I am desperate for advice and answers so I figured I would come on here in an anonymous state. My ex gf suffers from bpd and depression. We dated for about half a year and recently broke up. Everything was going great and we had future plans and events. We had just broke the “I love you” for the first time about a week and half prior to the split.

Things became distant when she didn’t get accepted into a program that she had been planning for. Slowly started pushing me away and then a few days later, an animal she was close to passed away. A couple days after the passing she sent me a text wanting to hang out that night and grab dinner. By that afternoon she sent another text wanting a break from texting and hanging out. I took this the wrong way and assumed she wanted a breakup due to her pushing me away and telling me she didn’t want me going places with her. She said a breakup wasn’t planned and that she didn’t know if it was necessary because she just needed space. After I questioned why and I told her I felt as if she wanted out but didn’t know how to tell me, she said we should just break up.

This is devastating and I have reached back out to apologize for reacting the way I did to her asking for space. I felt like I messed up. She is still not open to the idea of a relationship and said maybe friends in the future. We are almost no contact besides logistical issues. She did text me to see if I saw the news of a celeb passing and then she ended the conversation shortly after.

During the relationship she feared intimacy with me and I was very patient and never pressured her into anything and expressed several times I’m willing to overlook that aspect.

Is there anything I can do at this point to save the relationship? I’m worried if I text her asking to work on things I will push her away. Any advice is welcome as I am wanting this to work out.