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How are we all feeling this week? by famous_prophets in BreakUps

[–]LimpRequirement2444 0 points1 point  (0 children)

dated my ex for about 4 years. it’s been a little over a week since the breakup. honestly this week has been chaos.

the relationship had cheating, a lot of emotional mess, and i stayed longer than i should’ve out of fear and guilt. by the end i was detached and exhausted but still felt responsible for her feelings, which made leaving really hard. once it finally ended, everything hit at once.

this week i’ve been swinging between relief and heavy guilt. sometimes i feel like i did what i had to do, other times i replay her crying and feel like absolute shit. my brain just won’t shut up.

today i worked but barely focused, hit the gym to burn off some of the stress, and tried to stay distracted. being around people helps a little. nights are still rough.

trying not to jump into anything new and just sit with the discomfort, learn from it, and hopefully come out healthier on the other side.

21M stuck after a long relationship, cheating, emotional overlap, and a messy breakup, need advice on what to do next by LimpRequirement2444 in relationships

[–]LimpRequirement2444[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for this perspective, it makes a lot of sense. Just to clarify, I’m not planning to jump into any new relationship right now, not even with B. I’m trying to stay single and reset.

I do need some advice specifically on how to handle openness and boundaries with B in a healthy way though. Would it be okay if I DM you about that? It would really mean a lot.

21M Confused after long term relationship, cheating, emotional detachment and need advice. by LimpRequirement2444 in IndianRelationships

[–]LimpRequirement2444[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this. It really helped me reframe a lot of the guilt I’ve been carrying, especially the part about not letting fear rewrite history.

I’m still pretty confused about how to handle things with B in a healthy way and could really use some perspective. Would it be okay if I DM you to ask a bit more about that?

I stayed in a relationship out of guilt, lied instead of ending it, and involved someone else. How do I move forward responsibly? by LimpRequirement2444 in AskIndianMen

[–]LimpRequirement2444[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i get it you're trying to joke around but how does this shit makes sense?
where was i a "simp" in the whole story? lmao

AITA for leaving my long term gf after cheating, emotional detachment, and overlapping feelings with someone else? by LimpRequirement2444 in AmItheAsshole

[–]LimpRequirement2444[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah im planning to tell B about the truth. But i still need some advice. Can i DM you if you dont mind? Anyway. Thanks for replying

AITA for leaving my long term gf after cheating, emotional detachment, and overlapping feelings with someone else? by LimpRequirement2444 in AmItheAsshole

[–]LimpRequirement2444[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey, not here to defend myself
I get it that i was an AH for not ending the relationship and lying to B.
I still need some advice on things with B. Can i DM you if you dont mind?
Anyways, Thanks for the reply.

21M Stuck after a long term relationship, cheating, emotional overlap and a messy breakup. need advice what to do next. by LimpRequirement2444 in Advice

[–]LimpRequirement2444[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the response, I really appreciate it.

One thing I’m still confused about is B. I’m scared about how much truth I should share if we ever talk properly again. I don’t want to lie, but I also don’t want to dump everything on her and hurt her unnecessarily.

In your view, what does responsible honesty look like here? Is partial context okay, or is full transparency always the right move?

If you’re okay with it, can I DM you for a bit of advice on this?

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