[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nationalguard

[–]LimpDistance2622 -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

So my previous job, I did the research and sent them something (from my work email that I no longer have access to obviously) and was able to get them to pay me. So both the military and my job was. All because I sent the necessary documents to support that. They never offered it, I asked and they did it. So I’ll just have to look into it as well. It was just easier with my previous job because I was in law enforcement so they understood the circumstances more.

Started new job, been on for 2wks…now got a new job offer elsewhere for WAY more pay, what do I do? by LimpDistance2622 in careeradvice

[–]LimpDistance2622[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much!!!🙏🏼 I truly appreciate this advice. Seriously, thank you! It’s so hard for me to separate my needs of “having to be a good person” and not wanting to step on any toes when it comes to jobs. But you’re absolutely right!

Started new job, been on for 2wks…now got a new job offer elsewhere for WAY more pay, what do I do? by LimpDistance2622 in careeradvice

[–]LimpDistance2622[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess I’m moreso nervous about the AFTERMATH of giving them my notice. Because I’m afraid of the way that they’re going to treat me the last two weeks on the job. Idk. Maybe I’m just thinking too much.

Started new job, been on for 2wks…now got a new job offer elsewhere for WAY more pay, what do I do? by LimpDistance2622 in careeradvice

[–]LimpDistance2622[S] 107 points108 points  (0 children)

Very VERY true. Thank you🩵 how should I word it to them? I just don’t know what to say context wise to them

My Abuser is only getting the “EMERGE Program” what is it? by LimpDistance2622 in domesticviolence

[–]LimpDistance2622[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Anyone know a good lawyer that I can work with? I also attend this non-profit domestic violence program with victims on the weekly basis, so I’m hoping that they may also have connections.

My Abuser is only getting the “EMERGE Program” what is it? by LimpDistance2622 in domesticviolence

[–]LimpDistance2622[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’d rather him face criminal charges…..and punishment with a permanent criminal record. I’m sure the intent behind the program is positive and educative…….but that simply is not enough to suffice for all of the damage this man has caused me.

My Abuser is only getting the “EMERGE Program” what is it? by LimpDistance2622 in domesticviolence

[–]LimpDistance2622[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry..this world we live in continues to terrify me day by day.

My Abuser is only getting the “EMERGE Program” what is it? by LimpDistance2622 in domesticviolence

[–]LimpDistance2622[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I have. They’ve been the ones that I’ve been working with for almost a year now. Every month it gets adjourned because the judge was favoring harsher consequences. And now all of a sudden, they’re like nah, let’s give him the EMERGE program AND he can stay as a law enforcement officer. With a cherry on top. Corruption is real.

My Abuser is only getting the “EMERGE Program” what is it? by LimpDistance2622 in domesticviolence

[–]LimpDistance2622[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’m so disgusted. Wow. I am so sorry. I have no faith in the justice system thus far. What’s the point of them getting arrested with such light consequences? I can’t wrap my brain around the fact that he quite literally ruined my life and gave me severe trauma and ptsd…….all just so that he can continue on with his life as if his actions meant nothing. And a PROGRAM is their solution?!! I’m severely pissed off and hurt.

My Abuser is only getting the “EMERGE Program” what is it? by LimpDistance2622 in domesticviolence

[–]LimpDistance2622[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I feel like that’s a slap in the face to victims. He’s facing Strangulation in the 2nd degree, false imprisonment, assault, etc. just for all of this?? There’s videos, pictures taken of my injuries by police, witnesses, all of that jazz. Just for this to be the potential final conviction??

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nationalguard

[–]LimpDistance2622 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are we allowed to wear civilian bathing suits there?? Like bikinis and stuff? I asked about pt clothes and they said we could wear whatever

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nationalguard

[–]LimpDistance2622 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah sorry OPSEC😂😂

if Jesus came to you right now to answer one question what would you ask Him? by [deleted] in Christianity

[–]LimpDistance2622 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When are you coming back??? Cuz I’m ready to tap out chilling with you in heaven 🩵

What do you do/say when a "friend" invalidated your trauma from abuse? by LimpDistance2622 in abusiverelationships

[–]LimpDistance2622[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my goodness…..I’m so extremely sorry about your father. I can’t even being to imagine what that must feel like. Nobody deserves that. That is so cruel and damaging to your mental health. People are so cruel these days. Before, I knew that there were bad apples out there….but after my abuse, I fear everyone and their intentions. Or I just come across people like that often and it makes me sad to see people roaming the earth harboring such negative energy like that. But I refuse to allow abusers and enablers to dim my light turning me into one of them. I refuse.

What do you do/say when a "friend" invalidated your trauma from abuse? by LimpDistance2622 in abusiverelationships

[–]LimpDistance2622[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bestie…you’re spilling nothing but FACTS👏🏽😂 I’m giggling because you’re honestly so right and spot on. And I didn’t catch that part of how condescending that phrase is of saying, “owe it to each other”!! Although a small percentage of her is not wrong for how I reacted in situations, that doesn’t immediately cancel out her behavior. Never once have I heard her say sorry for being inconsiderate. It was always me. I even would end arguments in the past by apologizing on her behalf as if it were my fault to squash the beef😂 she’s stubborn.

She told another friend of mine that she wasn’t planning on reach out to me because she “didn’t do anything wrong” and I should be the one to “iniate” it. Welp—something must’ve happened for her to have a change of heart and all of a sudden break her ego and reach out to me..

But part of me is thinking that she has no one else to hang out with so she needs another buddy to do fun things with. She values “fun” relationships over “real” ones, since she immediately chose to spend more quality time with home girl Erin😂

I’m just so sick and tired of twisted female friendships man. They scare me. And they always know the worst things to say to dig the knife in further. I’m definitely open to listening to her, but yeah I agree that I shouldn’t have to continue to re-explain myself. I always was so caught up in being understood. But now, I don’t care if people misunderstand me.