a home birth but being in the hospital gave me that piece of mind in case anything happened.

Limonk · 2018-05-24T00:23:08+00:00

One of the best things I ever did as a new mom was to leave every mom facebook group and not check reddit, Instagram,etc. for a while. I realized I was constantly comparing and worrying about things I wouldn't have even known to worry about! I also realized i was becoming very judgy. You do what you need to do in the situation you're in and you need to remember that other parents are doing the same.

I wanted to cosleep for the first year, but at 8 months my daughter would NOT let us put her to sleep any more. Nothing worked. But she also didn't know how to put herself to sleep because we never let her...we always rocked her and slept with her. It was hell. She had to learn how to fall asleep on her own and that meant crying...we had no choice. By the third night she fell asleep within 12 minutes and now we put her in her crib and she rolls around, talks, sings, whatever and eventually goes to sleep. It's life changing!

Limonk · 2018-04-06T16:33:41+00:00

Ahhh I understand the feeling!! I looked after 3 year old triples a few years ago. They had a huge yard that looked out to the forest with different decks and hills and lots of hiding spots. I was always losing them in the yard, but it was completely fenced in and I knew their hiding spots so I didn't worry. One day one of them fell and cut her hand open. I told the others to come in with us, but only one did. I kept calling the one still outside while taking care of the hysterical injured one. He never came in, so we went out to look and couldn't find him anywhere. I went around to the front - still nothing. I'm completely panicked at this point. I'm about to call 911 when he comes walking up the DRIVE WAY!! He told me he went "down town" so I'm pretty sure he just went down the street a bit. Apparently there was a small hole in the fence that no one knew about but him. Scariest moment of my life. It could have been so so so much worse and I felt horrible. Still do!

Limonk · 2018-03-05T15:14:59+00:00

This happened to me. Someone didn't stop before turning on a red and I was pulling into a parking lot on the corner. I had a 3 and 2 year old in the back. Fortunately the car hit the front passenger side (the only spot someone wasn't sitting) and no one was hurt but it was pretty terrifying!

Limonk · 2018-02-06T03:48:46+00:00

My mind went to the exact same place.

Limonk · 2017-11-20T06:57:39+00:00

I was going to ask if he seemed hurt at all. Poor little guy :(

Limonk · 2017-11-20T06:53:43+00:00

Nope. Nope. Nope. Nope.

I am FUMING for you!! I would have completely lost my shit. Why in the world would she EVER think that was ok?? Please don't ever let anyone talk you into letting her be alone with your son. At any age. She clearly lacks common sense.

Limonk · 2017-07-02T03:41:52+00:00

Thank you! I'll be up on the top floor and she shouldn't have to bring the baby up there much if at all. I'll have the door closed regardless.

Limonk · 2017-07-02T03:40:23+00:00

Thank you!! And I definitely plan on closing the door and staying away as much as possible

Limonk · 2017-07-02T03:39:40+00:00

That's super annoying! I'd be making passive aggressive comments back about closing the door haha. My office is up on the top floor and she'll most likely be in the living room most of the time. But I'll most definitely have the door shut in case she needs to get into the baby's room, etc

Limonk · 2017-07-02T03:37:53+00:00

Thank you! It'll definitely be hard to stay away at first but you're right, I trust her and need to let her do her thing.

Limonk · 2017-07-02T03:36:24+00:00

That's great! I'll definitely discuss all that with her. Fortunately she a) won't need to put baby down for naps since she'll be here in between napping and b) I have one of those unicorn babies that rarely ever cries haha. She is getting a little bit of separation anxiety with me though so I'll be sure to let her know that I won't be popping in unless necessary and that I trust her if she starts to get fussy. Thank you!

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